How do I know if I am transgender?

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How do I know if I am transgender?
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Emily619
July 3rd, 2015 5:11pm
You know if you are transgender if you have the feeling that you are wither a female stuck in a male's body, or a male stuck in a female's body. It's perfectly fine to feel this way :) If you ever need help, you can chat anytime with any listener here. We are here to help you! Also, http://www.translifeline.org/ is a great site as well! Take care.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 11:25pm
You'll know your transgendered if you don't feel like the gender you were born as. You won't feel like the typical girl or boy you're born as. But it's different for everyone and that's okay too.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 5:52am
If you feel that there is something in your body and personality that belongs to the gender that you were born with that doesn't allowed you to feel who you really are.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 4:46pm
well a transgender person is someone that is born wiht a set of genital organs and identifies as the opposit gender atribuited to those organs. simplifying your body is of a girl and you feel like a boy and identify as one and want to be one with all the male characteristics and the same for the opposite sex. you can have a male body and feel like a girl want to be a girl and thats pretty much how you know, so if you are with doubts start with asking yourself if the body you are on fits iwth the way you are inside and then see if its aobut gender identity adn not body issues. thats a good start
FriendlyBear95
July 4th, 2015 5:24pm
If you don't entirely feel as if your physical gender matches your gender identity, then you may well be transgender.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 8:00pm
Transgender folk feel like the opposite sex mentally. But gender is really all about your emotions (and, as we shall later see, also about the way you think logically too!) In short, are you happy and satisfied with the way society treats you on the basis of gender or are you not?
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 9:58am
If you are a female and feel in your soul that it doesn't matter that you were born with a lady part you feel like a man.
teatimefor2
July 5th, 2015 1:23pm
You are transgender when your biological sex (female / male) does not match with how you identify yourself as. For example, you may have a vagina but you don't identify as a woman, but rather as a man. The same can happen for a person who has a penis but identifies as a woman. Gender is our self-identification as a man or a woman (or none, or both even), and does not depend on our biological sex.
AskingAriel
July 5th, 2015 4:59pm
That's a question only you can answer. No one call tell how you feel on the inside but you. Are you feeling wrong in your body? Do you feel like you belong as the other gender? Those are some baseline questions to be asking yourself.
peachysunny
July 5th, 2015 8:37pm
you want to change genders. if you just feel like you flow between female and male you are gender fluid but wanting to completely change everything to the other gender is transgender
originalLion57
July 5th, 2015 9:13pm
If you identify yourself as the gender you were not assigned with at birth. So if your physical form is female, but you mentally and emotionally feel like you're male or the opposite. And you feel trapped in your own body perhaps, because your outer appreance doesn't reflect how you believe and feel you are on the inside.
Xemnas
July 8th, 2015 12:04am
Put yourself into different situations/scenarios to prove this fact to see if you do/don't enjoy it.
emmiekoala
July 8th, 2015 12:17am
To answer this, you should know the difference between sex and gender. Your genitals determine your sex, your brain determines your gender. People whose sex and gender do not match up are transgender. For example, if you were biologically born with female genitals but you do not identify as a girl and felt like you were a boy, you are transgender.
EquusZoe
July 8th, 2015 4:35pm
I honestly think that it takes some time figuring out who you are. Gender is fluid, so explore it and see what makes you comfortable identifying as! You'll feel it when you find something that makes you happy.
mostsucculent
July 8th, 2015 4:52pm
At the heart of the question "How do I know if I am transgender?" is usually someone feeling misaligned with their assigned gender at birth. This misalignment is discomfort in your current gender and your current gender role. Examining your discomfort and researching the way that others have examined theirs is a good way to know if you are transgender.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 6:17pm
You kind of just know, I suppose. There's this feeling that you don't belong in the body of the gender you were born as, and rather the opposite gender. You may feel dysphoric in your body as well.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 6:39pm
If you feel deep inside you that you weren't born the correct gender then you know. It doesn't have to be something you have known your whole life, but something you feel deep inside you.
Gilbertron
July 9th, 2015 12:08am
Its how you feel. If you're a girl, do you feel like a guy? Want to become one? If you're a boy, same thing just swapped.
LunaLove77
July 9th, 2015 3:43am
When you start acting like the opposite gender naturally, and you feel you were born in the wrong body, you don't feel right being you, whatever gender you are.
cherishedJet13
July 9th, 2015 11:22am
You would feel like the opposite gender more than the gender you were assigned to at birth. It's like you aren't yourself in your own body.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 12:21pm
You are asking this it is most probably because you are feeling uncomfortable with your current gender. So that is a yes, to being a transgender. And also if you think your current gender is not the same as your gender in your brain.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 5:39am
you may feel like you aren't being who you are meant to be, like something in you is different in you rather than from someone else. Not like hairstyle or shoes, but that your life isn't how you want it to be. You should be able to be comfortable in your own skin, as you, and not as the wrong gender.
DipityEnigma
July 10th, 2015 1:02pm
Most people feel that the gender that they were born, isn't what they were meant to be born as. Some have described it as feeling like they're not in their own body, like they're meant to be in a female or males body and generally feel uncomfortable with the gender they have been given. The definitions of transgender seem to support these claims.
oldvital3
July 10th, 2015 6:19pm
it just depends.... you need to define what makes you happy and make your life based on that and just "fuck you" about what other think :)
Brittneym101
July 10th, 2015 8:01pm
Only you can figure that out. If you were born male or female and you feel like you were meant to be the opposite of what you were than you may become transgender. I don't think that you're transgender until you actually go through the sexual change, but you can start by changing your outside appearance to make yourself more of what you really want to be, like wearing the opposite sex clothes and fixing your hair. Then there is the process of taking hormones. The surgery is the part that every transgender person wants to get to and that just helps fully develop you into the sex that you prefer to be and it does cost a lot of money.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 11:15pm
Because you don't feel comfortable in your own skin and feel like you were born in the wrong body,
Freija
July 11th, 2015 2:53am
When someone calls you a boy or girl, man or woman, it feels like the wrong word. When you try to take part in what you're "supposed" to, not only do you feel out of place, but you genuinely retreat when you can, and avoid doing it ever again. When you have sex with someone that is the same gender as you, you want to be them in a way that you wanted to be superman when you were little.
tranquilEagle75
July 11th, 2015 9:39am
If you don't feel like you are the gender you were assigned at birth, you're pretty likely to be trans. Binary or nonbinary.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 3:16pm
Only you can find out. It definitely requires some soul searching. Think about how you act, how you think, and how you react to certain situations and compare that to the definition and symptoms. Try to talk to those who are transgender if you know someone or in a support chat to get more specific answers and do your research so you understand what it means to be transgender.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 6:43pm
Most people will say you will know if you experience dysphoria, but that isn't all. You don't have to experience dysphoria to know. I'd say you'll know when you don't feel right with your assigned sex. You want to make a change. Not just dysphoria.