Do you have to come out to everyone?

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Do you have to come out to everyone?
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iammyown
September 21st, 2015 5:36pm
Not at all! The only person who needs to know who you are is you! Come out to people who you are comfortable around, and for the rest, who cares? They don't need to know!
AnAlpacaNamedDiana
February 25th, 2015 6:56pm
You don't. It is well within your right to come out to whoever you want, especially if you live in a country where LGTBA people are heavily discriminated agaisnt. All reasons are valid for not coming out, from "I'm afraid I'll get beaten up" to "I just don't feel like telling them". You're not and shouldn't be forced to disclose any information about yourself. Besides, it's their fault for assuming you're not LGTBA in the first place :)
MonaMarie
October 26th, 2015 10:45pm
I don't believe that you have to come out to everyone. Coming out should be your personal choice and if you choose not to tell somebody, that is your choice. I like to personally come out to everyone because I am very comfortable with it and I feel like people should no who I really am.
RedVase1234
June 4th, 2018 6:07am
I think that can be a personal choice. Choosing to come out to your professional colleagues or your personal social circle depends on the individual. You can choose to be as open or as private about your life as you are comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2015 11:01am
No, you do not have to come out to everyone. In fact, you don't need to come out to anyone. If you so not ready, it might not be the right time for you to come out. Coming out is not easy and it is really terrifying at first. Once you start telling people, it will get easier. You can't come out to everyone in one day. You will be coming out for the rest of your life to new people. If you don't trust someone or you feel that the person you want to tell will put you in any danger for coming out, maybe it is best not to tell that person.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2015 4:14pm
You don't have to come out to anyone you don't want to. You only have to come out to people you're comfortable with knowing and you want to know.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 1:04am
Not everyone, only if you want to. If you feel like you want to come out to everyone then do! Only if you feel safe in your area however. But there's nothing wrong with not telling everyone, keeping it to family and friends is perfectly fine!
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 11:55pm
No, you don't You're gender and sexuality is your own business. Once you're able to accept yourself and come out to those closest to you, nothing else really matters.
Talulah22
April 19th, 2015 12:16pm
No, you don't! You only have to come out when you want it, and not everyone has to know your sexual orientation.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 11:33pm
No not if you don't feel like it. Take your time and do it how you want it to. Its only you who can make that decion
IvyRainGabriel
April 26th, 2015 2:07am
No, Of course not! Come out to the people you want to come out to. Come out only when you're ready. Come out at your own pace. Do whatever is comfortable for you ^.^ you are very brave for considering coming out!
GoldenDragonEyes60
April 29th, 2015 3:17pm
"Coming out" to anyone is your own personal choice. You absolutely don't have to reveal everything about yourself to anyone that you happen to come across. Choose the people you're comfortable with and choose what you're comfortable sharing. You're life is your own, make it truly yours.
Mac21
May 3rd, 2015 2:13pm
You only have to come out to people you're comfortable with when you feel like you're ready to do it. There is no pressure, go at your own pace.
Aprildays2432
May 7th, 2015 9:26pm
Coming out to whoever you want to totally up to you. You should never let any pressure for you to or not to come out. Once you decide what your sexuality is, then the next step is figuring out who you want to come out to. If you are scared to tell everybody and would rather just tell the people you trust, thats fine!
Bossuet
May 30th, 2015 5:01am
You never have to come out if you don't want to. It's a personal choice and it's entirely up to you who to come out to and when.
Briana98
May 31st, 2015 8:54pm
Nope! It's not really necessary to tell anyone, really. You can only tell people you deem worthy of knowing, if that's how you'd like to do it. I've only told my closest friends. No family, co-workers, bosses, etc. Coming out is a constant and tiring thing to do, anyway.
Nadine
August 13th, 2015 3:55pm
No, you don't have to come out to everyone. Coming out (or not) is your choice and you can decide to tell everyone or nobody or just a few people. The life is yours and you must not feel like you owe people an explanation for who you decide to love or who and how you decide to be.
calmingwaves12
August 17th, 2015 1:44pm
You never need to tell everyone of what your sexuality and/or gender is. It's best to tell the amount of people you are comfortable with, you are not obligated in any way to have to tell everyone including your parents.
AnimeNerdRae
October 28th, 2015 12:10am
No, it is completely your choice when you come out, and who you come out to. You can do it whenever you feel comfortable to, just take your time.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 2:58pm
No, of course not! Coming out is a personal choice, and it's totally up to you whether to come out or not. The most important thing is to make sure you feel comfortable and safe, and if coming out will make you feel better, go for it, but if it doesn't, you have zero obligation.
bountifulMemory59
November 9th, 2015 2:15pm
No you do it to who you feel comfortable telling....in time that may result in more people knowing Its never something you should feel you have to do or feel pressured into doing I think for most people when they are in a committed relationship they do end up coming out as they want people to know they are in love
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 4:37am
No it's not necessary to come out to everyone. Tell who you trust, it's not everyone's business to know who you love. Their opinion of you shouldn't change because of you're sexuality.
gracefulSunshine62
November 27th, 2015 7:33pm
You definitely don't have to come out to everyone. Its a personal decision and if you don't want to, are not comfortable, or if its not safe those are all valid reasons to not come out to everyone. Coming out can be a great thing for me it helps me live more genuinely as the person I am and share that truth with those I care about. But there are still people in my life that I am not out to. That is my personal decision and it should be respected.
HelpfulHands01
December 7th, 2015 2:57pm
I don't think you HAVE to. I mean, I did to my friends and my grandmother but never anyone else.
WereInThisTogether
December 14th, 2015 3:21am
Of course you don't. You don't have to do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. Your sexuality is your business, and the people you share that with is up to you.
gentleDreamer72
December 29th, 2015 3:04pm
No, not at all. It's completely up to you who to come out to or not come out to. I would suggest only coming out to people you feel comfortable with and know will be accepting of your sexual orientation, at least to start with.
Emily90
February 2nd, 2016 10:11am
I believe that is something you decide. You don't 'have' to do anything. And it doesn't have to be as 'official' for everyone. For example, telling your parents may be quite important, while colleagues finding out about your sexuality may just 'happen', for example if you mention having e.g. a boyfriend/girlfriend when you're at work :) Personally I think that if you don't want to come out to someone, you don't have to. I do think coming out to people can be sort of a 'relief', to have people who also know that part of you, so you have people to talk to. Ultimately, it's your life and your decision :) Hope this is helpful!
HawaiianAir
July 11th, 2016 4:10pm
No - you don't have to justify your sexuality to everyone. It's none of their business. Do straight people have to come out as straight? Just go on living your life. Tell the people in your life who you feel need to know, or who you think you need to tell, and then go on living as you should. : ) Coming out to everyone is unnecessary. Nowadays a lot of people do it on social media, but it's totally up to you. Do whatever you are comfortable doing. Ultimately, it doesn't matter. Be yourself! Best of luck, I know this time is challenging.
Probius
July 12th, 2016 5:05pm
No, you don't have to come out to everyone. Only you get to choose who you come out to, how you come out to that person, when you come out to that person, and where you come out to that person.
AustenE
July 13th, 2016 12:08am
Of course not, you live your life the way you want to live it. You're in control of your life, and when it comes down to it you will have to support yourself, and be your own rock. Don't let your happiness depend on someone else love. xx