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What does it mean when you're blaming yourself for someone else's death?

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Last Updated: 06/13/2016 at 3:36pm
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Lianne Kirby, MA in Counselling Psychology


I believe everyone should have the opportunity for their voice to be heard. I use a trauma informed, person centred approach in counselling.

Top Rated Answers
February 17th, 2016 7:25am
It is natural for feeling guilty, but we must remember no man have ever break the cycle of birth n death before... All we need is the time:)
February 4th, 2015 5:47pm
It means that you are trying to stay in control of the situation by implying that you were responsible or had an impact. It is a try of coping with feeling powerless and it stops you from accepting and finding a helpful connection to your feelings to overcome the event.
April 7th, 2015 11:44pm
That you are a normal human being! Everyone I know who has lost someone has had feelings of guilt and responsibility regardless of whether they had anything to do with it or not, including myself! I had to remind myself that I don't have that power - that some things are out of my control and this is one of them. I also try to use that feeling to remind myself not to have regrets in my present relationships. It is a really hard feeling to handle, but my experience is that it doesn't last forever, and if I can wait and focus on other things (like things I enjoyed about the relationship, or even things I will really miss) it helps me get through time until the feeling begins to ease on its own.
June 8th, 2015 2:53pm
you feel responsible and guilty because you weren't there to save them but threes nothing u could do
September 18th, 2015 5:55am
It can mean you are going through a really rough time. And perhaps you may need to talk to a trusted loved one or a trained counselor or therapist to help you deal with those emotions.
June 13th, 2016 3:36pm
Sounds like you're in a lot of pain over your loss, I'm so sorry. Tell me about this person and how you are connected to them.