i know i def like boys, but i’ve had sex dreams w girls and i don’t mind the thought of it or dating a girl. i’ve never had a crush on a girl tho. am i just looking too much into it?

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April 9th, 2018 2:33pm
It's perfectly normal to wonder what type of attraction you are experiencing. Sexuality is fluid which means it can change over time, so just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't necessarily mean that it won't in the future. It's possible you're bisexual or some variation of this term, just take your time and don't feel pressured to slap a label on it because other are.
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April 23rd, 2019 9:51am
Having had an actual crush on a girl, or any kind of experience with them, is not necessary to define your sexuality. It's more about your desires and the attraction you feel. If you feel like you could be attracted towards both boys and girls, no matter if you ever had feelings for anyone in particular, that is enough to define yourself as bisexual, if you feel like it matches who you are. Maybe you just haven't found girls that give you that particular feelings, but if you find women attractive to you and you wouldn't mind dating one, it is likely that you are bisexual. But after all, labeling yourself is not mandatory, so you may identify with whatever you feel is closest to you or give yourself not label at all. What matters the most is that you live your life freely and happily, and if you'll ever feel the need to label yourself, you can do that whenever you feel like!
July 8th, 2019 2:57am
Well to be quite honest i’ve experienced the same things before but maybe you might be able to look into more and discover your sexuality by being more open to new things , it might be overwhelming but trying out new things will help you discover your sexuality and what you might be into or not . of course if you aren’t comfortable with that you can always talk about it to others who might have similar feelings as you do ,you shouldn’t be ashamed to feel that way because most people will have this feeling plenty of times