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Is it wrong to be gay?

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Is it wrong to be gay?
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August 10th, 2015 5:48am
It is never wrong to love someone else or feel attraction. Being gay or any other sexuality is not a measure of how good of a person someone is.
September 14th, 2015 7:30pm
Is it wrong to be straight? Everyone would say "No" immediatey. Why? Because society says so. It isn't wrong to be gay/bisexual/pansexual, etc. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, just like heterosexuality is; the only difference is that the first one is stigmatized.
April 25th, 2016 5:21am
No. Under no circumstance is it wrong to be gay. While I am not gay, I am pansexual, which means that I am interested in dating anyone with any identity. Some people may try to paint any identity that is not straight as something wrong, but I promise you that there isn't anything wrong with it at all.
July 19th, 2016 6:33am
No. You do not choose who you are attracted to. It is actually something that is wired in your brain. If your brain is wired like that since birth then it can not be wrong. It is normal and natural.
April 2nd, 2018 5:26pm
Nope then again it's not right either the same way being straight is neither wrong or right it just is
April 10th, 2018 8:22pm
Being any sexual orientation is NATURAL. Do you think heterosexual people ask themselves if being straight is ok? No. So why should being gay be any different? We are progressing as a society, albeit slowly but acceptance is happening all around us. Be true to who you are and most importantly be happy. Gay, straight, pan or otherwise, it's all beautiful and it's all love.
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August 13th, 2019 12:13pm
Of course not! Homosexuality has been scientifically proved to be a normal and innate identity. It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else, you're still you, you just love people of the same gender. But how can something be wrong, if it doesn't hurt anyone and it allows you to experience the beauty of love, even if in a different way than others?
July 28th, 2015 9:56pm
No absolutely not. You can't change who you are. You are hardwired to be you and you can help but be you.
September 7th, 2015 7:18am
This is an impossible question to answer because everybody has a different opinion on this extraordinarily subjective concept. Personally, I feel that one's own sexual orientation and identity does not reflect, in any way, the moral principles of an individual's character and humanity. So, the short answer to this question is 'No.' Hope this helps!
October 2nd, 2015 11:23pm
It is never wrong to be gay. You can't help who you are, so if you're gay that's who you are and you should in no way be ashamed of that?
October 29th, 2015 7:44pm
Not at all, it's perfectly okay to be of any sexuality, gender, etc. You're awesome just the way you are :) You're not alone in this!
November 18th, 2015 4:13pm
No not at all! Love whomever you love do not worry.
November 22nd, 2015 1:41pm
It is not wrong. It is not a choice to be gay you are born that way just like straight people are born that way. It is not something that you can control and it had been scientifically proven that it is in the genes so don't worry about it you can't change it.
November 23rd, 2015 4:35am
It's not wrong. It's natural part of your character. You cannot choose who you love. You are born this way. Although it may be hard to accept at first, one day you'll be comfortable with the fact that this is who you are, and no one can make you anything else.
November 27th, 2015 7:30pm
No not ever. Being gay is a part of who someone is. Its just like having green eyes. Its a part of you but not all of you. You can't control it and you don't choose it. It just is. Society gives messages that one thing is "right" and another is "wrong" but that is untrue. There is no one way to be, and there is no "right" way to be.
December 7th, 2015 2:53pm
Not at all. Being gay is not a choice anyone has made. People are just people. Please, if you are feeling confused upset or sad about reactions of others talk to a therapist, connect to your community, talk to a listener here you feel connected to. I am here for you friend, feel free to reach out and find support where you can, know that you have it here.
December 11th, 2015 12:30am
No. It is perfectly alright to be gay as it doesn't define you as a person it just helps make you who you are, it just affects who you are romantically/sexually attracted to.
December 27th, 2015 4:54pm
No it is not wrong to be gay. It is perfectly normal, just like it is to have any other sexual orientation. If you are gay then that is totally fine, it is you and nobody should say that being who you are is wrong.
December 28th, 2015 2:16pm
No, of course not! Why would it be wrong to be gay? Being gay is just like being straight, it's a sexuality and they can't be wrong. it's just who you are
December 28th, 2015 7:11pm
No, it's not. There is nothing wrong with loving who you live no matter what gender. There will always be people who say hurtful things about people who are gay, but ignore them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with loving the same gender.
January 4th, 2016 12:21am
Being gay or any other sexuality is not wronger than being straight. People tend to think so but it is not at all.
January 19th, 2016 4:45am
No! You can not choose who fall in love with. You can't control the weather or time and you certainly can't control who you fall in love with.
January 22nd, 2016 1:34am
It is never wrong to be the person you are!
January 24th, 2016 7:59am
Being gay is not wrong. You were born gay and it's okay. Love is love.
March 29th, 2016 5:19am
It is not wrong to be gay, no matter what anyone says. Be yourself and love yourself. You have to realize who you are as a person and hopefully those people that said it was wrong will learn to love and support you.
April 26th, 2016 2:50pm
We should all be free to love whomever we want to. Love is the same wether it's between a man and a woman, 2 women or 2 men. As long as both people are happy and care about each other, neither is at fault.
May 8th, 2016 2:12am
Absolutely not. No matter what anyone tells you it is not wrong to be gay. Unfortunately, there are people who will ridicule people who are gay but it is not wrong.
May 16th, 2016 10:48am
There is nothing unnatural about being gay. You are loved just as you are!
July 18th, 2016 2:52pm
No, it is not wrong at all. Gay people didn't chose to be gay, just like straight people didn't chose to be straight and bisexual people didn't chose to be bi. Everyone should be able to love who they want to love, and being gay is no different than being straight except you like the same sex instead of the opposite one. There should be nothing wrong with that.
July 18th, 2016 4:59pm
No, I believe being gay is something that you are, it isn't really a choice or a conscious decision to prefer one gender over the other.