How will I be able to get through the funeral of my loved one?
Last Updated: 06/18/2019 at 3:51pm
Lauren Abasheva, LMHC
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Just let it all out. Cry, get angry, talk to family members, friends, etc.. It will be difficult, grief is never easy, loss is never easy, but it is absolutely survivable. Having other people around you who are also grieving at the funeral will provide support and you will feel much better darling :)
By remembering the day is a celebration of their life and a chance for everyone who loved that person to say goodbye.
You're strong and braver than you've ever thought of or known. It will be hard; you will miss them, you will cry, you might even break down countless times but you'll get up again; stronger than ever before. Go along with the flow of life until you feel it's okay.
Funerals are hard. Just realize that all people grieve differently, and don't try to force yourself to act the way you think you're "supposed to." That only makes it harder. Embrace your feelings, and realize others there care just like you do.
I was able to get through the funeral of my loved one by not looking at the funeral as something sad. I looked at the funeral as a homecoming celebration. I also invited family and friends to wear other colors besides black to the occasion.
Funerals aren't things to "get through." If you feel like crying, cry. That's ok. If you can't, and you want distractions, go talk to other people about the weather or whatever. That's ok. I think it's good, if you can, to look at the body, and say goodbye. It hurts, but it's a healing thing to go through in my experience. The point of funerals is everyone grieving together. You aren't alone. If you're attending the funeral of someone you didn't know as well, support the people who were closest. Hug them. Let them talk about the deceased person if they want to- don't be shy of that. If you were really close to the deceased person, let others support you. Or, if you don't feel up to people, it's ok to go hide somewhere. Don't bury your feelings, or try to force yourself to be or feel a certain way.
The way I get through funerals is try to remember the happy times of those that I love. Lots and lots of breathing also helps. Afterwards you might want to look into support groups if needed and talking here on 7cups.
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