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Is it wrong to be gay?

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Is it wrong to be gay?
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Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
August 13th, 2019 12:13pm
Of course not! Homosexuality has been scientifically proved to be a normal and innate identity. It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else, you're still you, you just love people of the same gender. But how can something be wrong, if it doesn't hurt anyone and it allows you to experience the beauty of love, even if in a different way than others?
sereneStrawberry58
April 25th, 2016 5:21am
No. Under no circumstance is it wrong to be gay. While I am not gay, I am pansexual, which means that I am interested in dating anyone with any identity. Some people may try to paint any identity that is not straight as something wrong, but I promise you that there isn't anything wrong with it at all.
HopieRemi
July 19th, 2016 6:33am
No. You do not choose who you are attracted to. It is actually something that is wired in your brain. If your brain is wired like that since birth then it can not be wrong. It is normal and natural.
tranquilPomegranate61
April 11th, 2017 8:04pm
No, being yourself could never be wrong. Therefore being gay, is the same as being white black or anything else.
rose106
August 10th, 2015 5:48am
It is never wrong to love someone else or feel attraction. Being gay or any other sexuality is not a measure of how good of a person someone is.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 7:30pm
Is it wrong to be straight? Everyone would say "No" immediatey. Why? Because society says so. It isn't wrong to be gay/bisexual/pansexual, etc. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, just like heterosexuality is; the only difference is that the first one is stigmatized.
Missingperiodsandcommas
April 10th, 2018 8:22pm
Being any sexual orientation is NATURAL. Do you think heterosexual people ask themselves if being straight is ok? No. So why should being gay be any different? We are progressing as a society, albeit slowly but acceptance is happening all around us. Be true to who you are and most importantly be happy. Gay, straight, pan or otherwise, it's all beautiful and it's all love.
lovingTree37
April 2nd, 2018 5:26pm
Nope then again it's not right either the same way being straight is neither wrong or right it just is
Edenine
July 24th, 2016 1:50pm
No, what's wrong is to judge and butt into other people's sexuality. Being gay does not define you, and it never will. Don't worry so much about what other people will think of you, go kiss that person you been into. Go be proud of who you love and send off rainbows and happiness! Acceptance and understanding is key.
connor18
May 8th, 2016 2:12am
Absolutely not. No matter what anyone tells you it is not wrong to be gay. Unfortunately, there are people who will ridicule people who are gay but it is not wrong.
Hedwiglovegood
January 21st, 2020 11:08am
Never! Wrong is a relative concept . Wrong is defined by the people around us and people tend to go with the flow of life and therefore they try to define anything different and unique as wrong. Another reason might be because gay people used to live out their lives pretending they are straight to gain acceptance and therefore many like to believe being gay is a new concept or "trend". I like to believe that if something that makes you comfortable is not hurting anyone else physically or mentally then it is your type of right. I know conservative families tend to make us believe otherwise but it's not an "I" anymore , being gay also makes you a "we" and if there are so many beautiful people in the "we" why does it have to be wrong?
brokengirl1
May 16th, 2016 10:48am
There is nothing unnatural about being gay. You are loved just as you are!
markml
August 10th, 2020 12:35am
It's not. Being gay is not something you have no control over. Whatever moral system you subscribe to, it's not fair to judge people over characteristics they can't influence: be it sexuality, gender identity, race or nationality. Being gay is a biological characteristic, and even though it cannot be ascribed to just a single gene, it's a perfectly natural thing. Just the fact that someone is gay is not hurtful to anyone. There is no moral wrong that one can find in simply being attracted to someone of the same gender. Some people might be offended or upset by the fact that gay people exist - in this case, the responsibility is on them, not anyone else. If someone feels hurt by a characteristic you have no control over, rather than you changing that characteristic it's them who should try being a bit more open minded.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 2:52pm
No, it is not wrong at all. Gay people didn't chose to be gay, just like straight people didn't chose to be straight and bisexual people didn't chose to be bi. Everyone should be able to love who they want to love, and being gay is no different than being straight except you like the same sex instead of the opposite one. There should be nothing wrong with that.
NumberEleven
July 18th, 2016 4:59pm
No, I believe being gay is something that you are, it isn't really a choice or a conscious decision to prefer one gender over the other.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2017 8:17am
Of course not. Despite what people may believe its a very natural thing. The only thing wrong is the people who tell you that it isn't natural or okay.
Brittneym101
July 30th, 2016 5:04am
It's not wrong to be gay. Just like there isn't anything wrong with being straight. You are who you are and you like what you like. Sometimes we as people can't help who/what we fall for. We are all only human at the end of the day. Don't be hard on yourself just because you are different/ Being different is what makes you unique.
TheGlovedOne
August 1st, 2016 3:08am
Of course not! Being homosexual is never wrong, you just have a different interest than the majority. It's never wrong to have any belief or way of living! As long as you don't do anything harmful to others, no one should discriminate against you.
HopefulHenry81
August 8th, 2016 5:05am
Of course it is not wrong to be gay. Many people think it is or that being queer is a "weird" thing. They think it's not normal. But the reason most people think this way is because some people (mostly older people) were raised to believe it is weird and abnormal. Sadly, that's just the way people thought back then but like most things in life, times change and we as people need to adapt. While I definitely cannot say that the LGBTQ+ community is completely 100% supported, I do feel that the support has improved in general. Plus people generally don't have any choice over their sexual attraction, the same way you can't force a straight person to have feelings towards their gender. It's something you are born with and it is in most cases genetic. So, to reiterate, no, there is nothing wrong with being gay. Just be you and then everything else will come naturally. And if people don't accept you, just remember this quote: "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind."
ItsOkayMyLove
August 9th, 2016 1:02am
Simple answer: No Complicated answer: To some perspectives, it might be. However, it's proven to be a natural part of you. It's not something you can change, and people may say some cruel things, but my love: You are never alone. Toxic people will always be around, but the best you can do it to cut them out of your life. Even if it's hard, it's okay. There will always be people who love you, and care for you. Because you are amazing
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:46pm
Of course not! Don't ever think that something is wrong with you just because you are gay, No not everybody is going to be on board and happy with some of the choices you make in life however, It is your life and you are what you make of it. Love is Love and that's just how it is. We can't control who we love or who we fall in love with. Be happy with yourself and understand that no matter what anybody says or tells you about how wrong it is or any rude opinion they may have that it doesn't change anything. You are who you are, You have to love yourself for others to accept you. Don't ever be ashamed of who you love because none of us can control who we truly love.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2016 3:39pm
No of course not! Everyone can love who they love and be who they want to be, being gay isnt wrong, being gay is being something else that straight tho.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2017 9:40am
In no way, shape, or form is it wrong to be gay. There is nothing wrong about loving someone of your gender!
BBoi
July 11th, 2017 8:04pm
Not at all. Be proud of who you are and who you love. Love is beautiful no matter who you are with.
Icanwaitforever
June 20th, 2017 3:43pm
No, it is not. You can not choose what your heart feels. Love is love, and no one can stop or judge it.
hollyminchey
March 29th, 2016 5:19am
It is not wrong to be gay, no matter what anyone says. Be yourself and love yourself. You have to realize who you are as a person and hopefully those people that said it was wrong will learn to love and support you.
Jigglemajiggle
July 28th, 2015 9:56pm
No absolutely not. You can't change who you are. You are hardwired to be you and you can help but be you.
Vicariousette
September 7th, 2015 7:18am
This is an impossible question to answer because everybody has a different opinion on this extraordinarily subjective concept. Personally, I feel that one's own sexual orientation and identity does not reflect, in any way, the moral principles of an individual's character and humanity. So, the short answer to this question is 'No.' Hope this helps!
amazingHeart17
October 2nd, 2015 11:23pm
It is never wrong to be gay. You can't help who you are, so if you're gay that's who you are and you should in no way be ashamed of that?
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 7:44pm
Not at all, it's perfectly okay to be of any sexuality, gender, etc. You're awesome just the way you are :) You're not alone in this!