Tell a few close trusted work colleagues ; people with whom you have a close bond with and you know will support you regardless of your sexuality. In most coming out cases , word spreads quickly as the " news du jour" - however , you should embrace this. A coming out that is spread in a conservative way through colleagues implies a situation that is not a big deal and most likely wont receive a big deal reaction. Allowing news to trickle down from your trusted colleagues throughout the work environment instead of a Lunch time announcement is my best advice. In general ; we always (as humans) overestimate how big our news will be to others . Realistically people today have many concerns in their own lives to spend too long thinking about your sexuality ; the news of it will soon be replaced by something more mundane and of course .. less fabulous.
You can choose to come out in a conservative work environment by first trying to open up people's hearts. This will take a huge amount of effort, but it can be done. Be sure to always have a close friend with you doing it with you. From there, you can do it.
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November 1st, 2015 2:05pm
Quit the job. Move to Canada. I hear that environment is very liberal over there. It may seem like a big move, but your life and happiness is vital. Ya should do everything to be happy (but within the legal boundaries, of course. :)
I came out in a conservative work environment in the beginning with my supervisor. I asked her if she was willing to talk but not judge me for what I was about to tell her in the office. I made sure that my supervisor was willing to keep our conversation a secret until I felt that it was safe to share about being LGBTQ in the office setting. I ended up coming out six weeks later and did it couple of co-workers at a time but tried not to dwell on the conversation. I actually got positive responses from 98% of my co-workers about coming out in workplace.
Though nobody knew I was gay, my coworkers had made homophobic comments before and I didn't say anything until another coworker chastised them for it. I would say it's best to have a support system among your coworkers and friends there before you say anything. That way, you'll have someone to have your back if things go awry.
Coming out is a choice NOT a responsibility. You life is yours, it's not something you have to put on display. So when YOU want to come out to your work colleagues you will be calm & ready, and you will know what to do.