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I've lost two loved pets in less than two months, the most recent was about a week ago. I can't stop crying and hearing them in my house. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 11/16/2020 at 12:55am
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lucy2
May 5th, 2015 6:21pm
I feel for you, I really do. The pain seems unbearable at the moment and you are grieving in the same way we do for humans, It's no different. You loved them very much and only time will heal. In the meantime, talk to anyone who understands bereavement, talking about your pets is a comfort and will help to heal. You are in my thoughts. Lucy2
Anonymous
January 12th, 2015 1:32am
I'm very sorry to hear that. I know how you feel. I have three pets, and one of them died long ago but sometimes it still hurts. Memories are still there. The way I learned to deal with it is to just remind myself they are ok. Even though my pet is no longer with me, she is fine. Crying is normal during these stages.
endearingLion70
April 16th, 2018 8:21pm
It is hard to lose a pet and it takes time to heal. You should remember that you gave them a good home and a good life.
kindheartedPudding17
April 1st, 2015 10:57pm
For many people the loss of a pet and one's grief go unrecognized as does the loss that friends feel outside of someones immediate family. None the less it is still a loss that one needs to grieve the grieving process is similar and should be recognized. If the grief continues and becomes complicated a professional should be sought out to discuss this with such as a grief counselor.
AutumnSky
May 15th, 2015 3:08pm
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved pets (and family members). You are grieving, and all grief takes time. There is no set schedule for grief. What you might do is get out of the house and get some fresh air. Take some time to visit with other people, and take some time to properly cry. It's okay to cry. Take care.
PoliteOcean
August 31st, 2015 8:39pm
Losing a pet is a very difficult situation to go through and deal with. To most people having a beloved pet is like a member a their own family. When you lose that pet, its like dealing with the loss of a family member that you can not get back and cannot be replaced. Nobody can determine how long one's grief will last after losing a pet. And sometimes you just got to cry and let out those feelings. The loss and the heartbreak will take time to deal with. However if you feel that the loss or the grief that you are feeling is interfering with your daily life or quality of life, then you might consider seeking a counselor or a therapist that can help you deal with the loss and deal with your feelings and emotions. Also know that while nobody can replace the loss of the pet you had, there are so many animals out there who need to be loved and cared for just the same. Sometimes even considering getting another one can help fill the void and the loss and help you move forward in your grief process. Good luck to whoever experiences this situation.
silverCandy73
September 14th, 2015 2:09pm
Death is part of the human being. Like when you lost a loved person, it's perfectly normal to cry over a death of two loved pets (in that short time too, I feel it). Don't push yourself more, you have to pass by but remembering those two souls will always be with you. Try to spend time with your friends and your family first.
autumnbeaute
November 16th, 2020 12:55am
First, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your two loved pets. It’s difficult to lose one and twice as difficult when you lose two so close together. The joy and companionship that loved pets can bring to us can be immeasurable, and the grief we feel is often felt in proportion to the unconditional love they brought into our lives. So, know that what you are feeling/experiencing is normal and it can take a while to regain your new normal without them. I sat a small battery powered votive candle next to my laptop and used it as a small memorial which brought me some comfort. I also talked to friends about it and did small acts of kindness in my pets honor for others. It took a long time for the crying to stop but it did slow down and then the time in between crying and feeling better became longer. Eventually the pain subsided and the love and good memories remain. I think of my pet and still love her and remember her fondly to this day. I am hopeful that one day you will feel the same. Be extra kind to yourself as you work through this grief. And remember that you always have listeners here at 7cups you can reach out to talk with wherever you need someone. Take care.❤️