I dreamt about kissing someone of the same-sex, what does it mean ?
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don't look deep into it. it could mean you're homosexual, pansexual, bisexual or even asexual, but it doesn't matter because dreams are not reality and at the end of the day, even in dreams, love is love
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 7:52pm
You are either fantasizing about it or you are confused about your sexuality. But in some cases, it doesn't mean a thing. This is nothing to worry about, we explore our sexuality and identity as we grow, we all are a work in progress :)
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 5:42am
Dreaming about it doesn't necessarily mean anything, regarding your real feelings about it.
If you've been attracted to any same-sex individual in your wake time, you may want to look into that.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:53am
That might mean that you could be either gay or lesbian depending on your gender. You always have time to figure out how you are.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:20am
A dream can mean anything, but if you're questioning your sexuality, keep an open mind so you can discover your true self without anyone's opinion stopping you.
In my experience this doesn't have to mean anything. Even when you /consciously/ imagine kissing someone of the same gender, it doesn't automatically mean you're gay. It's perfectly normal for your mind to explore different types of situations and interactions, even if it's just for curiosity's sake.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2016 10:44pm
It means whatever you want it to mean. You could be attracted to the same sex, or it could just be you subconscious mind being a weirdo. If you are attracted to the same-sex, then good for you! But I wouldn't place too much importance on dreams; often they're not as important as people think they are, and they rarely mean what you think they mean.
There is nothing wrong with that, dreams can mean many different things and sometimes no one knows why the dreamt something they did, but it's nothing to worry about, and I wouldn't worry to much about it either!
Anonymous
January 25th, 2017 1:31am
You may just be curious or attracted to the same sex. But that does not mean that you must be gay. You could be attracted to the same sex but not sexual with them
It means nothing. Dreams are formed from a part of your brain that stores thoughts and memories. Everyone has curious thoughts that we don't share with others. Whether we embrace those thoughts or decide we don't want to explore them, we CAN dream of them. Concentrate on the conscious thoughts you have throughout the day. Those are the thoughts we might want to explore further. :)
It can all depend on the circumstance. If you've never had a dream like that or felt any kind of attraction to the same sex before, it could just as well mean nothing, especially if you're an adolescent or young adult (this age tends to be a time for questioning your identity, including gender and sexuality). If you've experienced dreams or feelings like this before, you might just be starting to have feelings for the same gender, or have the potential for feelings, which is nothing to be worried about or ashamed of! There are plenty of resources and accepting groups or people you can access/get in touch with if you're questioning your sexuality, like the LGBT chatroom right here on 7cups!
It doesn't have to mean anything. If they believe they may like the same sex, they could reasearch and look into it. And maybe they find they are gay or lesbian or any part of the LGBTQ+ community.
The answer is going to be different for every individual. For some folks same-sex, sex dreams might be your subconscious trying to tell you something or be a part of a sexual fantasy. For other people, these dreams might be representing something totally different. Maybe you are feeling close to someone of the same sex, or have an issue with a person that needs to be resolved.
People have dreams every night that they don't understand. If you think your sleeping mind might be trying to tell you something, it might be a good idea to see how you feel exploring same sex feelings when you are awake.
If possible, try not to worry about it too much!
As we see or hear things around us we can be naturally curious. Thoughts like these can be your subconscious processing something that has caught your attention or it could be a prompt for you to spend some time thinking about your feelings and desires. Be honest and open with yourself
Anonymous
March 11th, 2017 2:29pm
You're the expert on you! While it's easy to say that that may mean that you're experiencing feelings of attraction towards members of the same sex, that doesn't have to be the case. It might be worth exploring how you feel about members of the same sex, and trying to decide if there may be something in your life causing you to repress those feelings - but if not? Don't sweat it. Dreams don't have to have any meaning.
I think that it's okay to explore all sorts of new things and that could be that you're exploring your sexuality, it's totally normal, maybe ask some lgbt+ people about their experiences or look into reading more on the Internet!
Maybe it means something and maybe it doesn't mean anything. It is all about how you are feeling in real life, about who you feel attracted to. If you don't feel attracted to same sex in real life, the dream probably doesn't mean anything at all.
As a person who's into dream interpretations, the most common meaning behind a dream where the dreamer kissed a person of the same-sex is self-acceptance. Or it could mean that you need some sort of comfort in your daily life in order to become who you really are. Those are the two big ones.
However, if you feel like there's more to it, you may desire to be with a person of the same-sex. It's all how you interpret it.
Ask yourself: What do you think this means? What connection do you think this dream has to your daily life, emotions, and/or thoughts? Why do you think you dreamt about kissing someone of the same-sex?
Have fun interpreting! (:
Anonymous
April 5th, 2017 9:13am
This may not even mean anything. Your dreams are just your mind creating a story, really. I know that I, for example, have completely meaningless dreams. Don't assume that there's any meaning behind it - if you're straight, then it's probably just a weird dream.
Dreams don't really mean much. But the fact that you're still thinking about it and questioning what it means might indicate that this is a topic you might want to think about rather frankly. If you don't feel as though you want to kiss people of your own gender after really thinking about it, you can just dismiss it as one of those wacky dreams for now. And if it turns out you do like them later- well you can always look back on this question and smile XD
Honestly, not too much - don't get too worried. It could mean you want to try experimenting with someone of the same sex as you, it could not. I had a few similar dreams and now, a couple years on, I feel confident in my sexuality - and the dreams had little impact. Think about how you felt about the dream - did you like it? Do you like it now you're awake? Focus on yourself, and how you react to different ideas. But really, don't worry because dreams, while important as a 'gateway' to your subconscious, don't decide your sexuality.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2017 11:44pm
A dream doesn't always necessarily mean something. This can show self-acceptance, or perhaps an interest in the same-sex, but dreams do not always mean something real and you don't have to feel pressured by this. There is nothing wrong about dreaming about this, we have no control over our dreams! It's natural and perfectly fine.
It means nothing unless you want to do it while you're awake then you might be gay or bisexual which isn't a bad thing
Anonymous
April 16th, 2017 3:35pm
You may be attracted to the same sex. Think about how you would feel about being with someone of both genders. Remember that there will always be people out there to support you for your sexuality.
Dream are always a tricky subject, they sometimes project our fantasies, our desires sometimes curiosity or a movie we watched.
Some of the sex dreams usually mean a admiration or attraction to someone.. May not mean anything, cause some people kiss their ulter ego in dreams. 😊 see, could mean anything.
What you should really know is how do you feel about kissing someone of the same gender when conscious ? And who is this person you were kissing.
It could just be a dream, or a sign you are interested in the same sex. Dreams often are odd and have interesting stuff in them so it could just be that. Or you are interested in the same sex. Both are a possibility.
It means you are human! We are all attracted to different people and different things and that's okay. Sometimes, dreams are just dreams though, and don't actually mean anything. If you feel it would be okay, try talking to friends and family members who might be able to talk with you through it.
It could very well just be a dream. Have you ever had thoughts about someone of the same sex while awake? If so, that's perfectly natural! It doesn't mean you're gay. BUT, if you ARE gay, that's perfectly natural, too! Don't feel ashamed of your thoughts no matter WHAT!
Personally, it was something abstract like dreams that first led me to begin questioning my sexuality. Soon after, I discovered I was bisexual. But, I've had straight friends who have definitely considered kissing someone of the same-sex, dreamt about it, and even did it, and they are still straight. It depends on you, personally, and if any other feelings develop out of the dream.
Likely, nothing. Dreams are wonky things that can have any number of meanings, and it is really possible that they don't actually contain meaning and are more in the order of general hallucinations that your mind just uses to help itself catalog your memories.
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