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How do I come out to someone I like romantically?

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Last Updated: 10/01/2018 at 6:42pm
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Top Rated Answers
HalListens
March 29th, 2016 1:43pm
If you think the person will be accepting, even if they might not reciprocate your feelings, you could always just ask them out or tell them how you feel about them. A lot of the time, it's less of a question of sexuality and more one of whether or not one person likes another person. If telling them your feelings is not an option for you right now, why not treat coming out to this person like you would anyone else? You could even come out to them at the same time as other friends if you want. Remember, this is about moving at your pace and making sure you're safe and secure in your identity, so do what feels best to you!
LittleOleUs
March 29th, 2016 7:18pm
You speak from the heart. You tell them exactly how you feel, and exactly how much they mean to you. Being in love is a wonderful thing! Don't skip the opportunity!
plumnectarine
May 18th, 2015 12:39am
It's definitely not easy. The best way to go about it is to be honest. Possibly tell them your sexuality first then admit your romantic feeling separately
XionStrife
March 3rd, 2015 11:52pm
First, practice in the mirror saying "I like you." Then, separate them from their friends and go to a quiet place. Separating them from their friends will make you less nervous/intimidated to talk and approach them. Next, tell them you like them or if you're too shy write on a piece of paper you like them and give them the paper. If they say no, remember that you will always have another chance to find someone who'll love you and is just as crazy about you, as you are about them. And if they say they need time, give them some time.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2015 6:07pm
Make sure that you're sure you're ready to do so, then tell that person you would like to talk very seriously about something. Find a way to tell them that makes you and the person comfortable.
Mercedez
September 1st, 2015 10:02pm
I would tell them honestly how i felt and go from there . :) Also be honest to yourself that will help you confidence wise
maskedshadow
March 29th, 2016 1:02pm
the most important thing is to be yourself the rest will figure itself out not all relationships work out the way we want it to but the ones that work out the best are based on truth, acceptance and understanding so be yourself and whatever will happen will happen for the best
IWellListen
March 8th, 2015 9:20am
Romantic relationship have work out best in my case. When I have hint my feeling at the for a long time. Then they don't feel to overwhelmed. Try to say little things like. You look good today and build it up. So the over person has an idea whats going on in your head.
mysteriousWillow50
April 6th, 2015 12:00am
With coming out to someone that you have romantic feelings for, the key is honesty and being open. Also, depending on how they may feel, you may want to slowly and gently break the news as to not shock them.
Saorlaxo
June 10th, 2015 2:43am
You should be straight up with them! But if you're not completely comfortable with the idea of being very upfront with them, drop hints! Tell them that you want to see them more often and that you are really down to get to know them better etc!
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 7:56am
If you're real close, just let it out and hopefully something works out. Whether it may be good or bad, you don't know until you try.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2018 6:42pm
I feel that the best way to express your feelings of any sort to anyone is to be direct. Not blunt or forceful, but being direct can help sort out so many issues in the future. It may sound daunting to just tell someone you like them, but it is good to look at all the options. 1. You don't tell them and let the feelings build up inside. 2. You are indirect and may draw out the process or cause unnecessary understandings. 3. As mature beings, you sit down and have a conversation about your feelings and the appropriate actions to take going further.