Am I an asexual? I lack sexual attraction but not sexual drive.

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Anonymous
February 4th, 2015 10:21pm
Asexuality is defined as the lack of sexual attraction. So yes, you could identify as an asexual even if you still experience sex drive. Someone once told me behavior is not orientation, so whether or not you have sex, enjoy sex, masturbate or are repulse by the idea of sex does not change the orientation you identify with. If you feel comfortable with identifying as an asexual then go for it! Many asexuals are sex positive and might have sex drives of any level (from super high to almost non-existent). Personally, I describe it as “having a compass with no north” since you might experience a desire for sex, get arouse, etc. but they don’t “point’ to anyone in particular or to any gender in particular.
neverendingstoryteller
June 7th, 2015 6:16pm
According to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, asexual refers to "somebody who does not experience sexual attraction" however it is up to you to decide whether or not asexual applies to you! The asexual identity encompasses a wide range of 'grey-a' identities, as there is no one way to be asexual! AVEN is a great resource for people who questioning whether they are asexual, as well as providing information to family, friends, and significant others of people who identify as asexual.
Nicobaka
April 12th, 2015 3:14pm
Yes, the only thing that defines an asexual is their lack of sexual attraction towards anyone. Plenty of asexual have a sex drive, and partake in sexual acts and enjoy them, they're just not attracted sexually to any person.
therandomhyperone
April 18th, 2015 8:18pm
well I think so, I am asexual and don't experience either but asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction but that may not necessarily mean lack of sexual drive as well. and its your sexuality its whatever you want it to be
OliverC
May 27th, 2015 6:20pm
Yep! That is exactly the definition of asexual. There are plenty of ace (short for asexual) people you can connect with, and websites like AVEN where you can read about others' experiences. Asexuality is also a spectrum, and you may find that there's an even more specific label that you jive with.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2015 6:45pm
asexuality is just the lack of sexual attraction. Sexual drive is a bodily function and does not make you less asexual.
mysteriousWillow50
April 5th, 2015 11:57pm
Asexuality has to do with a lack of attraction of a sexual nature. And there's nothing wrong with that or anything in the gender identity and/or sexuality spectrum
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 11:09pm
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. Some asexuals still experience low sex drive and/or think about sex but have no desire to act on those feelings. Gray-asexuals usually fit into this category.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 6:02pm
No. My understanding is that someone who is asexual lacks both sexual attraction and sexual drive that cannot be satisfied by masturbation.
Mia1
July 4th, 2016 1:45pm
You are the master of you. You know you better than anyone! So, I cannot tell you if you are asexual or not. Here's a link to a 7 cups forum on asexuality, that may assist you in figuring this out. http://www.7cups.com/forum/GetSupport_28/LGBTQMembers_60/AAWRelationshipsandAsexuality_6872/
Millichidulinas
July 12th, 2016 10:55am
You could be demisexual. A demisexual person is a person that feel sexual attaction only if the other person is well known. You could be asexual as well, it depends on you. No body can tell you if you're asexual or not. You're the only one that can understand it.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2016 4:22pm
Asexuality is typically defined as the lack of sexual attraction. Some asexuals do have a sex drive but they just have no desire to act on that with someone.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 7:04am
It sounds like you may be aromantic. However, don't label yourself unless you're confident in Yourself
SnoOnTheBluff
October 24th, 2016 2:07pm
You could be! Lacking the attraction but not the drive does not take you off the spectrum. I myself am an asexual who prefers to give than receive.
Amperive
July 3rd, 2017 7:43am
Asexuals are not sexually attracted to someone while aromatics lack romantic attraction to someone. Of course, it differs from person to person and I would recommend not trying to find a label that suits you but rather researching further on the topic.
snugglyDonkey
November 28th, 2017 5:18am
It depends on each person. You are the only person who can determine who you are. Take your time and figure yourself out.
Aayla
August 6th, 2019 3:00am
Sexual drive can also be taken care of by ourselves, without involving other people: there are many asexuals who do this, and they are still asexual based on the fact that they don't experience sexual attraction.