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i think i am bisexual but i would love to date and kiss both men and woman but i would only have sex with the opposite sex as having sex with the same sex makes me cringe what does this mean?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2019 at 8:39am
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Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
August 6th, 2019 8:39am
It sounds like your romantic and sexual orientations are diverget, which can happen! Given what you say it sounds like you are a biromantic heterosexual.
affableLake8462
July 8th, 2018 10:09pm
I do not have much of an answer to this as I have the same thoughts myself and struggle to define or “label” my sexuality. I don’t think it has to mean anything except that’s just what you like and what you’re into. It seems you’re attracted to both male and females but would only seek a sexual relationship with the opposite gender. I’ve found that having a distinct label for your sexual identity can be helpful for some and harmful and unnecessary for others. I myself like to use the word “queer” to identify my sexuality because it’s a general umbrella term that doesn’t require me to explain the complications and the things I don’t yet understand about my own sexuality. Either way, however you call it, it’s perfectly okay to feel this way and even not be sure exactly how you feel (:
Year2010
July 17th, 2018 11:03pm
If having sex with the same sex makes you feel like that trust me your not bi sexual, your just confused because you probably went through something so it’s turning you off of guys but most likely it will pass! But you’ll know if your bi sexual best way to know for sure is to have sex with the same sex see how it is if you don’t like then never talk about it again
SupportiveAce
July 22nd, 2018 8:09pm
It means you’re biromantic heterosexual. You are romantically attracted to either but you’re not sexually attracted to the opposite
Sunnyboyo
November 6th, 2018 6:15am
Sexuality is a very fluid and specific to you thing, it’s it’s something that may take you a while to figure out. But that’s okay! You’re valid whether you have a label that you like to stick to, sometimes feel different than you did the day before, if you know exactly what your feeling, or anything in between! That being said, it sounds like you could possibly be bi-romantic (romantically attracted to male and females), and heterosexual (interesting in having sex with only the opposite gender). Don’t take my word for it though! Only you know what you feel. Good luck!!
Oliewinstonfieldhere
May 6th, 2019 12:31am
There are a couple possibilities with your situation. First, it might be worth your time to reflect on yourself and see if the reason you react so negatively to the thought of sex with a person of the same sex, yet like the idea of a romantic relationship, is a form of internalized homophobia (for example, being raised in a homophobic household can lead to an individual reacting negatively to or have difficulty coming to terms with their own sexuality but not necessarily being homophobic towards others). However, that is just one possibility. You might instead be experiencing romantic/ sexual attraction towards the opposite sex and only romantic attraction towards the same sex, which is a form of bisexuality/ romanticism. Remember you can still be "bi" without both sexual and romantic attraction towards both sexes, you can have one type of attraction as long as it is towards both.