There are some that theorize that no one is entirely heterosexual. Being attracted to one girl doesn't automatically mean you're bisexual or lesbian, but it also doesn't mean you're not. You can be primarily attracted to one gender and still occasionally be attracted to a member of another. There is a LOT of terminology out there that may or may not be helpful to you. If you find something that sounds right, great! If not, that's okay! Your next steps are going to be a lot of soul-searching and research. Maybe even a little experimenting if you're comfortable with it? And talking to people who will be supportive of your journey is always a plus. If you don't have anyone in your life you'd be comfortable talking with, you can always come to the LGBTQ+/MOGII subcommunity and chat with people there!
It makes you human. Some people in the lgbtq+ community are very attached to the terms and names that come along with them. But now this community has grown so widely, and all the names and terms that come with it have become more complicated. If you are a member how likes the stability of having a name or term to call yourself by, that is totally fine, but remember that the very foundation of this community is that you can love whoever you want to and that it is fine. You're human, it's only natural to love other human beings :)
Did you find this post helpful?
February 7th, 2018 1:42am
If you don't feel comfortable labeling yourself bisexual, because this is the only girl. Then there's another label called "heteroflexible" which is mainly being attracted to the opposite gender, but occasionally you'll fall for the same gender.
That makes you human, and very lucky to have found someone who interests you! I wish the best for you, and if you feel you need support with identifying your sexual preference labels, there is a fantastic LGBT support group chat on 7Cups, dig in and be open with yourself!
If this person is someone you feel a deep intellectual/emotional connection to, and you're attracted only to her, you could be demisexual. Being demisexual implies only feeling attraction towards people you feel deeply connected in the way I previously mentioned. If you feel like this only about her, and you can't picture yourself with or feel attracted to people you don't have this connection with, this could be your case. Whether this attraction could potentially involve any gender or just one, is something that changes for everybody. But you can live your life and just follow your heart, and use whatever label fits you better!