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How do I know if I am transgender?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2020 at 8:15pm
How do I know if I am transgender?
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MoonTalker
July 29th, 2015 4:55pm
You may feel that you are more comfortable expressing yourself as a gender other than the gender you were born or assigned at birth. This gender might be the "opposite" of the gender you were born or assigned, or it might be neither male nor female but something else entirely! You may feel extremely uncomfortable with the gender-specific parts of your body. For example, you may have breasts and prefer not to have them. Or, you might not feel uncomfortable with your gender-specific body parts and, at the same time, feel a deep need to have other body parts. You may feel more comfortable relating to people who perceive you as the gender you see yourself. You may simply feel you would be more truly yourself in another gender. People who are transgender may feel any or all of these emotions.
its10az
July 29th, 2015 8:35pm
Just look at your private part, and if there is two of each private part, that means you are one.
MagentaBlue1987
July 30th, 2015 6:59am
Some people don't feel like they belong in the the skin that they were born in.. They feel as though they were placed inside of the wrong vessel and they are floating through life inside someone's body besides their own. This is typically because they are in the wrong gender. If this is the case, it is normal and you may in fact be trans.
FelixtheCat4
July 30th, 2015 8:36pm
When you feel that you are more fit to have feminine or masculine body than what you are already in. Also, a simple trip to a psychiatrist can be helpful if you are in question of who you are.
luminousLynx19
July 30th, 2015 10:43pm
Transgender can be many things. A common feeling would be dysphoria. That would be if you feel unhappy with your birth genitailia. Another thing is the picture you have of yourself in your head. For most people the pucture in their head is what they want to look like. You don't have to have either of theses to be transgender but these are common signs
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 10:16am
Well transgender doesnt mean your are a gay or bisexual. if you like your self imagining in the opposite gender constantly than you can say you are a trangender.
bricav
July 31st, 2015 5:35pm
If you feel like you're a male, then you are. It's that simple. Never let anyone tell you that you shouldn't / don't feel that way.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:21pm
I knew when I found that I didn't like having a male body or wear men clothes. I soon discover that I identified as a woman rather than as a man. It was hard to accept at times, but over time I accepted that I identified as a woman.
DonnyJames
August 1st, 2015 9:05am
If you feel as though you are not the same gender as your body's sex, then that would make you transgender. However, transgender can also mean you have gone from a male sex to female, or vice versa. These two statements can often be mistaken for each other, and cause confusion and offense to certain parties. Be cautious when stating your transgender state of being, as others may not understand which trans you may be referring to.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 12:14am
If you feel that your gender identity does not match the one assigned to you at birth, you're transgender. Transgender people are people whose gender is the opposite of their sex. Gender is what you mentally identify as and sex depends on your genitalia and genetics.
eternalWriting37
August 2nd, 2015 2:17pm
Only you really know can know an answer to this. Experiment... Talk to someone close, if none? There's always 7 cups. And remember to breathe, no matter the outcome, every identity needs to learn appreciation and confidence within themselves.
ahistoryimake
August 5th, 2015 3:05pm
First you need to ask yourself, Why am I even asking this question? Are you uncomfortable with your current gender role? If you are, then you need to find what makes you happy? Transgender comes in many shapes and forms, you don't have to fully change yourself. You dont have to label yourself....you just need to do what makes you happy.
whimsicalWriting43
August 6th, 2015 1:55am
Being transgender is something you can feel inside you. Feeling like you don't belong in your body. It is the way you think, act, and feel. Being transgender just doesn't happen automatically. It is a deep feeling that you are out of place in your own body. I hope that helps clarify.
ItsAllInTheMind9625
August 6th, 2015 3:13pm
You feel uncomfortable in your body. You start relating to the opposite gender more(you may or may not also feel attracted towards either gender). You feel out of place in your body, and you feel that you're meant to be the opposite gender.
Lovetheearthandyourself
August 6th, 2015 4:51pm
The feeling of gender is different in everyone. When I was young, I just felt like I wanted to be a boy. I didn't want to look like a girl in any way. That is how I knew. But how you label yourself in that sense is up to you. It's complicated, but we all find our way.
ForeverCharli
August 6th, 2015 8:44pm
Speaking as a transgender male myself, I have this to say: It's a different experience for everyone! Some people discover when they're very young, and some don't until they're in their 50s and 60s. A common factor in transgender individuals is Gender Dysphoria, which can be categorized in multiple ways. I'd definitely say to look up Gender Dysphoria and see if the descriptions match you.
EnchantingLight27
August 7th, 2015 11:28pm
Gender expression can be fluid. An important thing to do when you are questioning a piece of your identity is to learn as much as you can about the subject you are questioning and then about yourself. Take some time to learn more about gender and gender expression. Read more about all of the different gender identities there are and then examine your own feelings and behavior. See if any of the genders you have learned about fit you in some way. Try not to stress about knowing exactly what gender you are because your ideas and feelings can change as you notice more things about yourself or learn more about gender. You don't have to fit perfectly into a box, so seek to feel more comfortable with yourself and your gender and not to know exactly what gender you are right away. Don't feel that you need to know everything all at once, give yourself time to process your new findings. Gender is just one small part of life, but if it is confusing or important to you it is worth taking some time to try and understand.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 10:33am
There are a few tips I can give: - Listen to yourself and give yourself enough time to figure it out; - Look up some information online about transgenders and gender Dysphoria; - Read about other transgender's experiences online, or watch videos about it; - Try to get in contact with someone who's transgender and talk about it; - Talk about it with someone you trust: friends, a counsellor, a Listener, ... You will find the answer at your own pace!
BellaBoo97
August 8th, 2015 2:07pm
Most people will already have a feeling from very young about being the wrong gender. You may feel unhappy with your body, dislike traditionally gender specified activities or subjects. You may also have bad body confidence especially with the way your body shows your gender.
MoodyBloom
August 9th, 2015 3:36pm
Honestly, it's not something I can answer, that's something you will have to find out for yourself. I think it might help to listen to how you feel. You're not pressured to make a decision, and you are who you want to be.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 12:40am
ransgender people feel that the gender to which they were born, or assigned at birth, does not fit them. Transgender people include people born female who identify as male (female-to-male) and people born male who identify as female (male-to-female).
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:20am
I am all sexes and no sexes. I do not require a body to love.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:36pm
A Transgender person is typically described as a man born in a woman's body, or a woman born in man's body. This means that if you feel that you're a woman, but you're biologically a man (and vice versa) you might identify as transgender. Just know that you don't have to label yourself at all if you don't want to. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, just be happy in yourself.
helpfulkitty14
August 12th, 2015 10:13pm
you will know if your transgender if you fell wrong in your skin and I don't mean you don't like the size of your thighs or your nose I mean you dislike your whole body and that you genuinely fell as tho your the opposite gender
Rift
August 13th, 2015 3:07am
If you have doubts about whether you might be transgender or not, it's best to seek a medical professional about that. They can best help identify whether or not you are transgender, and if you are, should be able to help with the next step, or a possible transition.
KaringKatniss
August 13th, 2015 9:11pm
There is no test or questionnaire for this type of thing. It is just like your sexuality it's something you just have to listen to your intuition. It is very different for everyone. Some people know at childhood others don't know until middle age.
PeacefulSolutions
August 14th, 2015 2:30am
it's more of a personal journey. first, come to terms with who you want to be and take time to just think, away from all distractions
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 9:58am
There isn't really a checklist for knowing what your gender is. I think if you just feel like your mind doesn't fit the gender you were assigned at birth, or if you feel like you're trapped in your body.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 11:11am
If you think you are, then you probably are. Every transgender person has condition called dysphoria, a state of dissatisfaction / discomfort with their assigned sex / gender role. Also if you think you migh not be the gender you were assigned at birth transgender isn't the only answer, there are variations like bigender, genderfluid, etc.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 9:43pm
I think you'll know if you're transgender when the time comes. If you always have a feeling that you feel out of place, or think you were meant to be the opposite gender, that's a pretty good starting point.