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How do you handle feelings of grief when someone you love has a terminal illness and requires your support?

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Last Updated: 09/24/2018 at 6:28am
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Anonymous
January 31st, 2017 2:15am
You have to stay strong for them, be their home, where they can feel save. Remind and show them that you'll be there for them, it may be hard, but just have hope. That things will pass and get better. Don't feel grief, feel strong because you are helping someone who needs it. But if you feel this way, speak it with someone. But not the hurt person. You have to stay strong in their eyes. But there's always people around you trying to listen to you and help you. Always. Either physically or here, 7cups. You can stay strong. You can do thi. I believe in you
Anonymous
October 30th, 2017 3:54pm
When some you really hold dear gets ill the feeling of grief is incredibly painful. It's like having your heart broken when you hear such a news. At first, you will be in shock then as reality kicks in all you can do is hope for the best and support them. For me throwing in lame and may I repeat incredibly lame jokes helps. :)
empathicEars43
January 29th, 2018 3:58pm
I think it is important to allow oneself to feel what one is feeling. Journaling is important. I often talk to myself as if I were a very caring and kind friend and am able to give myself the love and compassion I need. Its important to care for oneself during this time. If your cup is empty it becomes SO difficult to care for others and not get burn out. So make sure to care for yourself in whatever way you may need. I like to ask myself 'How can I be kind to myself or the other person right now?'
Anonymous
September 24th, 2018 6:28am
We know it is all coming to an end... But the one we love has days to go.. Sometimes bad, sometimes lovely, smiley....happy ones. Sometimes meddlesome (have you tried having 10 nurses in your living room just because they wanted to 'help'...but are there simply to study. Tsk. You CAN say no) Sometimes medical (days are marked by Hospital visits) Cry if you need to. Say Goodbye. Tell him how much you love him....and appreciate all that he has done... And how much him being your Life, makes life awesome.. Maybe he would refuse those kinda chatter...maybe he feels he is going to survive. Perhaps so... But do know...Life is 50% his contribution, and half you. So if you need to say goodbye...just say it.