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If you could choose, would you have preferred to have a different sexuality then you have?

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Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 11:58pm
Yes. I'm bisexual, and it would be easier, I think, to be either gay or straight. it's hard being any, I know, but being bi, one of the in the middle sexualites, you're subject to a lot of questions, and sometimes it's really difficult to be proud of it, and not ashamed.
geovanisouza92
April 6th, 2015 12:20pm
No. But I already asked myself how it could be. My spirituality teaches that every aspect of our lives is planned to be a challenge to self knowledge and spiritual growing. So, I'm fine with that. :D
Anonymous
February 27th, 2015 2:52am
Simple answer, no. (Longer answer)Throughout my life, there were moments when I felt so alone, broken and different...I wished and yearned to be accepted and for a long time that made me wished I was what everyone would consider normal...even got me to pretend and tried to force myself to be something I'm not. But as life taught me lessons, I learned that I didn't preferred to be a different sexuality, that "being straight" wouldn't solve the problem because I wasn't the only one struggling and everyone deserved the same love and acceptance. So I learned not to wish or dream to be something I'm not and instead to do my very best to be comfortable with who I am and give others a space to feel happy being who they are.
deserve
March 2nd, 2015 5:46pm
We all want to be accepted. Some time ago I would, but I came to a conclusion that it's the way I am, and to be truly happy I need to be proud of who I am. It may not be a easy thing to do, but it's worth it. Being happy with yourself.
peacefulLight8704
October 15th, 2019 10:14pm
No, that isn't for me! I'm bi, and to be honest I'm pretty glad and comfortable in it. i honestly don't see why I would want to change it personally, and it is the best of both worlds! If you are a person who is questioning his or her sexuality, i think that the best thing that you can do is to for one, not force labels onto yourself. Those will come with time. And two, just try to accept it. Accept your wants, needs, and preferences. They are nothing for you to ever, ever be ashamed of. Best wishes!
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
August 19th, 2019 2:07am
Luckily, we can't choose! And I say luckily, because diversity is precious and beautiful. I wouldn't choose a different orientation but rather a different society, a more inclusive and open-minded one. But our orientations are part of who we are, they are our way to love and be happy, and they're all beautiful.
BellaStorm17
February 26th, 2018 8:48am
That’s a very interesting question.Actually,no because I’m very happy with who I am right now and don’t feel the need to change that.
avocadoallyson
February 7th, 2017 7:50pm
I would not choose to have a different sexuality because my sexuality represents my true self and my true emotions.
yourcelena
May 11th, 2021 9:43am
I am a heterosexual female. I enjoy being straight and dating men. I have never thought of choosing a different sexuality for myself and that is probably because I have always been satisfied with my current sexuality. So no, I would not have preferred a different sexuality from the one that I have now. I do find people from the Lgbtq+ community very inspiring and interesting and I support them 100%. If I were forced to choose though, then I would have chosen to be pansexual because I am very respectful towards all genders and sexualities and would love to date someone who is different from my normal type.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2017 3:56am
I'm honestly proud of the sexuality that I have. Everyone else should also be proud of who they are :) I wouldn't change myself from anything other than what I already am.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2017 9:37pm
I think that a long time a go I would have answered yes but not today because I think being gay or straight would have been so much easier because I kind of would have had an easier way of figuring it out. Though now I would say no because if I hadn't gone through what I did I wouldn't be who I am today. I am proud of being pansexual because I don't care about what gender a person is or what genitals they have, I care about who they truly are on the inside❤️❤️
tranquilPomegranate61
April 11th, 2017 8:06pm
No, I am happy the way I am, and not being sure what you are, is just as awesome, because caring about people is amazing
radiantFireworks51
September 19th, 2017 6:36am
Yes, I am bisexual and I'd have even preferred to be lesbian rather than bi, but obviously I'd much rather be straight as it would be so much easier not having to come out then suffer from homophobic people
goldie1275
October 10th, 2017 2:14am
No, definitely not. I think my sexuality is a part of who I am, and has made me more generous and accepting of other kinds of differences. I would not have had the same kind of relationships with other people in the LGBT+ community, and have met so many people like me who are supportive and loving for who I am. I'm very grateful for my sexuality, and has not made things more complicated for me, but better.
Scorpio71
November 7th, 2017 12:23am
This I have definitely struggled with; most of my life sometimes I really think I should have been born the opposite but something went wrong in utero I guess
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 1:34pm
you mean, gender? I believed that I had to be a boy my entire life but i was born as a female, it was causing too much anxiety but now, i see that, the way i saw myself was not because i had a male brain, but the standards of society telling that females (or males) must be in a certain shape, behave or talk in a certain way and other irrelevant stuff. so once i got that opportunity to get into an environment where these features were not required and people were not judgemental, i discovered that i was really a female, just not so feminine. So I still wouldn't mind being a boy, but no, I am okay with it now.
Potatofry
December 25th, 2017 10:39am
Let's start by saying that I'm bi and proud.This is whose I am, who I was meant to be and I don't I would have been created like this if it were meant to be changed. Moreover I am in a happy relationship with the lady of my dreams who accepts me just as I am, so even that factor would not prompt me to change my sexuality. My sexuality isn't exactly widely accepted in my country but that does not concern me much. All in all, if given a chance to change my sexuality, I don't think I would.
Allears247
July 23rd, 2018 8:14pm
No, my sexuality is apart of who I am and I take pride in who I am and who I have become. I think that being gay has it attributes and gives you experiences that heterosexual people may never get to experience.
peacefulconvos
February 18th, 2019 2:45am
No, i definitely wouldn’t. Sexuality is something that’s part of me, however it does not define me as a person, i’m still me! In today’s world, sexuality is indeed a sensitive and difficult topic to talk about and share openly, we have to understand this, but i assure you, the first step is to accept your sexuality and embrace it, deep down try to be content with who you are, i promise it will make you feel good! So, with that being said, please, if anyone feels unhappy with their sexuality, i assure you you don’t have anything to feel bad about, the only thing that shows how we are is how much we try to be what we want to be everyday, choose to be better and never doubt yourself.
RaCat
December 19th, 2016 9:28pm
No. I know it can be hard to be the part of LGBT as there are plenty of people who are judging us and who are hating us but I would never change the way I love and who I love. Because it's who I am and nobody has right to criticize it :/ #LGBTQ
Greatlistener87
June 27th, 2016 6:31am
There are people who are very happy of where there are in their sexuality and there are others who are confused or not sure. The idea is for you to find the sexuality that makes you feel comfortable and yourself the most. Most importantly that you are happy being in that sexuality.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 8:49pm
After everything that I have been through just because of being "straight", if I could choose? I would definitely have preferred to have a different sexuality than the one I have now because I think I would rather be attracted to the same sex as I. As long as I don't get hurt? I'd have no problem choosing a different sexuality (if I could) but i can't :) but I am content with the sexuality I have now.
Adoredmango
May 31st, 2016 9:45am
That's hard because it means I could be like everyone else but I'd answer no my sexuality is part of me and if that means I'm not like everyone then I'll do that
julesap3
May 30th, 2016 4:08pm
In my opinion, no not really. I am fine with being asexual, it's just who I am. Some people don't understand, and I've been told being asexual wasn't a real thing. I don't care. My feelings are valid.
evalis
May 23rd, 2016 9:28pm
No I won't. It was hard enough finding myself finally and I don't want to give that up even though my life would be a lot easier if I was of a different sexuality.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2016 2:21am
No because I feel fine with who I am and I think that as long as I feel okay and enjoy living the life I do with who I want then it's okay. I'm fine with my sexuality whether or not other people accept it.
King0fclubs
February 12th, 2016 4:04am
Sometimes I wish I were asexual, (Straight Cis Hetero-normative Male) It would make my life a lot less frustrating and despairing. Like A-Romantic Asexual...
justamoose
February 10th, 2016 9:34pm
im pan so im really up for anything . so i think im good with my tastes. though it would be easier if i were straight i guess.
Heavenlyhorizons
August 31st, 2015 6:19pm
No not at all. I'm content with my sexuality. At first when I discovered I was bi I wished I could be straight to fit in. But I've learn a lot through the past couple of years. I know that being bisexual isn't a choice and I've learned to accept who I am. Being bi is just a small part of all that I have to offer as an individual so I wouldn't change it. I encourage all of you to love yourself for who you truly are! Don't change for anyone
Anonymous
July 27th, 2015 6:58pm
I know you mean orientation but I'm going to talk about a thing that's more important to me. I would choose to be able to enjoy sex even when I don't absolutely perfectly trust the person in every way. I know this has kept me out of a lot of bad situations but it's also making me miserable. I want to be able to have some fun with someone even when the conditions aren't absolutely perfect. I would also like to be attracted only to people who are attracted to me and will admit it.