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How or should i confess my bisexuality to my Gf when i know she may not approve?

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Last Updated: 09/21/2020 at 9:04am
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amiableJoy78
August 11th, 2018 9:28pm
if you think its the right thing to do then yes. you should tell her you have been thinking about something for some time and want to share with her. you should say its serious topic and than try to explain yourself and confess you are bi. if she is your gf she should support you and understand good luck :)
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
June 17th, 2019 8:09pm
Coming out is a personal choice, it's never mandatory, so you should only do that if you feel ready for it. Generally, it's a good idea to share things with the people we love. This part of you is something very important, and you might want to share it with person you love, to make sure she knows and understands you more deeply. But ultimately, it's your choice. If you decide to tell her, you can do it very openly to ensure that she will truly understand what it means to be who you are. She should know that it doesn't affect your relationship or your feelings for her in any way. If your relationship is strong enough, it will resist!
Itsmisha
January 14th, 2020 9:59am
You should confess your bisexuality to your girlfriend because if she really loves you,she will accept who you really are. If she cant accept your sexuality then i dont think she can accept who you are. You should give her some hint first and not go straight to the point because that might really shock her. Maybe she will get it or maybe not and if she doesnt then i think it is better for you just to say your sexuality and not keep it from her because she might think that you are lying all of the time you are with her.
JumpyGoiaba
August 8th, 2018 10:27am
Being 100% truthful to your partner is a major part of a stable relationship. Real love is about accepting the other person exactly as they are. Nevertheless, you should only open up to your girlfriend if you feel comfortable doing so. Don't force yourself to do something that could harm you, especially if she has previously displayed homophobic behavior. But bear what I first told you in mind. Ultimately, you get to make your own choice :) Best wishes.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 8:09pm
If you want to have an open and honest relationship, it is best to be honest. If your GF does not know you are bisexual, how will she really know you?
LovleyNatural137
November 12th, 2019 10:02pm
Any way you do it it's going to be hard, you will not want to do it. But if you want to confess, make sure she knows that this doesn't change the relationship. That you are attracted to both females, and the other gender your attracted to. She may not understand that you still like her and you are attracted to her. Make sure she knows that. You can also teach her about the LGBTQ community and tell her that it's okay. For you to get ready for doing this, practice on someone else. Personally, it's easier to come out if you came out to someone before. I hope this helps.
Westbury
November 17th, 2019 1:02am
Coming out is a personal choice, and you should do it when you feel the most comfortable. If you feel comfortable, it would be a good idea to share it with people who are closest to you first. Maybe this is friends or family. They may be able to support you tell your girlfriend. But it is really your choice. If you do choose to tell her, do allow and expect her to share their feelings also. It would be unrealistic to lead you down a path of she will not express her own feelings, because she will. Yet, you have been open with you and therefore you have done the kindest thing and been open and honest with her.
luzyamor37
September 21st, 2020 9:04am
Only do it when you feel ready. Your sexual preferences is something private that you can choose not to share if you don't feel like doing so. We can not tell you what to do. We encourage you to be honest with yourself, and decide either to share it or not, or maybe do it later. You are free to decide when to share it and how. Remember that you can text me directly to talk about it if you feel you need to talk about it in more detail. Best of luck. Take care. Love and Light.