What can I say to people that tell me that my sexuality can be "cured" or fixed?

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Allen39
May 4th, 2015 7:22am
Tell them it can't. If you look up conversion therapy success rates, you'll find they're ridiculously low. The fact is, being any sexuality is just fine, and there's no reason to fix it! Explain that you're not hurting anyone, and this is something many people can live normally with. It's like people who like the color yellow. Why change their favorite color?
Spiderman93
April 29th, 2015 8:35pm
i would ask them why they think it is broken in the first place. sexuality is not something that needs curing. everyone is different and thats ok. love is love no matter who it is with. don't let anyone bring you down about who you are. keep being you. you are perfect just the way you are.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2017 9:58am
Ask them if they could turn gay for a day? Can they imagine being that for a day? Tell them that you freak out exactly how they are freaking out right now when you even try to imagine being the other way round. Sexuality I not a choice. And it is as natural as being a heterosexual but some idiots can never understand that.
Dannus
January 11th, 2015 5:20pm
Tell them that there is nothing to be fixed. Just like you were born LGBT etc. they were born straight. Being gay is natural, and therefore is something that doesn't need to be fixed. If it could be, then by that logic, those who are straight can be made gay. The fix is not in gay people being made straight, but making people more educated and understand that homophobia is the problem.
starryRiver83
February 16th, 2015 9:41pm
That there is nothing to cure or fix. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but in this case they need to be quiet and you need to ignore what is said. Regardless of your sexuality, you are a normal human being, you're not broken, you're not ill, you are just you. If they don't like that then it is their problem and not yours. You just stay the way that you are.
janedoe73
March 14th, 2015 5:52pm
I believe that the best thing is to just ignore it and not cause yourself any stress.But if you do want to give a response,try to point out that sexuality is not a disease and is something that cannot be changed or manipulated.
Waterbear
July 20th, 2015 12:18am
There is really nothing you can say. The scientific evidence is overwhelmingly against their position, and in order for them to continue to take that position they had to reject science, or at the very least the scientific establishment. I would go with something like, "No, but Jesus can probably cure your hate."
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 12:43am
Tell anyone that makes you feel like a problem that their, mostly likely heterosexual, sexual orientation can be "fixed" as well.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 8:06pm
That they are not in your situation and explain to them how you are feeling in your body, to give them an insight
lizzle
November 30th, 2015 4:32am
You need to tell to them people that bigotry can also be fixed, and how is your sexuality even have a huge impact on their own lives. Sexuality is more than black and white, Kinsey greatest sexologist, has done studies and found research that I think most people would be suprised at. Any psychiatrist will tell you conventional therapy to cure sexuality will not work and infact make the client even more depressed and end up killing themselves.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 5:27am
You may never be able to fully get ride of the people who disagree with who you are. It's important that through all the hate you continue to accept who you are. You can try explaining to them that this is who you are and if they aren't okay with that then that's their fault.
cvga
March 7th, 2016 10:50pm
you can tell them it can't be cured, because it is not a disease and should not be treated like one
politeTiger9271
March 14th, 2016 3:37am
Ignore them. Just be who you are and do not care of what mean people say
Anonymous
March 28th, 2016 5:44pm
Don't let them get to you. You can't "cure" a straight person, and its the same for any other sexuality.
Greatlistener87
April 26th, 2016 2:49am
You can tell them that this is your choice and you are the one that is suppose to choose whether it should be fixed or not. And you accept that this is you so they should learn to accept that this is you and see how happy u are to be where you are.
magicalhope75
June 28th, 2016 8:11am
Tell them that things that happen naturally to you can't be fixed..tell them you are fine with the way you are and they are no one to cure aur fix your sexuality..its the way you are and that shouldn't be changed
LovableGeek16
July 19th, 2016 5:51pm
That being homophobic is more of a disease than being open with who you feel love for. You can't cure something that is perfectly fine.
Brittneym101
July 30th, 2016 5:08am
Tell them to grow up. I don't care what it is you do this type of thing can't be cured unless it's something that changes within you not changes that are forced upon you. It's possible to be gay and then become straight it happens a lot, but that's something that you wanted and decided to do, It's completely absurd that someone would say that your sexuality can be cured and or fixed.
listenercat5678
August 8th, 2016 6:38pm
Tell them that there is no "curing" or "fixing" your sexuality. You know exactly who you are and that you are sure of your sexuality choice.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2018 7:00am
there are a few ways to go about this: 1. just block them out 2. that's just your opinion, my sexuality is never gonna be fixed, cos it cant be you are born the way you are, and no body can change that.
Sageypie
February 27th, 2018 7:21pm
Tell them that my sexuality isn't something that can be broken and isn't a disease. It's fluid and can change, so they should respect you boundaries. Besides, it has nothing to do with them
TryingmybestElsa
April 30th, 2018 10:07am
Usually you can't really talk to these people even if it's very frustrating to hear things like that. Try to stay calm and polite and just say that this isn't how it works, that it isn't an illness and that you are proud of who you are and don't have to justify yourself. It probably won't work, but it's fine. Because you can't educate people by force or do the job for them. And try to surround yourself with some fellow lgbt just to help you remember that you aren't broken.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 8:49pm
Dont listen to them these are people who are stuck in a small world who dont accept change and beleive anyone diffrent to them ia wrong and needs to be fixed .this is nonsense and these people need to accept that its 2018 and society is changing all thw time . U dont need to say anything to these people
tastemyvalidation
July 10th, 2018 11:50pm
Sometimes you don't need to say anything at all. You know that it is just a part of who you are, and that can't change. Embrace it and be proud of yourself.
BabyBlueSkies04
August 13th, 2018 4:09pm
Tell them, "If it can be cured or fixed, then why aren't there any cases showing that they have turned someone who is (whatever your sexuality is) straight?" Hopefully this helps :)