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Can gay people have stable romantic relationships?

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wolfen22
December 24th, 2015 8:24pm
Absolutely! Relationships are about the connection between two individuals. It's important to remember that queer folks are people, the same as everyone else. We face obstacles our heterosexual friends never will (such as being told we shouldn't exist, being the victim of hate crimes, and being denied the right to marry or being told our existence is a sin) and that can make maintaining our relationships difficult. (It's hard to have a relationship when we're too scared to admit our identities, isn't it?) Yet that can make them so much more worthwhile when we pull through.
gradientaesthetic
June 17th, 2015 4:22pm
Yes, studies have shown gay couples have a lower divorce rate. It has also been demonstrated that gay couples have less conflict and higher happiness rates on their relationships.
mrmodonnell93
November 23rd, 2015 7:40pm
to use my own experience, I've been in a stable relationship for 2 years. This is because we both care for one another, and want one another. We live in different towns, but manage to see each other regularly. just following from everyone else. if you truly want your partner, then you will always be faithful to them,
Anonymous
February 12th, 2015 1:39pm
Yes. Sexual and romantic orientation of any person doesn't affect their ability to form any kind of stable relationship.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 1:49am
Of course, gay people can and do have stable romantic relationships just like any othes regardless of sexual orientation.
Lior
March 14th, 2015 9:28am
Of course they can. Homo-romantic people are just the same as hetero-romantic people in the matter of keeping a stable relationship. It's just a different romantic attraction. I personally know a few gay couples who know celebrate a year (or more) together.
Randy1
April 4th, 2015 3:52pm
Sure they can. There's no evidence to suggest they cannot. Gay people, just like straight people, have both stable and unstable relationships. It has less do with sexuality and more to do with personality.
amiableAmy
June 17th, 2015 6:44am
Of course they can - there is nothing inherent to being gay that prevents you from forming lasting bonds with a partner in the same way hetero couples can. It's all about the stability & compatibility about the two (or more if you're poly) people involved in the relationship. Being gay it may feel like there are fewer prospective partners out there so it can be more challenging to find a person that is a good fit for you, but it is certainly not impossible.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 10:38pm
Anybody can have a stable romantic relationship regardless of sexual preferences. As long as both people are open and honest and try to make the relationship work then it'll last. Some people just aren't compatible though which can lead to breakups but that could happen with any relationship, not necessarily gay relationships.
ViataEVerde
June 23rd, 2015 11:57am
Of course they can. Relationships aren't about the body, relationships are the connection of two souls. And gay people are still normal-functioning people, like everyone else. There are straight people that can't mantain relationships, there are gay people that can't. But their sexual prefference doesn't affect their faithfulness/devotement in relationships.
TheThomas
June 29th, 2015 2:03pm
Of course! Whoever said they can't deserves to be shot. Homosexuals are just like heterosexuals. THERE IS NOTHING DIFFERENT! Not a thing.
YellowHouse213
October 11th, 2016 3:05am
Absolutely! Relationships are built on trust and regardless of what kind of relationship you are in there is the ability to have a stable relationship.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 9:13pm
Yes they definetely can ! A sexual preference doesn't define the nature or stability of a relationship !
Blynng
May 28th, 2019 6:16pm
Absolutely. Gay people are emotional beings just like any other person, and are perfectly capable of developing healthy and supportive relationships. Sexual orientation rarely impacts a person's ability to develop connections and attachments to others. It's more important that a person have emotional intelligence, respect and desire to share with another person. People can have difficulties with attachment, regardless of their sexual orientation. If you find yourself having difficulties, or have had a relationship with someone who seems unstable, it's very important to look outside of sexual attraction and interest for the reasons why a person might struggle in this regard.
SerenaRosieTime97
March 7th, 2017 3:21am
Of course! Gay romantic relationships are the same as any romantic relationships. They can be stable, they can be chaotic, they can be full of love, just as they can be full of hate. It depends on the people and the situations, of course, but gay relationships can be very fulfilling and loving.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2017 1:38pm
Speaking from my own experience- 100% we can. I am in a wonderful relationship with my partner and just like heterosexual relationships it still runs on trusting one another, communication and lots of love. There is no reason we should be stereotyped otherwise. A suggestion is if you are ever questioning someone or a practice just because it is inherently different I'd simply try it out or ask someone. If you are experiencing love for fear of being labelled don't let that stop you, there is an amazing community of lgbtq+ identified people out there who are waiting to show you lots of love. :)
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2017 4:54am
Why not? They are normal people with different preferences. The possibility of having or not having a stable relationship in gay people is the same as that in the traight people.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2017 5:42am
Well of course. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't have a romantic relationship. It has nothing to do with how your relationship will turn out, that's all up to you and your partner.
Maxwallride
July 24th, 2017 12:39am
Yes! Of course they can :D They have stable romantic relationships all the time in fact millions of them are in stable romantic relationships at this very second. A relationship between two gay people is similar to a relationship between two straight people with the only difference being that in a homosexual relationship, both people are the same gender, and in a heterosexual relationship, both people are the opposite gender. Still, people who are in a relationship, gay or straight, do similar things. They love each other, get married, start a family, procreate, support one another, file joint tax returns, raise children, go on dates, do romantic things...etc. Now if you want the proof behind this: Research has shown that gay people can have equally as stable relationships as straight people, or they can have more stable relationships than straight people. Here are two articles written about it: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/disturbed/201311/gay-relationships-can-be-more-stable-straight-ones https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_Couple_Longevity_Forthcoming_JMF.pdf
spiritsound
July 19th, 2016 6:08pm
Gay relationships are just the same as straight relationships, just with the same gender :) Homosexual relationships can be just as romantic and stable like heterosexual couples, just like heterosexual couples can be unstable too
Anonymous
July 24th, 2017 11:43am
Of course! I'm a lesbian, I was in a very stable, healthy relationship for a good ten months (which seems not long, but it's long for people my age, and it would've lasted longer, but something happened). But, of course, gay people can be in stable relationships.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2017 10:24pm
Yes, definitely. Just as straight people can have stable romantic relationships, so can people in same-sex relationships
Jerimy
September 29th, 2017 11:57pm
Absolutely! I'm bi and have been in a stable, committed same-sex relationship for six years now. We're both very happy and committed to each other's growth and well-being. We have three dogs and two cats in a modest townhome. Never give up hope!
Elliott13
October 10th, 2017 10:35pm
Yes! I was raised by two lesbian mothers who have been together for more than 17 years, and I'm deeply connected with a community of people who also have LGBTQ+ parents and caregivers. I'm also queer, and I've been in my current relationship for more than two years. Gay and queer people have happy, healthy, stable relationships just like our straight counterparts.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2017 10:27pm
Yes! As long as they understand that communication and friendship is the key, they can have very stable and great relationships!
FromDrewWithLove
February 26th, 2018 5:20am
Of course! Just like straight people can have stable romantic relationships, gay people can do the same. Sometimes it feels like they can't, since some just go with the first cute gay person that likes them back (since sometimes it feels that they won't get that chance again). But it's not that different from straight people! So yes, gay people can have stable romantic relationships, just like anyone else.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2018 3:30pm
Yes, gay people can have stable romantic relationships. You may have many of the same relationship challenges as straight people have, but it is possible to foster stable romantic relationships.
gentleLily
June 12th, 2018 12:01am
Gay people absolutely can have stable romantic relationships, just as much as heterosexual or bisexual people can.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
August 20th, 2018 9:51am
Of course they can! Anyone can have stable romantic relationship, no matter what is the gender of the people involved. You may have heard people saying that gays are promiscous, that they only think about sex and they don't care about stability and love. But that's a just a huge prejudice! There are actually many homosexual couples that have a stable and loving relationship. Some of them got married and grew old together, just like any hetero couple. Yes, some gay people may just want to have sex without romanticism involved in some phase of their life, but that's something that happen to straight people too. Just like anyone else, homosexuals can dream and eventually find the love of their life!
Oli4545
September 10th, 2018 3:58pm
As much as straight people can have stable romantic relationships. The ability of somebody to have a stable romantic relationship isn't defined by their sexual orientation but by who they are as a person. It can be influenced by different behaviors or personnality traits. Pop culture usually portray the LGBT community in a certain way, where LGBT members experience numerous love affairs and can be seen as unstable when it comes to relationships. It is important to remember that it is just a slight part of the community that is showed and novelised by media. Everybody handle their love life differently, in a personal way. Just like two straight people can deal with their relationships differently and make different choices when it comes to love, sex or romance.