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Can you still be asexual but want sex?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2019 at 2:41am
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speaktolors
May 16th, 2018 2:16pm
I believe the definition of asexual is someone without sexual feelings - so in short, I don't think you can be asexual and want to have sex. You can be aromantic - a person who has little or no romantic feelings, but not asexual. However, I'm not an expert, and you can decide whatever boundaries you please. I think we all try and define the way we feel about sex too often. Maybe you just like fantasizing about doing it, maybe you don't think about it at all. Maybe you will lose interest in sex as you get older, maybe you will decide one day you want to have sex. It's all normal, and it's all equally okay. Hope this helps :)
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
August 6th, 2019 2:41am
Asexual people don't experience sexual attraction at all and they're not interested in having sex, so it wouldn't be possible for asexuals to want sex. It's however possible to refuse to have sex while still desiring it for many other reasons.
Tagtraeumer
November 28th, 2018 4:41pm
Asexuality usually means that you do not have the desire to have sex. However, asexuality is a spectrum. There are people who identify as demisexual, which means, they only feel sexual attraction when they have a very close connection to someone. Being asexual doesn't mean you can't have sex. While there are many asexuals who refuse sex completely, there are others who are comfortable with having sex because for them it's a form of deep connection with their partner. But while asexuals don't have the desire to have sex in real life, some people may have sexual fantasies, but they have no wish for this fantasy to become reality. To summarize: In general, asexual persons have no interest in having sex.