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I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual, but I love this girl not in a sexual manner. Is it possible to be sexually attracted to males but romantically attracted to females?

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Last Updated: 09/29/2020 at 8:57pm
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Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
June 10th, 2019 6:33am
Yes. Romantic and sexual orientations do not always coincide. It is possible to be hetero/homo/bi/...sexual and hetero/homo/bi/...romantic. Any combination of the two orientations is possible, even if people often only talk about sexual orientation, due to the frequent coincidence of the two. But you're free to label yourself with any identity that sounds like you!
Anonymous
July 16th, 2019 11:57pm
It’s not as common, but most definitely possible! Sometimes we feel more of a sexual attraction to people, and other times we feel more romantic attraction towards people! I don’t think there is a particular ‘label’ for this yet, although I’m not a professional so I could be wrong! However, this doesn’t mean it’s impossible! It’s okay to not be 50% attracted to guys, and 50% attracted to girls in the exact same way. Humans are always changing and having ‘phases’ of sorts! Some days you may feel 80% attracted to girls, while other days you may just be 20% attracted to girls, when compared to guys! If you feel you are bisexual, then you are bisexual, even if it seems your love for different genders isn’t the same!
McGrace
August 2nd, 2019 12:05pm
You are confused with the sexual-orientation as "Love". Sexual attraction may or may not involve the emotional part, but both the things are different. When you said "Bi-sexual", it means that you get sexual enjoyment with both kind of sex - male and female. You still may feel "love" or "emotional attachments" for anyone irrespective of their sex or sexual identity. So, yes, it is possible to feel a special bonding, and get romantically attracted to females, even if someone is gay (feels sexual attraction only for same sex). There is no direct linking (in most of the cases) between who you feel emotionally attached to, and what is their sex.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2020 6:37pm
it's not only possible but also absolutely valid and not that uncommon. it's important to distinguish romantic attraction from sexual attraction because, although for some people they aline, other people may find themselves confused by their feelings, not being able to differentiate between them. it sounds like you're one of them. i assure you it's completely okay to feel romantic feelings towards one gender and sexual attraction towards the other. if you feel like talking with someone who experiences similar struggles, i'm certain you can find a community online where you can discuss your insecurities. wish you the best of luck
Fradiga
July 27th, 2020 10:13pm
Yes it does happen. Given a chance, we can all have a passionate friendship with anyone, no matter what your respective genders are. Such friendship does not need to be sealed sexually. One hopes that the person you are romantically involved with also feels that she is comfortable with the situation. However, such relationship is seldom exclusive and you may need to allow some wiggle room so both of you are comfortable with your relationship. You will need to have a heart-to-heart talk to be sure that you are in the same place. You will find out that these relationships are more common that you think.
EmmaBoston
September 29th, 2020 8:57pm
Yes! Human sexuality is complicated and has so many layers. Our romantic and sexual attractions can be the same, or they can vary as might be the case for you. You might feel romantic attraction to some genders but sexually attracted to others. Those groups might overlap, but they also might not! You're normal, and you're normal for thinking about this. Some other terms you might want to look into to see if the definitions match any part of your experience might be demisexual or asexual. Demisexual generally means only being sexually attracted to people you're very close with and have a tight, usually romantic connection with. Asexual would be the absence of sexual attraction. Hope this helps, or gives you some things to think about!