What does it mean when you aren't attracted to anyone but you don't want to be alone?

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amazingHeart17
October 8th, 2015 10:14pm
This could be asexuality. Being asexual, however, doesn't mean that you want to be alone. People who are asexual still enjoy the company of others, and can still feel love, just maybe not in a particularly romantic way.
ForgottenMagic
August 11th, 2015 10:06am
You just may not have found the right person yet. And that's okay. You don't like being alone which is totally normal. It can be easy to get down on yourself over the "odds" finding that perfect partner. Things can change. And they will.
deserve
March 1st, 2015 9:17pm
If you're not attracted to anyone you may be asexual. It doesn't make you any less human so just like me and all people in the world you don't want to be alone.
Lior
February 25th, 2015 9:03pm
That you are human, loneliness is something a lot of humans and even animals feel. it doesn't mean we want to be in a romantic or sexual relationship but be with someone who we can talk, share and be with as friends. You can be not attracted to anyone and yet like friendly comapny.
Probius
October 27th, 2015 3:11am
If you feel no attraction to anyone, you are asexual. If you don't want to be alone, you are human. This is perfectly normal, and you can still have a relationship if you want one.
laufey
November 14th, 2016 3:52am
This could be a case of either aromanticism, which is the lack of romantical interest, or also a simple case of not wanting to be involved in relations yet but still would like to feel included.
geovanisouza92
April 6th, 2015 12:03pm
It does mean you want to be part of something or connect to other people, but is afraid of being judged or get hurt. It's all right, after all, everyone feels that way sometimes in life, but that doesn't mean you cannot get friends.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2015 6:40pm
It sounds like you are seeking some human contact and connection. We all crave it on a deep level and finding ways to fulfill it can be difficult for some. Especially if they don't understand how they are feeling in the first place. Perhaps you aren't looking for romantic love but you are looking for a deep friendship that feeds your soul. That, I feel, is a great necessity and a very normal part of life for some while it may not be for others. And there's nothing wrong with wanting that!
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 3:03pm
That means you're human. If you're talking about zero attraction, neither romantic nor sexual, you might be aromantic asexual (no romantic&sexual attraction). Just because you aren't attracted "that way", doesn't mean you want to be alone, nor do you have to be. Even people who love being single and unattached still want good friends-everyone craves human connection, and that's a normal thing.
MissMary
May 11th, 2015 1:39am
That can mean that maybe you just haven't found what you are attracted to, or perhaps that you are asexual. Asexuality means you don't have a sexual preference or a lower sexual interest and it's completely normal! Many asexuals still have interest in romantic relationships. You aren't alone!
healingWaterfall75
June 3rd, 2015 11:30am
It could mostly mean that you are in a situation in which you need ( or crave) attention, affection and/or love but you don't necessarily want it from someone in particular. You don't want someone in your life, you want love and affection in your life.
Em
July 27th, 2015 2:39am
It could mean that you're asexual — you're not sexually attracted to anyone, but you want companionship and love. That's more than fine, that's absolutely acceptable and great!
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 2:06am
While i do not know your situation, i would suggest looking into Asexuality. While it may not apply, you could find comfort or understanding from looking into this.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2016 8:51pm
You might be asexual. You might be seeking a platonic relationship with someone. Hope you find your answer dear.
dancingBeauty97
June 6th, 2016 3:27am
Well there is asexual, which mean you are not attracted to any of the femal or male gender. Asexual people still care for having a close relationship with people but just not sexually attracted.
strawberryblonde4315
June 6th, 2016 3:46pm
I believe you are asexual, meaning that you don't want to have sexual relations with another person, but you can still have romantic feelings.
uniqueMango45
July 18th, 2016 3:04pm
It means you feel lonely and want good friends or a relationship. You don't have to want it immediately, but wanting a relationship in the long run is completely normal! :)
Aayla
June 10th, 2019 1:42pm
There are different types of attraction, maybe you don't feel sexual attraction but can still feel the romantic one. That would make you asexual, which is a perfectly valid orientation. Asexual people can live fulfilling and happy romantic relationship just like everyone else. And if you don't feel sexual nor romantic attraction, you can still connect with people on an emotional and/or intellectual level. No one is designed to be alone, we all have a way to connect with each other, no matter what our orientations are.