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How do I know if I am transgender?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2020 at 8:15pm
How do I know if I am transgender?
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calmWaves10
August 10th, 2015 12:00am
If you feel uncomfortable with your current gender role, you're more than likely transgender, and if you feel you're not aligned with your exact biological sex and your assigned gender at birth.
LoyalLouie
January 10th, 2016 12:35am
Since gender is all about societal and cultural norms of what is to be considered male or female you can ask yourself some simple questions: How do I feel about these norms? Does my behaviour, style of clothing etc. fit them? I think it's much about how you feel about gender and if you want to express non-concorming. That's at least a very important point for me.
Reptevia
January 9th, 2016 12:08pm
This is a difficult thing to explain. You know how you feel. I never felt my that I was the right gender growing up, but I also never felt that bone deep need to be the other gender. I was something in between. As I grew older I grew to understand this feeling and its meaning. I found myself relating to those who are gender fluid. I am neither male or female and I both. I think a person can just tell, it is a feeling from inside and only you know it for sure.
mountainPass10
January 28th, 2016 1:52am
i identify as agender and I found out by truly thinking deeply about what gender pronouns I feel most comfortable with and how I want to be viewed by not only others but by myself
felidaebay
June 20th, 2015 12:27pm
If you find yourself asking “Am I transgender?” more than likely it means you are not feeling aligned with your exact biological sex and your assigned gender at birth. Perhaps you feel some discomfort about your assigned gender at birth and, basically, the assigned gender role expectations that you’re having—your discomfort with that can vary. It can be small, it can be very wide.There is a myriad of different questions you may be asking yourself and it is important to research and explore those questions to make sure you're on track. Just remember! You don’t necessarily have to have a very specific idea of what it means to be transgender. It’s something that branches across a spectrum and exploration of that spectrum is key.
brilliantPudding22
December 11th, 2015 10:21pm
If you don't fit general societal standards of gender identity, you're a transgender. For example if you're a female who has a penis.
Gardeviola
November 7th, 2014 3:52pm
Well, do you feel like you are the gender that isn't what's in your pants all the time? Then you are transgender. Do you only feel like this some one the time? You are probably fluid. Do you feel like neither gender? You are non-conforming, agender, or some other form.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 8:51pm
Discovering who you are is a long process and you may not get it for a while. Generally if you feel uncomfortable with you gender and it doesnt feel right OR you feel extremally happy when associated with another gender, you could be trans! Good luck discovering yourself and make sure to be patient!
kurotenshii
July 9th, 2015 4:33pm
You will feel like your gender inside doesn't reflect the gender you were born as. You will usually have the opposite gendera characteristics and will tend to be considered different when compared to others of your same gender. Talking to a counselor or therapist can help you understand these thoughts and feelings.
TomorrowsFaith
January 13th, 2016 5:00am
Often when you know you are transgender is if you feel increasingly uncomfortable in the body you were born in ( Say you were born female, you'd feel male, vice versa for being born male ). You often feel unsure of who you are, and being called by he / she depending on bodily gender, makes you feel wrong. Sometimes it can be seen as just simple feeling male at times, or female at times, but most transgender people will have Dysphoria, the literal meaning being; a state of uneasiness or generalized dissatisfaction with life.
kindDreamer93
January 10th, 2016 1:47pm
You can find out by exploring who you are, try looking at articles, videos and blogs, you will know it deep inside once you found it.
DanielaJoyful
July 17th, 2015 11:01pm
For each person there are 2 kinds of genders. The one you see in your pants and the one you believe in your heart. Sometimes they match. Other times people need to correct their physical body in order to match how they feel they should be. Sometimes your physical body has male sex organs, but you feel like you aren't a male. Maybe you're female instead, or maybe you feel both genders or even no gender at all. Sometimes your body tells you you're female but in your head you don't feel like a female. It's possible to feel like a male, both genders, or neither gender at all. It's all how you feel. What ever body you would be comfortable in is what you should be.
Jake
June 30th, 2015 9:00pm
There is no answer that can fit for everyone, but I will give you a bit more information. Being trans* can mean a lot of different things. Most often those who are trans* do not feel that their biological sex matches up with their gender. You can find more information on trans* and gender identity topics here: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/trans-gender-identity
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 9:25pm
No one can tell us whom or what we are, It's something we have to discover for ourselves. The best way to work this out is with the professional guidance of a Gender Therapist. Gender Therapists(GT) specialize in Helping us figure out if were Transgendered. Then if WE decide we are and wish to transition, our GT helps us with every phase of that and beyond. A good Gender Therapist is our best and most useful resource, and I Treasure mine. :)
BigSweatersAndHotChoc
June 20th, 2015 4:56pm
To be transgender you have to have dysphoria. This means that you have a strong hatred for certain sex-defining parts of your body (breasts, genetalia, body hair etc.) because you feel you should have been born without them. This may only be for one feature (e.g you hate having a penis but like your beard) or for all of them. Some transgender people even fail to recognize these parts (forget they are biologically fe/male Remember that being transgender isn't a choice; if you know you don't like a certain feature of yourself, ask yourself why. Are you a trans guy or do you just hate how big your breasts are? Would you want them off entirely or just reduced? Do you dislike your squared shoulders because they you hate how masculine they make you appear or because they feel disproportionate to the rest of your body? If the answer is the latter, with your dislike for these characteristics being more aesthetic aesthetic, you're probably not transgendered. It is a very personal question that only you can answer.
PileOfRubbles
June 19th, 2015 7:33pm
You don't. I guess you have to feel it. How do i know i exist. I don't but i do feel alive. So... if you are sure of your feelings trust them
ElliesLight
June 19th, 2015 12:58am
Being transgender only means that you do not obey the social construct of your given gender. It notably has nothing to do with your body (That would be transsexual). You are transgender when you decide that you do not feel fully comfortable with your birth given gender. Many transgender folk will alter their appearance non-surgically (ex: with chest binders or different hair styles), ask for different pronouns than what they were given, or - shocking to many - do nothing at all.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 10:15pm
If you were born a male (sexually), but you feel like a women you are transgender. If you were born a female (sexually), but feel like a man you are transgender. Things like sex changes, hormone treatments, or anything really is just part of it. You can do nothing about it and you will still be transgender.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
September 30th, 2019 3:16pm
If you think of yourself as a person of the opposite gender, if you don't feel like your biological sex represents your gender and you feel as the opposite, you are trans. There can also be other feelings, like uneasiness with your own body perceived as "wrong", or discomfort with the use of certain pronouns referred to yourself. But who you feel you are is the basis of your identification. It can also help to get in contact with other trans people or with a therapist to start learning the trans reality and yourself better.
Spn2001
December 18th, 2016 3:29am
This can be different for different people but I would say you never truly know. Transgender is an umbrella term and literally means that you do not identify with your birth given sex, gender in a spectrum and therefore you can be trans gender and not necessarily feel 100% like the opposite gender. Transgender is not just mtf and ftm. If you're not sure if you are or are not transgender, then you probably are maybe not identifying as the opposite gender but somewhere on the scale. maybe try dressing as the opposite gender for a month, have people use different pronouns for you and see how it makes you feel, experiment with gender rolls.
SpiritOasis
June 19th, 2015 2:59am
To know you are transgender is to know that your biological and your emotional as well as psychological state are not compatible. Like oil and water, your body is not in tune with your mind and feelings.
Kenai
September 30th, 2016 4:21am
That's something that a counselor or therapist specializing in gender identity might really help with!
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:36pm
If you feel as though you are not in the right body. Like the person you are in the mirror is not the person you feel you should be.
Fireflies57
September 11th, 2016 6:15am
You are the best judge of you. If you feel like you are trapped in the wrong body, then you might be. In the end, only you can decide, and whatever you do decide, there are people who are willing to help!
PhoenixMozza
May 8th, 2015 12:56pm
This is a question only you can answer. If you feel like you're not the gender you were assigned at birth, you may be transgender, however a lot of people, specially people of non binary genders feel the word transgender doesn't truly describe them, and choose not to go by it, and that's completely fine as well, and doesn't invalidate any gender
Amandeas
November 16th, 2014 8:33pm
If it feels right. You can be whatever sex you like, no-one has the right to judge your gender, only you can do that. There's also more than two genders. I thought of myself for a while as transgender, but now I see myself as genderfluid, sometimes a mix of a man and female. Your gender is not decided by your genetalia. It's determined by yourself.
KendallNichole
December 30th, 2014 5:20am
"Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help with figuring out your gender identity: Do you think the gender you were assigned restricts the way you live or the things that you do? What about the clothes you wear? Was the gender assigned to you the one you feel most comfortable with? What is gender? What makes a woman a woman or a man a man? Do you feel forced to act in certain ways because of your gender?" You can read more about this on ( http://www.indianayouthgroup.org/how-do-i-know-im-transgender)
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 9:22pm
Only you can know if you are transgender! Being transgender means that your self-identified gender does not perfectly fit what considered stereotypically male or female. You "transgress" or cross the boundaries of the norm, so to speak! This could mean anything from not adopting the standard script for what it means to be female or male, and taking on a more androgynous role, or identifying as a male when your biological sex was female. So think about how you self-identify, what you think may be "normal," and what you would like to be. Despite what many may think, there is no "right" way to be!
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 10:47pm
i guess you would know if you you tried it out and felt really comfortable with being transgender and if not then no you are not
gracefulLover20
June 20th, 2015 9:29am
Transgender, by definition, is someone who doesn't conform to the traditional notions of male or female. Typically, someone who is transgender feels like they identify more with the sex opposite of what they were assigned at birth. For example, I know an individual who has always felt like a woman rather than a man. She identifies as a woman, regardless of the fact that that she was assigned the male sex at birth and was born with male sex organs.