I feel like a boy but sometimes I see myself as a girl. Am I really trans?

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Last Updated: 05/21/2019 at 11:51pm
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LightDragon
April 29th, 2019 3:12pm
If you see yourself as both, you could be neither trans nor cisgender. If you see yourself as a girl while feeling like a male, the term ‘bigender’, or ‘two-genders’. Your question mentions sometimes seeing yourself as a girl, and feeling like a boy. This would mean that you could be ‘demiboy’- a gender that is constantly part male while the other part fluxuates a little- it can be between male and female, in your case. In the end, it’s up to you on how you want to view your gender identity and how you wish to express it.
LittleSpaz412
January 5th, 2018 8:01pm
Hello, if you need someone to talk to, I would love to help you out. You can identify however you’d like, but you don’t have to identify at all. No one is waiting on you to make a decision, and I hope that you find yourself and are happy with your discovery!
Aayla - Expert in LGBTQ+
May 21st, 2019 11:51pm
If you don't feel 100% boy nor 100% girl, then probably your gender identity is non-binary. Non-binary people do not identify as one single gender, their gender identity is flexible, and the degree to which they feel like a boy or a girl is variable and different for everyone. Trans people, on the other hand, identify all the time as one single gender, different from the biological sex they were born with.
enbyemu
November 8th, 2017 7:38pm
Trans is a possibility. However, there's also thins within the umbrella label of "nonbinary" to consider - such as "gender fluid". Or you could just be a man who enjoys feminine things. All of the above is possible. I'd suggest doing some reading on what the different gender identities are and see if any of those click. A lot of experimentation and "soul searching" (for lack of a better term) will probably be very helpful as well.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2018 11:08pm
Not necessarily, you might be non-binary. Figuring out and accepting your identity might be hard, but we're all here for you if you need help, good luck 💕!!