Can gay people have stable romantic relationships?

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Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 8:24pm
Absolutely! Relationships are about the connection between two individuals. It's important to remember that queer folks are people, the same as everyone else. We face obstacles our heterosexual friends never will (such as being told we shouldn't exist, being the victim of hate crimes, and being denied the right to marry or being told our existence is a sin) and that can make maintaining our relationships difficult. (It's hard to have a relationship when we're too scared to admit our identities, isn't it?) Yet that can make them so much more worthwhile when we pull through.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2015 1:39pm
Yes. Sexual and romantic orientation of any person doesn't affect their ability to form any kind of stable relationship.
gradientaesthetic
June 17th, 2015 4:22pm
Yes, studies have shown gay couples have a lower divorce rate. It has also been demonstrated that gay couples have less conflict and higher happiness rates on their relationships.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 1:49am
Of course, gay people can and do have stable romantic relationships just like any othes regardless of sexual orientation.
Lior
March 14th, 2015 9:28am
Of course they can. Homo-romantic people are just the same as hetero-romantic people in the matter of keeping a stable relationship. It's just a different romantic attraction. I personally know a few gay couples who know celebrate a year (or more) together.
Randy1
April 4th, 2015 3:52pm
Sure they can. There's no evidence to suggest they cannot. Gay people, just like straight people, have both stable and unstable relationships. It has less do with sexuality and more to do with personality.
mrmodonnell93
November 23rd, 2015 7:40pm
to use my own experience, I've been in a stable relationship for 2 years. This is because we both care for one another, and want one another. We live in different towns, but manage to see each other regularly. just following from everyone else. if you truly want your partner, then you will always be faithful to them,
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 10:38pm
Anybody can have a stable romantic relationship regardless of sexual preferences. As long as both people are open and honest and try to make the relationship work then it'll last. Some people just aren't compatible though which can lead to breakups but that could happen with any relationship, not necessarily gay relationships.
amiableAmy
June 17th, 2015 6:44am
Of course they can - there is nothing inherent to being gay that prevents you from forming lasting bonds with a partner in the same way hetero couples can. It's all about the stability & compatibility about the two (or more if you're poly) people involved in the relationship. Being gay it may feel like there are fewer prospective partners out there so it can be more challenging to find a person that is a good fit for you, but it is certainly not impossible.
ViataEVerde
June 23rd, 2015 11:57am
Of course they can. Relationships aren't about the body, relationships are the connection of two souls. And gay people are still normal-functioning people, like everyone else. There are straight people that can't mantain relationships, there are gay people that can't. But their sexual prefference doesn't affect their faithfulness/devotement in relationships.
TheThomas
June 29th, 2015 2:03pm
Of course! Whoever said they can't deserves to be shot. Homosexuals are just like heterosexuals. THERE IS NOTHING DIFFERENT! Not a thing.
AshleyElle
May 21st, 2015 5:18pm
I am gay and I am in a stable, romantic relationship. There are some heterosexual relationships that aren't stable. If both people are dedicated and they want to make it last, it will.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 8:53pm
It depends on the individual rather than sexuality. If Billy dislikes committing to long term relationships, he probably won't have a "stable" romantic relationship whether he is gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Whereas if Lucy is only interested in long term relationships, she is probably able to have a "stable" relationship whether she is gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual.
JinkzKitty
June 9th, 2015 10:08pm
If people can have hetero relationships that are stable, then people can have homo relationships that are stable. A stable relationship isn't based on the sexual orientation of those involved, it's about the people within it and how they come together and work together to be loving and stable.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2015 6:21am
Yes, from what I have seen it is very much possible for them to have real, stable romantic relationships. It is as possible as it is for straight people to have one.
eleanor0610
November 16th, 2015 6:28pm
Yes of course! Homosexual relationships can have the same dynamic as any other type of relationship. If both/all people are willing to put the same amount of work into the relationship, you trust and love each other and the timing is right - you have what it takes to be very happy!
Emmastylinson21
November 18th, 2015 3:39pm
Yes! People of all sexual orientations can have great loving relationships, just like a straight couple.
Euphoria17
November 22nd, 2015 1:44pm
Just like anybody else gay people can have stable romantic relationships. They are not different from other people. They are just like any other couples they can have their ups and downs, they can fight, they can have sex, they can be romantic, they do what everyone else does just with a different category of people if we must label.
lysasmiley
November 24th, 2015 5:18am
Yes! Gay relationships can be just as supportive, loving and stable as a straight relationship! It doesn't matter where the couple lies in the spectrum! c:
ChangeWillCome
November 24th, 2015 4:29pm
Yes, gay people can have stable romantic relationships, because people of any sexual orientation, be it heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or any there sexual identity are capable of healthy relationships.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 10:29pm
Yes, of course. Stability is based on personality and experience not gender/sexuality. Sexuality/ gender identity is only one part of a person.
pluviophilelove
December 22nd, 2015 5:35pm
Of course! Your sexuality doesn't have anything to do with having stable or unstable relationships. What makes a relationship stable or unstable, is the people in the relationship, not the sexuality or gender.
daisdais
December 27th, 2015 2:01am
Yes, gay peoples relationships are as stable as straight peoples. Theres not reason it would be different.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 3:44am
Of course gay people can have a stable romantic relationship. They are people and people choose to have a stable relationship, romantic or otherwise.
musicalForest17
February 8th, 2016 7:30pm
Absolutely! Gay people can have strictly romantic relationships for a number of reasons, and they're all valid!
Mark5
March 7th, 2016 9:25pm
Yes. Anyone, of any sexual identity, can have a stable romantic relationship. Your sexuality does not determine whether or not you can have a stable romantic relationship.
cvga
March 7th, 2016 10:49pm
yes, being gay or straight has nothing to do with your ability to love or care for someone or how well you can connect with other people
Atlas33
April 18th, 2016 12:30am
LGBT+ relationships have the potential to as stable and supportive as heterosexual relationships. I personally have shared a wonderful life with my partner for over two years now and we are incredibly happy. I think the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy relationship is simply the willingness to support each other; this is especially true if one party is vulnerable or experiencing difficulty.
freshLove97
June 13th, 2016 3:53pm
Of course they can. Gay relationships are just like straight relationships. Love is the same no matter who loves who.
KayyRose
July 4th, 2016 3:35pm
Of course! As long as they are a compatible couple, they are more than capable. Think of them as equal to a straight couple.