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It is possible for me to like girls one day and guys the next, but rarely at the same time?

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Last Updated: 04/25/2022 at 2:58pm
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JumpyGoiaba
August 8th, 2018 1:24pm
It's perfectly natural to feel attracted to both girls and guys in different ways and at different times. Those "cycles" aren't even necessarily periodic. They just happen. I'd suggest you don't worry too much about that. Just allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling at the moment :)
servetosetyourmindfree
January 8th, 2019 7:57am
it is okay for you to have your own choices of feelings feel free to like anyone its not about the gender its about the soul inside that human never doubt your choices feel free to experience what your heart desires gender roles r just from the outside you need to let go of the confusion thats making you doubt your likes n dislikes follow your heart you can like anyone who matches your vibe and thats the most important thing to do there could be days you like two people of different gender at the same time its ok to feel how u feel
Anonymous
June 15th, 2020 5:59am
Yes! Bisexuality is a valid and very real thing. There are no rules for who you like when. Also, remember that you will like who you like based on factors other than their gender. You can be attracted to anyone that catches your eye. All of that is a strong indicator that you are attracted to the soul and essence of the person rather than their gender. Don’t listen to anyone who tries to tell you it is a phase. And finally, anything is possible. Your sexual preference will change over time in terms of what you find attractive about people, but this is not a phase you have to change.
brilliantTurtle89
August 12th, 2018 6:14pm
It's perfectly possible and it's ok. It sounds like you are still discovering your sexuality. Don't try to rush it or force anything. Listen to your feelings.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
June 11th, 2019 9:53pm
That's totally possible, everyone experiences attraction in their own way, and if that is how you feel, it's completely alright! Considering that you like boys and girls, even if not at the same time, you would still fall into the bisexual spectrum. It's normal for bisexuals not to experience a 50-50 attraction towards boys and girls. Some bi people have a preference for one gender, and they are still bi. If your preference is something that fluctuates and is not always fixed, that's ok too! Just live your life and see where it leads, follow your heart and everything will be alright!
TalkToDee97
May 5th, 2020 7:15am
Hello! Welcome to bisexuality or pansexuality (these terms differ and you can choose the label you are comfortable with). As someone who is bi, here's what I feel about it. I've dated more men and I've only been attracted to one woman I know in my real life. And that will never erase the fact that I'm bi. There's no proper way to define how you are attracted and maybe there's a particular trait that you're attracted to, maybe you have a type. None of that will undermine how you feel about a person. The best you can do is stay true to yourself and not compare your attraction to people in socially acceptable norms. However you feel is valid.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2022 2:58pm
This feeling is totally normal. If you want to put a label on this feeling you could be bisexual or pansexual among others, but it's okay to not label it as well. Either way, some people have a preference for the gender of their partners, but others don't. It sounds like you don't have a strong preference and its causing confusion when you feel attracted to different people. Try to be patient with yourself and understand why you're feeling this way. Remember that your feelings are valid and as long as you're not hurting anyone you are allowed to like whoever you want.