Can I be attracted to a gender but not in a sexual way? Like I want to be with them but not have sex with them?

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Greatlistener87
March 21st, 2016 3:55am
Yes that is possible. Maybe you just like that persons energy or their personality draws you to them. Just be clear to that person that you only enjoy their company and nothing else. To make sure there are no complications.
CecilyV
May 23rd, 2016 4:28pm
Yes, sexual affection can differentiate from romantic and platonic affection, this can vary from person to person and even in such case, gender to gender.
AmandaAbroad
September 13th, 2016 10:58am
This is often seen referred to as a "romantic orientation", i.e. homoromantic, heteroromantic, panromantic, aromantic. It can align with a person's sexuality, but it can also be a separate category. For example, a person can be biromantic, but hetero- or homosexual.
laufey
November 14th, 2016 3:50am
Of course. This can either be more of a domestic attraction or could mean you are somewhere on the asexual spectrum.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2016 10:07am
Absolutely! Romantic and Sexual attraction are two independent things, and they're mix-and-match too! Find whatever makes you comfortable and go with that, there's no wrong answer!
Anonymous
December 13th, 2016 6:52am
Yes! You can be romantically attracted to someone without being sexually attracted to them. Romantic and sexual attraction are distinctly different.
avocadoallyson
February 7th, 2017 7:57pm
Yes! You do not have to be sexually attracted to anyone if you don't want to be. You can still have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with someone without ever desiring sex.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2017 9:36am
Yes! This is totally okay. Take for example you are attracted to people of the same gender, but not sexually, this would be classified as "homoromantic". You can take any sexuality and switch the -sexual to -romantic and it is still completely valid.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2017 7:18am
Yes! This kind of attraction is purely romantic attraction and there are labels in the lgbtq+ community for purely romantic types of attraction! Biromantic, panromantic, etc! It's completely normal!
spences
January 16th, 2018 12:05am
Yes, of course! There are a lot of people who don't feel the need to label themselves, as sexuality is very often a fluid concept, and we shouldn't feel the need to tie ourselves down to one defining point.
organticPeace28
February 13th, 2018 2:17pm
Of course. Attraction can be romantic and platonic as well as sexual so you can feel any or none of them or any combination of these.
AmethystUnicorn
July 2nd, 2018 3:01am
Yes! You can most definitely have only romantic attraction, but not be sexually attracted to a gender.
Aayla
July 17th, 2018 9:14pm
Yes. Sexual orientation and romantic orientation don't always coincide: one may have romantic feelings for someone even without being attracted to them in a sexual way, or viceversa. A man that is sexually attracted to both men and women but only falls in love with women, for example, would identify as a heteroromantic bisexual. There can be many different combinations, and you can identify as hetero/homo/bi...romantic and hetero/homo/bi...sexual according to what you feel.