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What if you come out, and everyone turns against you?

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Last Updated: 04/23/2018 at 1:42pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
February 26th, 2015 1:52am
If you come out, and everyone turns against you, there is still support out there and there are many people who will be supportive of you. Even strangers. There are many LGBT groups you can join, whether it be in your specific location, or on the internet. You are never alone.
Amanda9715
May 11th, 2015 11:24pm
Then those people, while they may love you, are not meant to be in your life at that moment. Sometimes people will calm down, after the initial shock wears off, but there may be those who you don't deserve you and should be left where they are. m
Anonymous
June 15th, 2015 12:39am
Well, if they turn against you after you've come out then they're not really your friends or your family. I understand that it'd be difficult to hear that, but it's true. People who love you for you would stick by you if they cared enough to.
Inspirationalspirit
June 29th, 2015 7:41pm
If you come out and people dont want to be around you then thy were never your friend beleive me as a gay man, you will find your true friends the one who love you on the way up and love you on the way down.
Rabbit3ars
July 6th, 2015 4:57am
Don't let anyone stop you from being you, you will eventually find people who will support you, and those are the people who deserve to be in your life.
Prosh35
November 17th, 2015 9:37am
I think time heals everything. People will eventually forgive and forget. Let them sink in. Let them know how good your intentions are.
TheGreyFixer
January 11th, 2016 5:57pm
You will still have your own spirit, and you'll be free to live your life without hiding who you really are. If people are worth keeping around, they'll accept you for who you are. And whatever you do has to be right for you; you can't go around living your life for someone else. There are plenty of LGBTQ+ support groups out there to support you if things really do go bottom up, but I would advise you not to always expect the worst. People can surprise you in ways you would never have thought.
Alethiology
February 8th, 2016 3:54pm
You will be surprised to find there are just as many people supporting you as there is those who don't. Stick to those who do. You can't change.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 10:35am
In this day and age there will always be someone there who supports you. This person may be a complete stranger. This means that you will simply have to either educate those around you, or let them have less of an influence in your life. Don't let other people bring you down, you are apart of a revolution.
wolfen22
March 1st, 2016 8:58pm
No one should be forced to "come out of the closet". Often, LGBTQIA+ people need to keep their sexual and romantic orientations a secret for safety reasons. Sharing such a precious part of yourself with friends and family /can/ lead to horrible situations. If you do not trust those around you to support you and are worried about their reactions, I urge you to not share your sexuality with them until you're in a safe(r) space. (For instance, if you are a teenager, wait until you are able to move out.) If/when you are comfortable with sharing, remember that are allies,support groups, shelters willing to aid you on your journey. The people you know might turn against you and it will hurt, but the world is a large place. Not everyone is so closed-minded. We are here for you.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 4:00pm
Not everybody will turn on you, Yes there will be some that will and honestly, That is when you find out your true friends, and as far as family goes, They will either be accepting, or they may not agree with it and may need some time to understand, But they won't stop loving you. I must stress though that if they don't agree with the situation that it doesn't mean that they don't love or care about you, It just means that they need more time to understand.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 9:41am
Try your best act like you did before and find someone to talk to who can help or who's had the same experience ask them what they did but don't copy everyone's different
Anonymous
February 27th, 2017 1:11pm
Coming out can easily change one's life, relationship or social acceptance. Even with the many risks, it's the most important thing to do. Mostly not everyone will turn against you and even if some people might do, you have to think for yourself if losing a friendship with someone who doesn't support your sexuality is a big deal in the long run.
AthenaPanda
April 23rd, 2018 1:42pm
Just stay yourself. Don't change for other people. If you have to prove your worth to them, they are not worth your time.