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In my opinion, transgender means a person who identifies with a gender that is not the one assigned to them at birth. For example, if a person is born with male genitalia, but identifies as a female. This doesn't necessarily mean they are undergoing hormones and/or surgery to correct it, though. That is completely up to each person individually.
The only way you know if you're transgender is if you feel or identify as a gender other than the one you were assigned at birth. If you are transgender then you might've been born biologically as a male but feel you are female and vice versa.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 4:07pm
It's hard to explain and for me the easiest way to say it is that it's like no matter what you wear or how cute you look you just don't feel right. Like you're out of place. it took me about a year and a half to finally realize that that was why I constantly felt weir in close that were for my beginning gender. And I can tell you now that I've taken the steps to feel more at home in my body I am so much happier, so don't ever let anything stop you from being you.
There is no specified way to know if you are transgender because it is such a personal thing. But you could try standing in front of a mirror and saying. "I (insert name) am female." and then saying, "I (insert name) am male." If you are feeling very uncomfortable saying one and more comfortable saying the other it could give you some clues. It's also important to remember that there are more than the two binary genders. Some people are a mix of both, or neither at all. I would suggest you do some more research on the non-binary and see what works for you. Remember that gender is a personal thing and has nothing to do with your interest, clothing, gender expression etc. If you want to talk more in depth about this just hit me up on chat and I'd be more than happy to answer all questions and give you some good resources :)
So, my boyfriend is transgender and it... you don't fit into your body. There's this huge dysphoria for the the opposite gender and it really sucks
If you dont feel like your body is you. If you feel like you are itchin to get out if your skin and want to be some other gender is when you think you may be trans. This may be different for other people, and does take time to realize who you are. Take it slow in trying to find the person you really are, ruhing may lead to regrets.
If you feel that you are of the opposite gender on the inside and feel that you don't belong in the body that you are in then you may be trans gendered.
I see this question asked a lot, mostly by young people questioning their gender identity. The most important thing to remember is that no one can truly determine your gender except you. You are the only person who can be sure if you're transgender or not.
The only way to be sure is to reflect on yourself. How do you feel when people refer to you as a boy, versus as a girl? Keep in mind, you might be neither a girl nor a boy, but something else entirely. Gender is complicated and tricky to navigate.
Think hard about what you want out of life, and how your gender may or may not play into it.
When you truly feel in your heart that you want to identify with the opposite pronouns. Feeling uncomfortable with ones birth gender is a key signal that deep thought is in order. The question you have to ask yourself is what gender would you be most comfortable identifying with. If someone calls you by your birth pronoun and you dread it.. Then perhaps you could be transgender. Research on all the different types of gender identities could also help.
Ask yourself what do I feel more comfortable being? A girl or boy? Keep asking this question and eventually you'll have that tremendous epiphany on who you want to be.
You know whether you are transgender when you start to become disgusted with your body and the clothes you wear and that day to day activities become more straining because you are at unease with your body and that you find acting and looking and dressing as the opposite gender solves this and makes you happy and you truly feel that the way you dress reflects who you actually are
When you start to question yourself a lot and are not feeling comfortable as the gender you biologically are. It's when you find out that you're happier being the other gender. It's confusing but it will take time and you will figure what your preferences are. From there, you can decide to make a choice, "am I transgender" or "do I feel comfortable in my own skin?" Just do what feels right to you.
That is a difficult question to answer. Personally, I discovered I was transgender when I googled what the term meant and watched a multitude of transition stories on YouTube. While watching those people talk about their lives, I connected so deeply with them that I thought bout my past and how I truly felt. I acknowledged that I had never really gotten along well with the people of my sex and had always generally classed myself as of the opposite sex. How did I know if I was transgender? By really taking the time to think about what gender I was comfortable with, and what truly made me happy.
Take time to explore yourself and your interests. Don't be afraid, it is perfectly natural to have these sorts of feelings and questions about who you are and your identity. Ask yourself this - 'how do I feel inside?'. This is a very personal thing that you will need to discuss with yourself - after all, when it comes to what you are feeling and who you are, you know best.
Labels aren't mandatory, but if you choose one ask yourself do you feel you are the gender you want to identify as, and/or are you the gender you are born to be do you feel more masculine or feminine, and let that direct you a bit. Give it some time! (:
Though there are many differing ways in answering this, you can start by asking if your "insides" match your "outsides." For example, someone could have a female identified body, but tend to feel more masculine or take on emotional traits not always identified with femininity. Although the term is generally grouped with the LGBT+ group, being transgender does not necessarily invoke a certain sexual orientation. People can be unique with their inside identity, gender expression, sexual attraction, and sex.
If you don't feel comfortable with the gender you were assigned at birth, you might be transgender. In the end of the day, you're the only one who can tell what your gender is, and whether you're transgender or not.
You have to trust yourself there is no one but you who knows you. its ok to not know right away what gender you are. just have faith in yourself and when you are ready to come out around yourself with supporting people.
there isn't a specific way to know if you're transgender. But if you feel uncomfortable with your genitals or any other part of your body you may be transgender.
My personal experience began around age 15. I had a brain bleed and had to cut off all of my hair. The first time I looked into a mirror after that, I knew my body wasn't the right one. I began to look into being a boy in my situation. Obviously surgery wasn't an option. I dressed as boyishly as I could. I lost some friends at this time, but I realized that it was for the best. Ultimately, a little over two years later, I've found my place. I'm happy with my friends and even my family has begun to accept me. So the moral of the story is, if you don't feel natural, embrace it!
You feel like the opposite sex in the wrong body. You feel as if in your mind you are the opposite sex. You yearn to act the opposite to what you are, feminine or masculine and may do so. Your characteristics may lean towards that of the opposite sex. You may feel you are subjugating your true self.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 7:54pm
When you feel like you are trapped in the wrong body, that your body does not represent how you feel about your gender identity.
If you feel an active and undeniable sense of dysphoria in your body, a sense of being 'in the wrong body' that can't be shaken and leads to negative feelings and unhappiness.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 8:48am
If you feel as if you are in the wrong body or are wanting to wear the opposite gender's clothes, if you feel like you don't like who you are as your present gender or have feelings of wanting to be the opposite gender.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 6:05pm
There is not simple answer to this, but generally speaking trans people tend to experience one or both of these things;
1) Feeling a strong need to live and be read as a different gender than the one you were assigned at birth. This often includes wanting to use clothes associated with a certain gender or feeling uncomfortable with certain gendered words like 'man/brother/he' or 'woman/sister/she'.
2) Feeling uncomfortable with gendered parts of your own body. Examples of this can be wanting to have a flat chest or feeling uncomfortable with having a penis.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 4:34am
You yourself can only know if you truly are, but their are many other gender identities than just transgender, you may want to look into. No one but you can define who you are.
If you feel the gender that you were assign to at birth doesn't suite you then it's possible you could be a transgender. If you feel you're mentally a different from what your gender appears to be physically that's another way to look and see if you're a transgender.
The only way to "know" is if YOU feel like you are more comfortable embodying the opposite gender. If you feel you are more yourself being or portrayng yourself as the opposite gender, you can say youre transgender.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Start by asking yourself if you feel your outsides match the way you feel on the inside. If not, you could be experiencing gender dysphoria.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 11:16am
When you feel like you were born in the wrong body. When you know deep in your heart that the outside of your body does not match what you have in the inside
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