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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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beccawebb7
July 27th, 2018 4:09am
(I identify as bi/pan btw) You know if you're bisexual if you feel attraction to both girls and guys. You can still have a preference for girls or guys, but you feel attracted to people of both genders.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 9:52pm
You're attracted to both binary genders. I am a bisexual female myself and I prefer women more than men.
fakehermione
July 26th, 2018 9:50am
Since I was little I couldn't understand why the "right thing" was boys being with girls. For me, it was all the same. I always felt attracted to both genres and I can see myself with a boy or with a girl in the future.
Talulah22
April 19th, 2015 12:14pm
Yes, you are. If you feel like you are bisexual, you are. Simple as that. A lot of people have a (slight) preference, there's nothing wrong with that.
hollykg
July 19th, 2018 8:16pm
Ask yourself these questions: do I feel attracted to the opposite sex? do i feel attracted to the same sex? can i see myself falling in love with either sex? if you answered yes to all three of those questions, then you are likely bisexual.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 5:20am
Well, bisexuality as I know it is characterized by feeling attraction towards more than one gender (speaking in a binary manner, it'd mean liking both men and women). Sexuality is defined by attraction, so you'll know you're bisexual if you feel that certain attraction. Of course, because of society's rules and expectations that are imposed on us since birth, we may not recognize our sexuality at first. Personally, I think that one of the ways you could check if you're bisexual or not is analysing your attraction towards people and how you think about them. Because of heteronormativity, we may feel compiled to discard any feelings outside of heterosexuality. For you to be able to question yourself, you need to deconstruct those ideas. Bisexuals exist and you can be one in every way. You can prefer one certain gender and you can not have a preference, since sexuality is a spectrum. Try to notice if people who aren't your "opposite gender" catch your attention and if you'd want to engage in any form of romantic or sexual relationship with them. Only you can say if you're bi, but it's a long path and you don't need to rush to have a label. Take your time to experiment with people and discover your true nature. I'm not sure if I was of any help, but I hope so. Good luck though!
crushinIn003seconds
July 15th, 2018 12:41pm
My personal experience with this, I've not exactly had an attraction to every single male but I've had an attraction somewhat to some males when i was in education and this did give me an idea. You could go years and years without feeling attraction for the same gender but then there could be someone who pops out of now where and you just feel the attraction for them. You know when you know, you'll get feelings, you'll feel some sort of attraction that is just more than friends. It took me years to figure my sexuality out.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 4:04am
If you think you are, you probably are. Don't be afraid to explore and experiment to figure it all out, be you and don't worry too much about the label.
Kayaondra02
July 11th, 2018 1:05am
It all kinda comes down to questions I guess. Do you find women attractive? Do you find men attractive? Is it the girls body and the men’s looks your attracted to you vice versa. Have you had mutual feelings for both sexes before?
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 7:24pm
Well, as a bisexual, I found out when I was relatively young. I thought that Belle(the disney princess) was really pretty and smart and I wanted to marry her. I thought that General Shang (form Mulan) was really Handsome and brave so I wanted to marry him, too. That's how I found out. There is no test or exam for bisexuality it's just "Do I like more than one gender?" If so you might be Bisexual or pansexual or polysexual or more. It is up to you entirely. If you have any other questions please talk with us listeners or see the & cups paths, etc. We are always there for you! Take Care! Hugs!
Firecatcher319
July 5th, 2018 10:27pm
Figuring out if you are bisexual is different for everyone. How do you feel when you are around men and/or women. If you have the same feelings for both sexes sexually then you just may be Bisexual. However, there are a ton of other factors to consider.
Olweg
July 1st, 2018 8:23pm
First, if it sounds right with what you're feeling. Being bisexual doesn't mean you have experienced relationships with (or feelings toward) people of same / different gender. It just means you can be romantically and/or sexually attracted by people of the same gender as you, or of a different gender. Some other words can reflect more with your experience/feeling (like pansexual for instance) :) check out and find what feels right... knowing that labels can evolve with time, they're not necessarily for life ^^
brilliantUnicorns28
July 1st, 2018 12:27pm
My personal experience is that I have had multiple crushes on both guys and girls. In the past I have had two boyfriends (exes now), but I recently discovered that I would like to have a girlfriend. I tend to have a preference for girls now but I know that in the past I have experienced crushes on both genders. I identify as biromantic, but that might well change in the future as I discover myself because do we ever really stop discovering things about ourselves?
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 11:13am
You like both the female and male gender. Not 50% each, but can be example - 80% and 20%. It doesn’t matter what the percentages are
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 3:10am
You know if you know. I know some people may not be quite sure but if you think you may be bisexual then ask yourself if you have even the slightest liking to the same sex or different sex. If you do, you may be bisexual, and that is okay! This is coming from someone who isn’t really sure yet if I am bisexual or not but I believe I am because although I have a preference towards men, I also like women. If you have a preference towards one sex it doesn’t mean you are straight, it just means you have a preference, and that is fine. Just trust your instincts and make your own decision on whether you are bisexual or not, because you can’t judge your sexuality by reading comments like these on the internet. Although the internet is helpful, I used it too, trust yourself and what you think before you make a decision on your sexuality.
BiStudent84
June 22nd, 2018 7:43pm
when thinking about relationships with both males and females makes you happy and fulfils you sexually.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 1:18pm
If you feel some kind of attraction, romantically or sexually towards both male and females. People often feel a stronger attraction towards one gender than the other, everyone is different.
LanaElaine
June 13th, 2018 3:40pm
bisexuality is a very broad term, it took me a few years to come to terms with myself, don't feel pressured to be 50/50 in how much you like boys/girls, it's possible to like boys only 5 percent and girls the rest, or vice versa. Also try to keep in mind that it's possible to like agendered people and girls and still be bisexual. Its not strictly boys/girls. I hope this helps.
SaelbenNoa
June 5th, 2015 10:52pm
I recommend reading a bit about the Kinsey scale, there are many different types of bisexual people... Some are more homo, others more heterosexual.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 6:45am
While the only person who can know for sure is you, there are a couple questions you can ask yourself. Are you attracted to same sex, in addition to the opposite sex? Feeling attracted to both is a sign that you may be bisexual. During this time though, feelings are crazy and confusing and it's hard to figure them out. They also can constantly change, leaving you more confused. Don't feel any pressure to put a label on anything right now, unless you want to. Good luck :)
Patricia112
June 1st, 2018 4:21am
Sometimes sexuality can be really confusing because everything isn't black and white but basically if you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to both females and males you are bisexual. It could be that you are 80% attracted to females and only 20% attracted to males or vice versa, it doesn't have to be even at all.
Jerseymoo92
February 15th, 2018 2:27pm
many different ways. its very much the same as knowing you are straight, if you feel a romantic/other attraction toward both genders along with feeling the potential to be more than friends then thats usually an indicator.
creativeNight22
March 28th, 2018 1:33pm
There's no real test to show sexuality, it's how you feel. It is okay if you are, or if you are not.
penelopecelia
March 6th, 2018 1:09am
Hi, I may be able to help with this question as I am bisexual myself :) Bisexual is a sexual orientation where you feel sexually attracted to both the same and opposite gender. There’s no set way to ‘know’ if you’re bisexual and people can find out in different ways. Just know that it’s okay to experiment with your sexuality and that you don’t ever have to even label yourself. Love is love!
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 8:57pm
If you're bisexual then you feel attracted to both men and women, you'll also feel a sexual attraction to them.
sweetNarwhal82
February 28th, 2018 7:37pm
Personally, I struggled with figuring this out as well. For me, I knew I was bisexual when I actually started dating a girl for the first time. I had always questioned it before then.
Meggy123
February 21st, 2018 7:35pm
Well, you'll know if you feel attracted to the same sex, try thinking about the same sex in a different way. If you already do then yes, you could be bisexual! And that's great 😁 but you could also be pansexual or gay, just give yourself time to figure it out. Experiment!
izzymarii
February 18th, 2018 10:14pm
If you are attracted to both males and females and find them sexually attractive too. If you think you might be bisexual but are not sure, then maybe ask yourself whether you would like to be that person or be with them. Sometimes heterosexual females can think they are into girls when maybe they want to be like them. You could even be biromantic, which is liking to be romantic with both female and males, and not being interested in the sex part.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 2:29pm
If you find yourself sexually attracted to both men and women, then you are bisexual. If you are having doubts about your sexuality, ask yourself why you're having doubts, and don't be afraid to experiment a little bit if need be.
frendo79
February 4th, 2018 3:23pm
If you experience any sort of attraction to people of two or more genders. Bisexuality is a valid identity and you are not confused or greedy for feeling this way