How can I know if I'm bisexual if I had only one-gender experiences?

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Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+
May 20th, 2015 5:11pm
Because behavior is not orientation. Experiences only help you figure out if you like those experiences. If you have felt a pull, hunger, or allure toward specific people in which you wanted to partake in sexual activities with them, and those people were of two or more different genders, then bisexual may be a good a label. Polysexual and pansexual may also interest you. Orientation describes only which genders you feel attraction toward and, when it comes to the asexual spectrum, at what frequency / under which conditions. Your attitudes toward and experiences with sexual and/or romantic activities hold no sway over that. For example, someone can be repulsed by sex and never want to have sexual relations, but can still feel attraction toward others. They just may not want to act on that attraction. Another way to think of it is to ask: Does someone who is straight need to have experiences to confirm that they are straight? Odds are, they just know they're straight. So why can't someone just know they're bi? You know how you feel better than anyone else, and no matter what, those feelings are real and valid.
SarahG
March 25th, 2015 5:56am
Being bisexual doesn't have to reflect the experience you've had. It describes your potential to be attracted to different genders. If you feel you can be attracted to more then one gender, and bisexual feels right to you than you are bisexual and your sexuality is valid.
GriseldaHyrule
April 12th, 2015 9:05pm
Sexuality is a matter of opinion more than a matter of experiences. Being bisexual only means that you feel sexual attraction to two genders and so having experience with only one gender does not invalidate your sexuality in the slightest.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2015 9:33pm
i think that you know what sex you like when you find one of the sexs or both of the sex attractive in that way, once you have an experience you will now for sure but its common for teenagers to have phases or want to have experience with the same sex
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 9:39pm
Would you ask an inexperienced straight or gay person the same question? Sexual and romantical orientation isn't based on relationship or sexual experiences but sexual and romantical attraction - keyword here is ATTRACTION. It's not the exact same thing, esp. since I am not sexually attracted to animals, but try seeing it this way: I think both snakes (a reptilian species) and dogs (a mammal species) are pretty, but I've only ever petted dogs and not any reptiles, but does this mean I only think dogs are pretty because I have petted them and not snakes? No, absolutely not, I still think both are beautiful animals!
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 3:59pm
You will know if you are Bi because you will be sexual attracted to both males and females. you dont need to have experences with both to understand you feelings
Hellodarling
June 23rd, 2015 12:09am
Sexuality is something that can be very fluid. One of the ways Bisexuality is defined is attraction. If you are attracted to two or more genders, then you may be bisexual. It doesn't require having romantic or sexual experiences to confirm that. I'd encourage you to take some time and look up all the different sexualities, there are a lot out there. And sometimes sexual and romantic sexuality can be different. And remember, you can be as fluid as you need to be, and you don't have to label yourself a certain sexuality if that doesn't feel right to you.
Juncat
June 30th, 2015 3:00am
Try looking at it with a different perspective. For example, a heterosexual woman may believe she is 100% into men only, yet she's never been with a woman. So how could she know for sure that she /isn't/ bisexual? Try this with your friends! It's tricky to fully understand and explain, but there are some things that we just innately know about ourselves. Your emotions and feelings are real and valid. You can be bisexual and only ever be with one gender if that's just how things work out.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 2:53pm
If you've had sexual and/or romantic thoughts about more than one gender, there is a good chance you are bisexual :)
GoldenDragonEyes60
April 30th, 2015 3:23pm
I myself have this experience. To accept your sexuality you have to determine the attractions that you have to people. It's not wrong to consider anything and it's okay to explore your options. Just take the time to think your situation over and go from there.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2015 4:50pm
Do you feel the same way or more strongly about a certain gender? The definition of being bisexual is having the same romantic feelings for both genders. If you are still unsure maybe go on a date with the other gender opposite your previous experiences.
autumnfrost
September 7th, 2015 3:33am
If you feel romantic and/or sexual attractions to more than one gender, you can identify as bisexual. It's not necessary to have an experience, you can just know how you feel. Do straight people who've never had any experiences not know that they're straight? No. Therefore, you can know too!
PhoenixB
October 27th, 2015 6:23pm
Really, it's about how you feel. Do you get sexual vibes when a woman touches you? How about a man? If both are a yes, then you're bisexual. You don't need to necessarily have sex with both sexes before you know.
AlmightyGena
December 15th, 2015 5:41pm
You know you're bisexual if you naturally feel like you are attracted to women in a romantic way. I knew I was bisexual before I even dated a women because I used to feel like kissing/hugging women a lot more then I did when I saw a man
MrJayGray
July 25th, 2016 8:04am
How does anyone know their sexual orientation before they've had a sexual experience with another human being? Some people just know, while others have so many other emotional burdens to overcome before they can truly know if they are gay, straight or bi.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2016 4:38am
You can feel attracted to individuals without having experiences with them! It's very personal, but generally if you are bisexual you will feel attracted to individuals of both genders (although it may be in varying amounts).
alwayshere789
July 2nd, 2018 10:16am
You don't need to have had physical experience with both genders to know your bisexual. If you are attracted to the opposite gender in anyway or feel in your heart that you are bisexual, you most likely are.
dkotabarrios
April 4th, 2015 6:55pm
It depends on if you enjoyed it or not. You may still have to have some more experiences to really know, but for now you can base if off of how that one time made you feel.
positiveWhisper24 - Expert in LGBTQ+
June 7th, 2015 9:23pm
How do you know if you're straight before you've had any experience? Sexuality has to do with attraction also, not just experience. If you feel attraction to someone of the same sex, but you've only had experience with the opposite sex, or vice versa, you could be bisexual. The honest truth is, you are if you define yourself that way. Ulitmately it is up to you to define your sexuality, and if you think you are capable of being sexually or romantically attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual.
Oreo
July 20th, 2015 2:56pm
In the same way a homosexual teenager who has never had sex before knows that he is gay. You feel attraction even without having had sexual experiences.
shadowrose
September 7th, 2015 4:09pm
You can know if you're bisexual or whichever sexual orientation you are by observing your attraction to others. Observe your sexual, emotional, and physical attraction to others.
sumansam
September 15th, 2015 6:57am
Well, you cannot because you HAVE to be with both genders in order to know for sure. It's only an assumption until then.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 5:35am
if you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to both genders, you are bisexual irrespective of whether you have one gender experience
Anonymous
January 18th, 2016 1:18pm
In the same way a teenager can know their sexuality before any sexual experience, you are what you are, you know what you want :)
FlowerSong98
June 28th, 2016 5:49pm
It's very possible to be attracted to more than one gender with not a lot of experience with one, sometimes you might notice yourself fancying boys, and girls and in between or not at all! As for knowing for sure, that comes with a lot of self exploration, but take it at your own pace! Just take time to figure out what you like and be safe! :)
Anonymous
September 4th, 2017 11:33am
Having feelings or attraction towards both genders make you bisexual, even when you only have experience with one gender.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2018 4:23pm
It's really different for everyone. Nobody can give you a specific answer. You'll figure it out eventually, but it won't be something you want to rush to find out.
Allears247
June 12th, 2018 12:29pm
Your sexuality is not based on your sexual experiences. It is determined by your personal preference. For example, Im gay. If i decide to date a girl that doesn't change my sexuality. Im still gay. Im just in a straight relationship. If you are sexually attracted to both genders than you are bi. Despite whether you have experience with either sex or not. You sexuality is defined by your sexual interests, not what gender your having relations with.
Aayla
July 1st, 2019 12:50am
Your orientation is not defined by your experiences, but rather by the attraction you feel. If you also feel attracted by the gender you had no experience with, if you have a positive reaction imagining yourself with them, if your feelings and emotions tell you that you could be attracted by more than one gender, it's enough to identify your orientation. You may know that you're bisexual even if you have only one-gender experiences, because it's all about what you feel, not what you do.