What does it mean to be Queer?

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Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:41pm
The word "Queer" is usually a very derogatory term that people use to describe somebody who likes the same sex. It's usually used in a disrespectful or hateful tone when spoken. It's an insult used towards mostly gay men but it can be used towards women as well.
Flags
August 12th, 2016 5:52am
It means you are not in line to what some conservative folks see as normal but seeing as how progressives are starting to get courage in promoting anti-sexism campaigns, this will soon be one of the norms
Grangs
August 14th, 2016 4:18am
In today's society the word Queer means to be in the LGBT+ community. It is mostly used against gay men or lesbian women.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 9:53pm
The term 'Queer' is another word for gay or homosexual. This is when a male is attracted to males and a female is attracted to females. Homosexuals are a part of the LGBT+ community, where the 'L' stands for lesbians (female attracted to females) and the 'G' stands for gays (male attracted to males). Queer could also be used for the 'B' in LGBT+ which stands for bisexual which is an individual who is attracted to both the same and opposite sex.
HopieRemi
August 24th, 2016 8:07pm
Queer can have many different definitions, depending on the person. Some people do not like the term Queer because for many years it was used as an insult for someone in the LGBT community but in recent years it has been reclaimed. It can mean being weird, different, or special. But in the end it is up to interpretation. What does it mean to you?
peachicus
August 27th, 2016 8:12pm
Queer is an offensive way of calling someone homosexual and is generally used to upset people who may or may not be gay.
GenderRolesTM
August 31st, 2016 6:45pm
As a pansexual transboy, I'd say being Queer is something we all as the LGBTQ+ community identify with differently. To me it means non conforming to the gender binary, or heteronormativity. Queer is often used as an umbrella term for everyone in the LGBTQ+ community.
CalmingSunshine08
September 2nd, 2016 5:56pm
What it means to be Queer differs from person to person. Generally being Queer means to not identify as being heterosexual, heteromantic and. Remember, not everyone likes the term queer, so don't use it to refer to someone if you don't have their consent or if they aren't comfortable with it.
bokchoi
September 3rd, 2016 1:53pm
To be queer is to identify as something other than heterosexual, cisgender. Being intersex and being confused about your sexuality and gender also counts.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 10:22pm
Being queer is understanding that my sexuality is fluid. I am not straight but I don't want to label my sexuality.
plantkissed
September 7th, 2016 2:34pm
If you're queer, you're not straight. Anybody who is questioning, bi, pan, aro, ace, poly, gay, demi, or has a fluctuating sexuality is considered queer. Something to note is that queer is a slur, and though it's been reclaimed by those who are in the LGBTQA+ community, it's still a personal choice as to whether or not you use the term. If you identify as genderqueer, you do not identify as cisgender.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 10:51am
It's a term used for those who aren't heterosexual or cisgender. It's originally meaning "Strange" or "Peculiar"
Phillestertheangel
September 9th, 2016 10:57pm
To be queer is to be part of the lbgt community. It's basically like if you don't want to label yourself, a lesbian or bisexual or something. You can just call yourself queer. Basically- it means that you're not straight.
chloeross
September 25th, 2016 10:44pm
Being Queer just means that somebody does not identify as either straight (heterosexual or exclusively being attracted to people of a gender other than their own) or cisgendered (meaning that they identify as the same gender they were assigned at birth, usually by a doctor) or both. Queer is an umbrella term and many identities fall under it but some use it to describe their gender or sexuality not in an umbrella term way but just as the label they feel most comfortable with!
generousUnicorns0224
October 2nd, 2016 4:50pm
The literal definition of the word Queer is odd, however the slang definition can be used to describe someone who is homosexual.
KrisisKontrol
October 6th, 2016 2:05am
Inclined to be attracted to people of the same sex. This doesn't always mean gay. Bi, pan, demi sexual etc...
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 2:57am
Being queer is just another word for bisexual. And bisexual means that you're attracted to all genders.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2016 10:40pm
Being queer is usually defined as any identity that is either non heterosexual (bi, pan, homosexual, asexual etc) or not as cis ( trans, non binary etc)
NyxCain
October 16th, 2016 10:58pm
Queer is generally defined as having any sexuality/gender difference from being straight or cisgender. This can include even questioning your sexuality
SeekerOfHappiness01
October 19th, 2016 2:30pm
There are different types of queer. It can be a term used for someone who is gay, or it can be used to describe gender. In the case it is used to describe gender, it is most commonly used as an umbrella term. This means that they're probably unsure where they lie on the gender spectrum (only that they're not male or female) or that they don't feel a need to place a precise label on themselves.
AlexCaresAboutYou
October 20th, 2016 2:02am
To be queer it just means you identify as either not cisgender, not heterosexual, and/or not heteroromantic
WCTK
October 21st, 2016 9:29pm
It means that you are free to express yourself as out of the ordinary. But as the saying goes 'there's nowt as queer as folk' it also means that you are unique, just like everyone else. :)
Anonymous
October 29th, 2016 1:56am
To me, it means having a special capability to love someone despite their gender. Or depending on where you fall on the spectrum, not loving anyone at all or specific people or this or that. The beauty of it all is that theres such a wide spectrum.
usefulPassion85
November 4th, 2016 3:22am
Being queer can mean different things to different people. For me, I use it as an umbrella term for nonheterosexual identities. Others, though, consider is a way to label themselves and it is a term of empowerment to claim "queer" as who they are.
mynameismelanie
November 5th, 2016 4:26pm
Queer, in my mind, is someone who thinks of themselves as LGBT+. They can be out, closeted, or in between. Queer is a blunt term, but if you want to call yourself it, okay!
Anonymous
November 13th, 2016 11:55pm
Like many terms in the LGBT+ community, the term "queer" doesn't have one single universally-agreed-upon definition, but I think it's generally considered to be when someone is not cis and/or heterosexual. Some people don't like the term, however, so it's a good idea to use it with some caution.
staybelieving
November 27th, 2016 1:05pm
Queer is used as an umbrella term for anyone other than a heteromantic heterosexual, though I find that not all people who identify as not straight identify as queer, for any number of reasons. Often this is because queer has been used as a slur.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 11:47am
Being queer means a lot of things, depending on how you use it. There are some who see the term as an equivalent for being gay but I prefer to use it as an umbrela term for lgtbq+. With that, it can mean that you are gay, lesbian, asexual, trans, nonbinary and more.
avocadoallyson
February 4th, 2017 9:53pm
The word queer has had many meanings throughout history. Currently, being queers means not being straight or heterosexual. This includes sexual identities like bisexuality, homosexuality, asexuality, and other identities.
mjolnir
February 5th, 2017 4:56pm
“Queer” can be used to describe someone’s sexual orientation or stand as a political statement. Its definition has many dimensions, from gender identification to a resistance against structural rigidity to a strange sensation or state of being. “Queer” isn’t a word that many people clearly understand when used to describe yourself. Being queer means embracing a free and open-ended identity by casting off all other identities that categorise us, and defining ourselves simply as human beings.