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I don't trust anyone. What do I have to do to begin trusting others?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2020 at 10:33pm
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lovelyEnergy714
December 29th, 2020 10:33pm
I often have found that the ability to trust has to do with trust being broken or abused by someone in your past. It could have been family or friends from when you were much younger. I think a good start would be to look at what your relationship to trust has been and why these issues are in place. The next step would be to work on them, a therapist is a great way to do that. If that's not an option journaling, talking with someone like on Seven Cups are good options to get this aired out. Another thing to consider is if you find that you're a trustworthy person. If trust isn't a big deal to you, you may be projecting that it isn't s value in other people. Good luck, there are good, trustworthy people out there.
YourNewLife
March 19th, 2018 4:38pm
Who did you wrong? Somebody has hurt you in the past. Once you can forgive the people/person that has caused this trust issue in the first place you will feel liberated to give people another chance! Trust also must be earned in many cases, but the greatest gift you can give is an open mind! If somebody had just met you, you would certainly like the chance for them to get to know your perspective. Give and you shall receive!
Anonymous
January 1st, 2019 9:30am
Perhaps trusting yourself as a possible first step. Like being present with your emotions and thoughts and being able to take a step back from them. The tendency is to get wrapped up in them and become them. When you're able to breathe deeply and detach yourself from the mental and emotional treadmill then you can relax in to your own presence. When that happens, then hopefully you can relax with others. You'll start noticing their mental and emotional treadmills too. Then now it's a balancing act of not getting caught up in their stories and reacting unconsciously to them.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2019 12:17am
This is a hard question and It's different for everyone, but I believe you have to trust yourself first before you can trust anyone else. That can be hard because we tend to be very scared to go with our gut. However, it's worth it. When we learn to trust ourselves, we begin to become more confident in ourselves which is what's very good about trusting yourself. Once you start trusting yourself, you can start trusting other a lost more easily because you already know how to trust someone from trusting yourself. However, trusting others can still be hard sometimes because we don't know whether we should believe them or not.