Is it okay to be confused around your sexuality?

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positiveWhisper24 - Expert in LGBTQ+
March 14th, 2015 12:11am
Of course! Human sexuality is complex, and often fluid, especially in women. It can change as you grow into it. Don't worry about it if you are confused.
TheGreyFixer
January 11th, 2016 6:08pm
Yes, it's perfectly fine to be confused. Sexuality isn't clear-cut, and it's not always set in stone either, so it's easy to find yourself in a bit of a quandary. Just relax and do what you feel like doing. There's no need to put yourself in a box or stress yourself out unnecessarily thinking about it.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2015 2:35am
Yes, it is definitely okay! Sexuality can be very confusing, and hard to figure out. It is best to take your time. You don't need to put a label on yourself if you are not comfortable doing so.
Greatlistener87
April 26th, 2016 4:19am
That is actually normal. Sexuality is a really complicated thing and it takes time and effort to discover. Take your time to go through this confusion as it is important not to rush into anything. This is because it will effect you for your future.
Rebecca
February 24th, 2015 3:38am
Of course it is! Sexuality can be very fluid, meaning it, along with your preferences, can change. For some people, one day they may prefer men, and the next, they prefer women. That is of course using binary terms. Someone could also one day prefer someone who doesn't identify with a gender. The point is, sexuality isn't a concrete thing. It is slightly different for every person, and has a slightly different meaning for every person. Some ideas may be more popular than others, but that doesn't mean it is right. There is no definite right or wrong answer. The trick is to find the best answer for you, and that might take some time. Good luck
kindheartedSun3
August 1st, 2015 9:51am
Yes, it is okay to be confuse. It's how you figure things out..
Emma16
May 17th, 2016 5:27am
Yes. I think in our culture there is this idea that you have to rush to figure it out and then come out, and it shouldn't be like that. Take your time, explore, live your life. In time, things will become more clear. If a label fits and you want to use it, great. If you don't want to identify with any label, that's great too. You love who you love and you're attracted to who you're attracted to and thats 100% okay. Just let it flow and be natural.
genuineSeal64
March 8th, 2015 2:10pm
Yes! There's a mix of them you just have to find where you feel comfortable, then once your comfortable you can then define your sexuality :)
Mac21
May 3rd, 2015 2:17pm
Of course! It's also okay to take some time experimenting to figure everything out, don't put pressure on yourself to know exactly what your sexuality is.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2015 11:26am
it is totally okay, because everyone sometimes think's they're gay .. lol just kidding but i'm serious, it's OKAY. Why wouldn't it? love has NO gender, i personally think we fall for a soul, but some people do indeed like boobas or anything else that i won't get banned for SORRY!!! but still, it doesnt matter because love is love...... dont blame yourself, enjoy the love you feel... wheter its a man, a woman, who cares?
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 5:04am
Yes! Absolutely. Sexuality is different for each person--no two experiences are exactly a like! It's perfectly normal to feel a bit confused or like your sexuality defies labels. Remember: The labels are there as a tool to fit the person, the person is not there to squeeze themself into fitting a label.
EmberT
June 11th, 2015 11:22am
Of course it is. This might sound unusual, but most people are confused about which sexuality they have. There are too many label and too much uncertainty, and we still haven't named everything! Sexuality is a spectrum, and it's hard to know where you fall. Try not to worry about it too much and be comfortable with your preferences. Having a name for your sexuality might be comforting, but remember it wouldn't change much anyway.
DarkestBeforeDawn
July 21st, 2015 6:19pm
Absolutely. Your sexuality does not have to be set in stone and you should not feel obligated to subscribe to any labels.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:33am
No, to the dungeons with you! Confusion is not allowed! We will send in androgynous androids to flog you with wet noodles until you are thoroughly un-confused! :)
kindWaterfall51
August 14th, 2015 4:34pm
of course. There are many different types of attractions, such as aesthetic.romantic, sexual etc. Experiment lots! You may just be confused about which type of attractionyou're experiencing.
amazingHeart17
October 8th, 2015 10:10pm
This is completely okay! In fact, most LGBTQ members had a time in their life where they were questioning their sexuality, you do not need to feel in any rush to put a label on yourself, you will figure it out someday :)
Michelle0621
October 26th, 2015 2:38pm
Yes,it's normal. You are just looking for who you really are and who you really like, most of us have been there.
EsaAnnMarie
November 1st, 2015 2:57am
That is very normal, yes. Some never do label themselves with a type of sexuality and that is perfectly okay to do! :)
youreactuallyrellycutewow
November 3rd, 2015 4:33pm
Of course it's okay, you don't need to have it figured out. Sexuality isn't always an easy thing to understand, especially if it's your own. Sexuality can be fluid, meaning it can change over time. You don't need to rush to figure it out now, you have a lot of time.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 5:50pm
It is perfectly normal to be confused around sexuality as not eveyone finds out their either, Gay, Lesbian, Trans or other until their older.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:50pm
Yes, it is 100% ok to be confused about your sexuality. Not everyone knows their sexuality right away.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 3:11pm
It is totally okay to be confused around your sexuality. Honestly I think even the straightest, most heteronormative individuals have had at least one confusing gay dream or lack of romantic attraction connected to sexual or something along those lines. It's perfectly normal to be confused.
joutjoutb
February 15th, 2016 2:02am
Of course it is! You don't have the answer for everything, and if you haven't your sexuality figured out just yet, it's alright. You are still figuring out who you truly are, and you should take your time with that. But remember: don't try to be what others want you to be. If you want to be happy, you'll have to be true to yourself.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 2:41pm
it's okay. you can figure this out. just keep your mind and heart open and someday you'll know the answer.
RedCactus
April 12th, 2016 6:51pm
Yes! It is 100% okay to be confused about your sexuality.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2016 1:46am
Sweetheart yes it is. It's really okey, thats how we are like? What ever you found aout you are, it's okey.. these things isn't easy, but talk with people about it, ask if you have question.. and then after a while you will found things aout:)
PaleRose12
July 11th, 2016 5:56pm
Of course its okay it is normal to be confused you will find yourself and it okay to experiment with guys and girls.
MichelleW
August 9th, 2016 9:42pm
Yes! This is a perfectly normal thing for people to go through and often when people are questioning they may want to experiment (bisexual) to find out which sexuality they are.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:43pm
Of course it is... You can be 13 and confused about your sexuality, You can be 40 and be confused about your sexuality. It's nothing on you, Sometimes we get confused on who we are attracted too or perhaps who we love is confusing as well. But no that is completely normal, Which will pass with time and eventually you will discover yourself.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 2:21am
It is definitely ok to be confused about your sexuality. Sometimes you just don't know for sure. It sometimes takes time.