I'm a 14 year old boy, I've had many girlfriends, kissed and some petting, I watch straight and lesbian porn, but I watch gay porn aswell does that make me gay?
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It does not mean you're gay, no. The first thing to note is that sexuality is a very large spectrum, it can be very fluid; that's to say different things can attract us at different times. Simply by the nature of you being attracted to gay pornography is not any reason for you to label yourself as gay. At the same time, you say you're attracted to straight and lesbian porn too; this would obviously negate you being gay. I would suggest you take your attractions as they come, and accept them; they can be very fluid and crazy, especially in our teen years. Just continue as you do, and if one day you start to notice an obvious pattern, then maybe then you can start to think about labeling yourself as something on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. Best of luck and much love
No, it doesn't necessarily make you gay, because I watch straight, gay and lesbian porn but I'm 99.9% straight.
Well, there technically isn't a "straight" sexuality anyway. A study showed that women who watched lesbian porn were turned on, even though they were straight. Same went for dudes. Your pupil expands over 50% when looking at something you like. This happened with the subjects' eyes. This doesn't mean come out to your parents because gay porn turns you on. If you like gay porn, but you're straight, its totally okay.
What determines your sexuality is not the porn you watch or the experience you have, it's all about the attraction you feel. Think about guys and girls, try to imagine yourself with them and see what makes you feel good. Analyzing your feelings towards real people in real life is the way to find your identity. There are some people who watch porn that doesn't align with their orientation, and it doesn't necessarily mean anything.
There are a lot of people who watch all kinds of porn, and just because you watch gay porn and identify as a male doesn't mean your gay.
It's natural to feel confused about your sexuality! There is nothing wrong with experimenting to figure out what you like an what you don't like and It's okay if you don't know how you identify sexually yet, there is no rush to have this all figured out. In my opinion, the type of porn you watch does not define your sexuality as only you can truly define how you identify. I really appreciate your willingness to be open about this
No. Everyone has their own sexual preference or likings. If you watch gay related porn then you could possibly be bi where you like both genders within sexual interactions. That's up to you to decide though. There's also nothing wrong with being bi or gay. Expierementing is what helps a lot of people discover or understand their own sexual preferances. Watching porn as well isn't always a clear answer as to what you are sexuality wise, just because you watch those things doesn't mean you could be into it with that same gender, so always take that into account. Porn isn't the real world and a lot of their stuff is for personal entertainment rather than real world.
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