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How can I support my friend who is gay?

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Last Updated: 08/23/2021 at 5:58pm
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Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 12:45am
The best way to support a friend who is gay or any other part of the LGBTQ+ community is to not make a massive deal out of it. This is just who they are, and they should be proud of themselves for it. So continue to stick by their side and treat them the exact same as if they were heterosexual or "straight".
FlickeringCandle
November 13th, 2014 1:53am
Just accept it, and accept them. Try to avoid asking too many questions, just remember it and help them if others don't accept them. Be happy for them when they get into a relationship.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2016 11:47am
You can do your best to listen actively without judgement. Feel free to read up on gay literature to understand what your friend is going through because right now your friend needs your support -no questions asked because a lot of people are probably going to ask them a lot of questions about it. Besides that, do what you have been doing so far which is being a great friend! Kudos for asking how you can be more mindful and supportive towards this friend.
OnlyNow
April 18th, 2016 5:16am
I think that a large part of supporting an LGBTQ+ friend is a willingness to listen. While you may not be able to directly relate to the challenges that your friend is experiencing, offering him or her a source of support and understanding will go a long way. In addition, try your best to keep an open mind when talking to this friend. Many people in the world are going to try to bring him or her down with their prejudices, and your willingness to be open and caring whenever needed can really help.
softWingedgiraffe33
November 14th, 2014 11:51pm
My advice would be to treat them like you normally would before you found out. Maybe ask them what they need. Also, the Trevor Project has a guide for how to be an ally.
Lampe
November 17th, 2014 11:12pm
Show him or her your compassion, and listen to one's thoughts. Offer your help, and make your support in general public if possible. Tell the person that he is always welcome to stay at your place if he needs it. Tell him that he should find a local community, or if not possible - go online. Or if he or she seems doing well, then treat them as everyone else, don't make any fuzz.
TurtleTurtle
November 18th, 2014 9:41am
By being understanding of how they feel, and any stress they may receive because of their orientation.
beautifulRecipe32
November 19th, 2014 5:54pm
Remind them that it doesn't change anything. That sexuality is a sliding scale and shouldn't be used as a defining factor of a personality.
Juncat
June 30th, 2015 2:50am
Continue to be a loyal friend to them! This includes being open and willing to listen when they need to talk about something relating to their sexuality. Knowing that you will not judge them and that you'll be there for them is likely incredibly important to your friend. Stand by their side when they need you and back them up when they face struggles. You can also do your part to educate yourself on LGBTQA+ issues that you may be unaware of, which will help show your friend your commitment to understanding and respecting them.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 12:18am
You can support you gay friend by making him/her confortable arround you and deffend her/him everytime. acepting and care.. gay people are exactly like bi, pan, hetero so ....
CasListens
April 25th, 2015 2:15am
Being an LGBTQ individual myself, I believe the most important thing is to let them know that you're there and accept them for who they are.
Mac21
May 3rd, 2015 2:50pm
The most helpful and supportive thing you can do for them is just to be there for them, always listen to them and always offer support. Be open with them and try to let them know that there is nothing wrong with them. Having a good supportive friend can make all the difference in the world to someone.