How should I discuss my sexuality with my therapist?

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Last Updated: 08/05/2019 at 9:58pm
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Smilewhenitrains87
May 20th, 2015 6:08am
I'm a flaming homosexual now are you going to help me or am I going to have invite the cast of Glee to perform an impromptu musical performance to conVince you I want to talk about it.
CarinaNicole
January 23rd, 2015 10:31pm
Discussing sexuality is a difficult topic, but therapists are trained to deal with this stuff. Therapists can only reveal information if they believe it will be harming you or others, so this is fair game for secrecy. Simply bring up that you've been confused about your feelings, or tell them you've been questioning your sexuality/gender. Therapists are non-judgmental, and they will listen and provide you with the proper resources.
Emily619
October 27th, 2015 11:26pm
You can discuss your sexuality with your therapist by being one hundred percent honest and open about it. Tell them how you truly feel, they are there to help you.
Kaeneus
October 4th, 2016 10:05am
Any therapist worth their mettle should keep an open mind on issues of sexuality, even if their own personal beliefs may differ from yours. This can be a very difficult subject, especially to initially broach. If you have trouble vocalising things, perhaps tell your therapist that, and suggest that you'd like to write something down. You could then hand them a note, and after the initial reveal, perhaps more discussion will be easier.
plumnectarine
May 18th, 2015 12:36am
Openly. Therapists are only there to help you get through stuff, you shouldn't hold anything back to get the best experience
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 8:21pm
A guess there are no wrong or right ways to discuss these things just do it in a way that is comfortable to you.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 6:26pm
If it's bothering you, do it. I never discussed mine with a therapist, but I did talk to friends and thought about it a lot back when it upset me to think that I might have any bit of homosexuality in me. After a while, and a lot of thinking/talking, I realised it was okay. In a way, the talking made it better, so if it bugs you go talk about it.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 2:57pm
Just be yourself, don't be afraid. Try starting with your feelings then go onto the sexuality. Stay calm, stay true, and stay you.
angelology
January 2nd, 2017 5:47am
Bring it up as you would any other issue and tell them that there's been something on your mind that you'd like to discuss. You can even slip it into your normal discussion at first (for example, as a lesbian, I'd casually mention there was a girl at school who I had a crush on). Discussing something as personal as sexuality can be strange and uncomfortable at first, but if your therapist is open and accepting, it should become much easier as time goes on and can help you sort things related to it out.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2018 8:44am
Look for a distance therapy option. LGBT sympathetic therapists are not available everywhere. However, distance therapy is a possible way to get the therapy you desire. Some therapists offer different forms of distance therapy in an effort to reach a wider range of people in various locations and across distances. Phone therapy and online therapy are effective means to engage a LGBT-affirming therapist from outside of your community.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2018 1:05am
Therapists normally don't judge, so I would just bring it up like you would with any other person. Kind of just 'hey. I'm not straight'.
Aayla
August 5th, 2019 9:58pm
Surely your therapist knows very well how to deal with people of different sexualities, so there's nothing to fear, you are in good hands. You can tell them openly how you feel, perhaps tell how you came to realize who you really are, and how is life for you as LGBT, what are your hopes and your fears... Talking to a therapist will surely help you putting some order in your thoughts, if you need it!