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How can I come out as a pansexual?

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Last Updated: 11/03/2020 at 9:51pm
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November 9th, 2017 11:56pm
When coming out as any sexuality or gender identity, I think the most important thing is personal comfort. In many cases, it will be impossible to be completely comfortable if for no other reason than nerves, but there are ways you can make it a bit easier on yourself. I can't tell you exactly how to come out because I'm not in your position, but I can offer a few questions you can ask yourself to help guide the way. 1. Who do you feel like you need/want to come out to? Would it be easier and make more sense to come out to these people in as large of groups as possible or do you need to do it one on one or in small groups of only a few people? Who do you want to hear the information directly from you and who do you not mind learning through the grapevine? 2. What setting would you be most comfortable coming out in? A public place? A private room? A familiar location? Somewhere beautiful and relaxing? In person? On the phone? Via email or social media? 3. Will you need support? Is there anyone in your life that already knows that can come with you for moral support? Would you feel more or less comfortable if they came along? I hope that helps. I'm sure there are more things you could consider, but I'm hoping this gives you a jumping off point, at least.
February 25th, 2019 4:32pm
Coming out can be really scary - especially when you have no idea how others will react. First I encourage you to not feel any pressure to come out. Your sexuality is deeply personal, and while you may want to feel open and proud about your sexuality, it is so important to make sure you will be safe first. Test the waters - ask questions about how they feel about different sexualities. Make sure they will be supportive of who you are. You don't have to come out to anyone! Please don't feel an obligation to come out to people who will not accept you - in that case, they don't deserve to know. Coming out can be an incredibly freeing and amazing experience, but please make sure you are sure and safe! Best of luck to you!
September 19th, 2019 9:26pm
Well, I’m a pansexual too, and I will say kudos to you for figuring out who you are. It’s not an easy thing to do. It’s important not to overwhelm yourself. You can tell some people, a lot of people, or only one. Just make sure that they are people you can trust. There is often bias among the LGBTQ+ community towards pansexuals, some of which I have experienced. You may be asked what the difference is from bisexual is. You don’t have to respond, but if the question comes from someone you love and trust, simply tell them, “Hearts, not parts.” That means you love someone no matter what gender or gender identity they are.
July 23rd, 2018 10:35pm
Coming out is a big step, congratulations for taking that step. The most important thing is that you have to be patient with people you come out to, if people are very liberal you won't need to explain about your sexual orientation, however not everyone is so lucky. My suggestion is start small, find one good friend that you know could support you and from there start slowly.
December 4th, 2018 6:32am
Maybe start with coming out to a person you trust, or other members of the LGBT+ community (if those are readily available). The reason I suggest that is because it can be less pressure upon you if you're coming out to people who have similar experiences, or with people who already know and love you for your personality, and not your sexuality. It can be hard coming out to people like your parents or siblings because they have a big impact on your life - and I don't blame you for that. But eventually, I think that coming out of the closet can be a healthy, happy experience that bolsters your confidence and gives you pride in your sexual identity.
January 20th, 2020 6:23am
I, too, am a Pansexual person. To be a Pansexual is being attracted to the personality of the other person. People who have this kind of sexual identity don't actually have any gender preferences. They don't care what your gender is as long as they get attracted with the beauty and uniqueness of one's personality or attitude. Having this kind of sexual identity is beautiful since you are not focused on the physical appearance of the person but the mental and spiritual characteristics that the specific person possesses. So, the best way to come out of the pansexual closet is trying to understand why some of us freely choose such new and improved closets in the first place.
November 3rd, 2020 9:51pm
You've probably heard a thousand times that every coming out story is different, and though this is true, there are ways you can make sure you are understood and safe while doing so. First of all, I would suggest you identify who is most susceptible to react positively and be supportive, and who isn't. Make peace with the fact that it might go wrong in some situations, please make sure you do not risk anything major, especially if you are still a minor living with parents/tutors. Now that you have this figured out, I'd suggest you start coming out to people you feel close to and safe with. Make sure that you are explaining fully what it is, and most importantly what it means for you to be pansexual. You do not have to go into details if you don't want to, so set boundaries as well. If they are being too invasive, remind them that you would not ask them the same questions (especially if they're straight lol). Most of the time, when people are hesitant, it helps them if you remind them that who you are doesn't change ever so slightly!