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I dreamt about kissing someone of the same-sex, what does it mean ?

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starrySong95
September 9th, 2015 3:50pm
Dreams don't actually have as much meaning as some want to think, not with secret symbolism and all that. It most likely means that your a bit curious about the idea.
BerrySunset
February 10th, 2018 5:05pm
I think it depends on how you felt about the scenario. If you were repulsed, then it might be just a dream but if you enjoyed the kiss or maybe just wanted to try it again, then you might interest in people of the same sex as you. I suggest keeping an open mind and exploring possibilities within yourself.
Jazyjeff
January 21st, 2016 9:32pm
Well, that's actually completely normal, doesn't mean you're gay or anything maybe bi curious......
Anonymous
April 6th, 2019 5:06pm
It doesn't have to mean anything! Some dreams are just crazy and don't have any insight on who you are. If it's something you feel like you would want to do in the real world, it may mean that you aren't as straight as you thought. However, dreams shouldn't rule who you are. Also, depending on whether or not you kissed someone you know personally in your dream, that could mean you have a crush on them or something of the sort. No matter what your sexuality or gender or identity is, you are still accepted on 7 Cups and everywhere else!
richVision21
February 3rd, 2018 3:19am
it means you want to experience something new and maybe you're attracted to the same sex there's nothing wrong with that
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 7:25pm
Dreams often can be how we actually feel, our underlying thoughts, but they also can be just figments of our imagination. So if you dreamt of that, you might be attracted to the same sex and have not fully accepted or grasped it yet.
CaptainSparrow99
January 3rd, 2016 6:31am
Firstly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It doesn't have to mean anything. It could mean that you are interested in the same sex. It could mean that you're curious. It could mean that your dreams take you to random places. I wouldn't stress too much on it because it doesn't necessarily have to mean anything.
Potatofry
November 17th, 2017 9:08pm
It means that you like them and like the idea of kissing them. You could be gay/lesbian, bisexual or even pansexual. You need to figure out for yourself whether you want a label or just thought of kissing that particular person. Either way, please know that your identity IS valid. Be proud of it!
BlueBurns
January 8th, 2017 8:05pm
I hope you aren't worried or anything about this because there isn't any need for it at all :) Dreaming about kissing someone doesn't have to mean anything in specific all the time. It's alright and normal for a straight person to have a dream about kissing someone of the same sex. It doesn't mean they are gay or bi. It could be a casual dream just about kissing someone who happened to be of the same sex. However, the context of your dream does matter. Was it someone who have been attracted to for a while but you've been trying to sort of stay clear from those thoughts? Was the dream detailed? Things like that. This could possibly mean that you experience same sex attraction and that you have been repressing it. Or simply, it's a dream manifestation of your inner feelings which aren't really repressed or so. Although I'm not entirely a believer of dream analysis (this isn't even an attempt at one haha), this could mean that you are queer. Of course this shouldn't be the sole basis of your conclusion that you're gay or bi or queer. There's so many other things that happen in real life that play into it and this dream was probably just a hint about it. It may or may not mean that you aren't straight. Either way, bottomline: It's completely alright to have a dream like you did :) Hope you aren't worried so much. Cheers!
shadowhawk
January 24th, 2018 6:11pm
it doesn't mean anything, just do what feels good, life is simple dont over think :) and if that feels good then go ahead, just be sure to be safe.
freefromworries
October 16th, 2016 8:46pm
It could mean something, but it doesn't have to! A lot of people have dreams that don't have a reason behind them. A simple dream does not mean much of anything.
SnoOnTheBluff
October 24th, 2016 2:11pm
I personally have never put much stock into dreams, I subscribe to the ideal that they are just the brains way of filing away information while you sleep. Dreams sometimes don't make sense and sometimes you do things in a dream you'd never do in real life. Or maybe you just want to kiss some cute same sex people. Who knows!
gracefulSunshine62
November 27th, 2015 6:06am
It could be just a dream. A dream doesn't determine if you are gay or not. But it could mean it is on your mind. When I was questioning I thought about the significance to my dreams, thoughts, preferences. But really the only one who can determine how you identify or the significance of anything is you. If you choose a label that you feel you identify with that is 100% cool! If you don't want a label or you still feel like you identify as straight that is cool too and 100% valid!
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 6:55pm
Well it might not mean anything but it might hint at the fact that you're curious about kissing someone of the same-sex or you really want to. Sexuality is weird and confusing and I know that sometimes we tend to deny ourselves of who we are when we want to try and "be normal" but there is no true "normal". So maybe you should really think about what it means to you - have you thought about it while you're awake? have you ever wanted to do it outside your dreams? No matter what you realize about yourself, who you are is good enough and you will always be loved by someone no matter your sexuality. It's up to you to determine what it means to you but just know you have a whole family of support on here at 7cups!
Emkabuu19
November 28th, 2015 11:22am
For me it was nothing special because I already knew that I like girls, but for others it can mean nothing, because it is just a dream. What really matters is will you act on it?
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 9:44am
It can be just a dream. It does not have to mean something. But, when the day comes and you have some feelings for someone of the same-sex, then it means that you probably are gay or bisexual.
floatingonclouds
November 29th, 2015 12:28pm
Nothing in general. There could be a possibility of you having sexual feelings, but it doesn't mean anything in general.
WinterDog
April 20th, 2017 12:59pm
Maybe you are attracted to the same sex or maybe it was just your sub conscious randomly dreaming about it for no reason or to convey a different meaning (a lot of dreams are cryptic) It's nothing to get too hung up about, hope you have a great day :)
peachicus
October 30th, 2016 11:33am
I found this, maybe it will help. "If you are not homosexual in your waking life, but dream of having sex with someone of the same sex, it’s about your self-esteem. Depending on how the dream plays out, this same sex dream is about loving parts of yourself that you’ve been less than accepting of. Homosexual sex with a friend may be a commentary about some rift between you, insecurities about the friendship, or some quality or talent they have that you emulate. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you secretly want to sleep with your best friend."
Butterfly121
November 3rd, 2016 10:17pm
It could mean you arent straight, or it could mean nothing at all! Plenty of straight people have had romantic feelings towards the same sex and still been straight.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 2:30am
It could mean something or it could also mean nothing. It means whatever you want it to mean. It could lead to you questioning your sexuality, which is completely valid, but also it could just be a one time dream and you may dismiss it as that. Whatever you decide is the right choice.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2016 7:01am
It might mean that you're just curious about the same-sex. It doesn't mean you're sexually interested. Just that you're curious about what it'd be like.
mcla
November 9th, 2016 3:30pm
It doesn't necessarily mean that you are attracted to the same sex if that is what you're thinking. Sometimes its curiosity kicking in
destielwins
November 10th, 2016 8:27pm
Nothing really. A lot of people dream about just that while still being 100% straight. But even if it were to mean something else, that would be okay! But as long as you're just honest to yourself you will be fine.
JamesLGBT
November 16th, 2016 5:54am
Well, i remember my first time having a dream about a member of the same-sex. It was shocking, but interesting at the same time. It helped me define who I am today!
IAmSherlocked123
February 14th, 2018 4:07pm
It doesn't have to mean anything. Everyone has dreams they can't explain every once in a while. You can't control the things you dream. It could mean that you're LGBT, but it doesn't necessarily have to be that way.
LotusFriend
February 24th, 2018 9:44pm
Dreams are reflections of what we see when we're awake. If you saw two people kissing (or kissed someone yourself), your brain stored the memory. If you saw someone of the same sex, your brain stored that memory too. Then, when you were asleep, your brain processed the memories by mashing them all together in a dream. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, but if you feel you'd want to do that in real life, then it might mean you have a bigger dating pool than you originally thought.
JayaJr626
February 20th, 2018 11:26pm
This is really common. If you identify as a straight person, this kind of dream doesn't necessarily mean you are lgbtq+ or have lgbtq+ desires in your real, awake, life. The dream world allows you explore the full scope of your sexuality, but doesn't necessarily reflect on your actions irl. I wish you the best of luck
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 2:03pm
Your dreams don't really mean anything, It could just be a compressed thought you have been having and you keep form thanking about but while your sleeping that thought comes up and it can explain why
Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 2:13pm
In dreams kisses often mean having a conversation with someone, so it's not actually about kissing someone. Dreams are very symbolic at times.