Can my sexual orientation change?

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Elliott13
January 19th, 2015 6:54pm
Absolutely! Sexual orientation can, and does, change. Feeling changes in your sexuality does not invalidate what ever you previously identified as, and it is very natural to have your sexual orientation evolve with time. Getting to know yourself is a long process, and humans evolve as they grow in a variety of ways. It is possible for your identity to develop rapidly, or slowly over time. It's important to give yourself room to grow and explore, and supportive friends and family will understand that you have every right to identify differently than you did a few years ago, or even a few months ago. In the same way that someone might change their aesthetic or fashion sends, you can expect to see some changes in your sexuality and sexual orientation as you grow. It can be scary to find that a label you were comfortable with no longer fits, but if you need someone to talk to, you can always reach out to me.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2015 1:57am
One of life's little known facts is that many peoples' orientation changes several times in their lives! In fact, it's pretty normal all things considered! Many things influence your orientation, and as you change as a person and come to appreciate different perspectives and values in your life, your orientation can change according to that, whether it's to include or exclude something, shift or change forms in other ways. Does that mean you weren't ever really X, Y or Z? No--you were and are what you were and are in those stages of your life, and having that shift doesn't devalue what you did and are currently identifying as. You can go through a number of different changes in short or long succession, and even revisit different orientations during different stages in your life according to what's going on and how you perceive the world.
Emily619
October 27th, 2015 11:36pm
Your sexual orientation can surely change! It is completely normal, do not worry or fear. Mine has almost switched at times, and many other people I know have had the same experience, so don't worry about it.
rose1novocaine
July 21st, 2015 11:12pm
It can't really "change" but sometimes the realization that you're sexually attracted to the same sex/other genders can feel like your sexuality has changed because you realize that you're not heterosexual,otherwise,there's sexual fluidity ,which is like gender fluidity but the only difference is that sexualfluidity is about sexual attraction ,it's where you some days feel like you're attracted to men,sometimes to women,sometimes to both ,sometimes to neither etc,it can change depending on the person,sometimes it switches by days,sometimes by weeks,sometimes by month,maybe even years but that's not very common,but if you're sexuality fluid,your sexual orientation doesn't "change" because sexualityfluidity is a sexual orientation of its own.
RizanarB
March 21st, 2016 1:48am
Your sexual orientation can change just as quick as 1 second or as slow as 100 years! But either way, it's okay.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 5:41am
No, you can't change who you are. you may discover more about yourself/your sexual orientation but you can't change it. You may find that it is different then what you originally thought it to be.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2015 12:00pm
Many people acknowledge the fact that sexual orientation is fluid. That means that a person who has lived their life only being attracted to girls MAY, at some point in their life, begin to like boys, too/ instead. You hear it all the time - people coming out as being a lesbian and marrying a man, a married, straight man suddenly being attracted to another gender. In my opinion, there's always a chance that your sexual orientation can change, and people should embrace it instead of fear it.
Noah88
March 31st, 2015 9:01pm
Sexual attraction is a part of general attraction, and what you find interesting may change as you develop yourself and grow as a person. This means that sometimes, your orientation may change a little and labels may become ill-fitting. If you find that it changes, there's nothing to worry about: your feelings were not a phase and they're not declared invalid because they changed, you're just in another period of your life right now and that's okay. If you find that it doesn't change, there's of course nothing to worry about either.
listeningandcaring
March 14th, 2015 6:32pm
Of course! Sexual orientation (has well as gender identity) is fluid, meaning it can change at any time and that is perfectly normal.
comfortableCand26
March 12th, 2018 11:58pm
There are a various range of sexualities out there, many people are unsure of their sexual orientation. It can change; it takes time to figure out who you are.
LilyFlowers
May 6th, 2015 3:26am
Sure it can, anything can change. Life is a process of self-discovery. I once thought I was straight, turns out I'm bi.
Fairy
August 25th, 2015 11:31am
Sexual orientations can certainly change many, many times. This may be just due to realisation or experimentation, but whatever it is- be comfortable be with yourself and don't be afraid to change orientation if you aren't comfortable. It can change drastically, too! One day my best friend was bisexual, now she's aromantic/asexual. It's completely normal - it just takes time to realise what you're into, especially in the teen years ^.^
BreezySunshine
June 7th, 2016 6:06pm
Of course! Sexuality is fluid, so don't feel pigeonholed into one specific orientation if you're not sure. Of course, some people may never change, and might always identify one way, and that's perfectly fine too.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 1:36am
Of course! We all are growing and changing every day and discovering new parts of ourselves, but if you tend to see yourself changing from liking girls, to boys very often you may be bisexual
TheUnusalInk
November 3rd, 2015 5:19pm
depending on the situation, the way you feel or if you are just plain unsure of course it can change
DonnieHarth
November 23rd, 2015 1:57am
Yes, it can! It can also very on different things. Example, a genderfluid person may feel attracted to mostly males, but when they feel more masculine, take a preference to female. This will happen a lot with people going through puberty, but can keep happening though a persons life.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 6:01am
Absolutely. You are entitled to your own opinion and sexual orientation. I have known several people who have changed their sexual orientation and are very proud of it. You are who you are, don't let anyone get you down for that!
sophtheloaf
November 13th, 2017 3:57am
of course it can! think of the label you use for your orientation like a sticky note- it might stay there forever, or you can take it off, or replace it with one of a different size, colour or shape. your label and understanding of your sexuality- and your sexuality itself- might change, but your heart never does.
PhoenixMozza
May 8th, 2015 12:51pm
Yes! Human sexuality is very fluid and can change as time progresses, or sometimes you may realize the label you were using to describe your sexual orientation was all wrong, and start identifying as something else. This is completely fine and normal, and doesn't invalidate either your previous or current orientation.
GivingstonTreegull
November 10th, 2015 4:53pm
Human sexuality is fluid and given the right circumstances people may find themselves interested in things they had never considered. Specifically if you are an open minded individual. But that doesn't mean that all people change their minds about their sexual preferences.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 6:36pm
Sexual orientation can definitely change along with sexual desires and feelings; they all change in some form!
Anonymous
September 27th, 2016 8:04am
Definitely, especially during times when you may still be trying to work out who truly are, and it will take time before you find an orientation label (or no label) that you are most comfortable with.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2017 4:42pm
Orientations and gender identities could be fluid, meaning that they can change over time. For example, you may be sure about being a homosexual but over the years, you may realise that you are a bisexual and vice-versa.
Greatlistener87
March 21st, 2016 4:29am
It can yes. Depending on which sexuality makes you comfortable and makes you feel right. Do research more on sexuality and know more about it before getting into any of it to be sure of what you are doing.
Anonymous
October 18th, 2016 10:10pm
Yes! For example, if someone is Bisexual, they may change to a Lesbian as they have gotten the wrong sexual orientation for the attraction they feel.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2016 2:40am
I find sexual orientation can change with one's awareness. In other words, with more experiences, one's sexual orientation can change as a reflection of the experiences.
GalacticElliot
December 20th, 2016 11:11pm
Sexual orientation can absolutely change. It can be confusing at times because you may not feel like you know who you are, but thats okay. It doesn't mean that you were faking your previous identity, it just means now you like something new!
rallygirl
July 3rd, 2017 11:17am
I believe that yes, it can change. As a person gets older, their experiences and relationships can influence what kinds of people they are attracted to, including genders.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2017 7:58pm
Yes, it can. Sexuality is a fluid thing; our feelings are always changing, and there's nothing wrong with that!
hgraff31
June 11th, 2018 9:43pm
Yes it can! It depends on what you’re orientation is. Sometimes you get exposed to new things and new feelings come up. You’ll be just fine!