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I don't really identify as a girl, but I don't identify as a boy either...what other genders are there?

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Wonderland5972
January 27th, 2016 11:01pm
There's agender (identifying with no gender) demigirl (identifying partly as a girl), bigender (identifying with two genders), genderfluid (gender can change daily) and there are more
Jake
January 13th, 2015 2:34am
It is completely understandable that you are confused about your gender; many people struggle with how to define their gender identity. This is because gender is a very fluid part of you. Here is a great resource on gender identity: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/trans-gender-identity# Be well & I wish you the best of luck.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2015 4:08pm
There is probably an infinite number of genders out there - some lie on a spectrum between what is considered "masculine" and what is considered "feminine", some are a combination of a few at once (bigender, trigender, etc.), some people's identities change over time (genderfluid), and some are outside of the spectrum, not identifying with a gender at all (agender). No matter how you feel in regards to your gender, it is a proper identity - be who you are!
Compassioness89
December 1st, 2015 2:25pm
That is fine! You do not need to identify as either boy or girl. Some people are agender, or genderfluid, or switch their gender identity from time to time. Do whatever makes you happy. There are no borders and you certainly don't have to conform to societal gender roles! Some Inuit folks have 4 genders, for example. You are who you are, so be who you want to be!
Anonymous
December 8th, 2016 2:25am
The big problem here, is that people think we need to fit in a "box". As an exemple; if you are born as a girl, they'll try to fit you in the "Girls" box. You'll be expected to behave in a certain way, dress in a certain way, and like specific things. It's all about the boxes. As those original two boxes weren't enough to everyone to fit (As you said, you don't feel like you fit any of them), the Q comminity createa a lot of other boxes. But the problem is still there! This problem resides on the boxes. Even if we have a variety of boxes because people needed more options, we're still forcing them to FIT somewhere. And to fit, we have to adapt, and in most of times, change, even if just a little bit. So please! Don't think you HAVE to be unconfortable to fit one of those boxes! We don't need boxes! They were built up! They're not natural. Society built them, but if we "unbuilt"(Is that a word? (I'm brazilian)) them, people won't have to be labelled! They won't have to change" They won't be expected to act, dress or live in a certain way... I know this would probably never happen, but I dream about a world where there are no boxes! I don't think we need more genders to force people to fit in one of them! We need no genders at all!
Anonymous
March 18th, 2015 2:13am
Genders aren't just male/female, theres an infinite amount of genders! You can choose an identity that suits you best- here's a list of common identities http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/ .I hope you find this useful!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 11:04pm
There's a variety of genders. There's bigender (a combination of the traditional binary genders), trigender or pan gender (a feeling of a third gender and/or all genders), agender (no specific feeling of gender), genderfluid (a fluctuating gender that can be any gender on the spectrum), demiboy (someone who is partly boy and partly an something else) and demigirl (someone who is partly girl and partly someone else). You can also identify as fully male and still be extremely feminine. Or identify as fully female and be extremely masculine. As you can see from the few genders I listed, there's more than just the binary genders. It's all about how you feel inside. you'll have to do some research and explore yourself to realise what you chose to identify as. But remember you don't have to identify as anything if you chose not to.
helpfuldot
May 7th, 2015 2:23am
There is a whole set of other identifiers such as agender, nonbinary, queer, or genderfluid. They cover people who feel like they are multiple gendered, no gendered or anything in between.
TryingmybestElsa
April 30th, 2018 10:25am
I don't know a lot about the topic but agender sounds right here. In the end gender is a very complicated concept, it is a social construct and no one can truly define gender or name all the gender there are. You are who you are and you don't have to conform or label yourself. You're still valid and you're certainly not alone.
wonderfullWillow66
June 17th, 2015 6:23pm
Depending on your culture and where you live, the possibilities are nearly endless. The reality is that many people find themselves somewhere on a spectrum. Think of a rainbow: if boys are the Red in a rainbow and girls are at the other end as the Blue or Violet, there are many possible colors in between! To list a few: androgyny, bigender, agender. But some people never find a label that they feel perfectly suits them, and that is fine too! It just means you are extra special, and are an extra color of the rainbow that there is not nearly enough of in this world!
Bossuet
May 28th, 2015 7:38am
There are over 50 non-binary genders, but I'll focus on the more common ones: Agender: no gender Bigender: between male and female Genderfluid: gender may shift depending on mood or time Demigirl: part female - part something else Demiboy: part male - part something else Pangender: every gender Androgyne: not quite male of female or a mix of the two Epicene: lacks gender distinction, has both masculine and feminine parts but identifies as neither Genderqueer: unsure of gender / lacks specific definition / umbrella term for non-binary
LudwigVan
August 4th, 2015 9:17pm
this is very natural and common. Gender neutrality corresponds to a neutral gender identity or expression referred to as Neutrois
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 7:12pm
You don't need to identify as either a man or a woman. There is such a thing as "gender fluid." Which is: having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between, gender identity; having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender, or pangender); having no gender (being agender, nongendered, genderless, genderfree or neutrois); moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity (genderfluid)
SecretKeeperForever32
September 29th, 2015 4:03am
I am genderfluid. That means some days I identify as male, others as female. Another choice would be to identify as agender, or without any gender identity.
tomc18
December 18th, 2017 1:38pm
There are many different genders, and just because you don't identify as a boy or a girl does not mean you don't have a gender. You could be non-binary, and there are many more.
Oreo
July 21st, 2015 5:27pm
Agender, neutrois, bigender, non-binary, magiboy/magigirl. There's a lot of words out there and they all mean slightly different things. I recommend just looking under the "non-binary" category and finding which best suits your case.
amazingHeart17
October 2nd, 2015 11:29pm
There are many other genders as far as the LGBT+ community goes, however the most common ones other than identifying as male or female, is genderfluid or agender. There are also other genders such as bigender, trigender, and many more :)
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
May 20th, 2019 9:25pm
If you don't identify 100% as either a boy or a girl, your identity lies in the non-binary spectrum. Non-binary people do not identify as entirely male or female. It's a large spectrum, every non-binary person has a different identity with different and sometimes variable degrees of masculinity and femininity. There are also agender people, who don't identify with any gender at all, to any degree. Only you can understand what definition describes you better, but I also suggest to get in the contact with the non-binary community, that can be extremely helpful in helping you understand the reality of non-binarism and figuring out if it sounds like you.
FrantasticTea
February 6th, 2017 12:27am
Non-binary or gender queer. As far as I know, these are the two that people who don't identify as either male or female identify themselves as. I believe, however, that labels are just a way to have some sort of "organization" in a person's mind. Being confronted with ambiguity, people get confused and want to demand clarity on what or who you identify as. What ultimately matters though is how you see yourself, so you might not even end up feeling like you fit into being non-binary or gender queer or any other gender, but that's okay.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2021 11:18pm
Even though identity has been defined as binary in the mainstream, we have now come to realize, through scientific inquiry and research, that gender and gender identity exists on a spectrum. There is thus no need to limit yourself in terms of gender identity or expression. Find what feels right for you, what's right for you, and surround yourself with people who get you and what you are all about, gender-wise and otherwise. All in all, diversity is something to be celebrated, not feared, and this applies to gender identity as well. Good luck on your journey of discovery of self! :-)
calmZebra60
February 14th, 2017 6:53pm
Nonbinary is the blanket term. But there's things such as genderfluid, where it shifts from day to day. And agender, where you feel like neither.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2017 7:32am
It's completely normal to get confused during the stage of getting to know yourself. You may be identified as agender a.k.a. genderless. Or you may be just confused. You don't have to always identify yourself as something. You are you.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 11:00pm
There are a lot: you can be a demiboy/girl, which means you partially identify with one of the binary genders, you can be agender, genderless, nonbinary, genderfluid, genderflux, bigender, trigender, polygender, genderqueer, or many other things! There are a lot of genders out there; a good place to look for explanations is http://nonbinary.org/wiki/List_of_nonbinary_identities Best of luck, may you find a term that fits you!
Anonymous
June 19th, 2017 7:02pm
Maybe non binary would make sense for you. It is when you are neither an boy or a girl. You do not necessarily have to identify as one or the other.
lovingTree37
March 5th, 2018 8:53pm
Oh gosh uh there's non binary which is neither gender pronouns are they, them There's also gender fluid where you change genders day by day there are more you could Google but those are the most common uncommon genders
DoodleOodle
March 27th, 2018 5:09pm
There are many gender fluid individuals just like you! And it is completely normal to feel this way. Even people who identify as a male or female can have moments of gender fluidity and not even recognize it. Don't see yourself as something "other" than a man or a woman, instead recognize that these labels don't define all that you are, and accept that its okay to need to change them from time to time.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2019 6:01pm
Everybody feels different. We all have our own preferences and sometimes other people do not fit into them. The thing is that you need to find you. No one else can do that. Whether you choose to identify as one gender or another you need to find out what you want. So to answer the question of what other genders there are, does it really matter? Create your own gender. Make your gender something that reflects who you are. Not everyone identifies as a boy or girl or they. Some people create a whole new category just for them.
Poet021
March 2nd, 2020 11:42am
I'm sorry you're struggling with your gender identity. It must be very trying and confusing. Thank you for reaching out to us. There is agender (no gender at all), a demigirl/demiboy (where they identify with one gender more than the other), non binary (neither a girl, nor a boy. They're not bound by the usual gender binary in their gender identity and expression). There's genderfluid, where the gender of the person often changes and they feel more or less like a particular gender from time to time) and there's genderqueer, which is an umbrella term for everyone for everyone who identifies other than being Cisgender. You can identify in any way, and you can always choose to not label yourself. It doesn't make your gender identity or its expression less valid. In the end of the day, you're a beautiful human. ♡
Anonymous
April 17th, 2015 2:47am
Opposite to what you've might have learnt, gender is very fluid. There are many types of genders you could identify as, such as genderfluid or intersex. If you're looking for the specifications of each tag, google is your best friend!
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 5:27am
There are transgenders. genders who feel trapped in the wrong body. They should be accepted in our society. I understand that many religions condemn that, but this is something we should talk about.