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What is asexuality?

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What is asexuality?
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Erynn
December 14th, 2014 4:51am
It's not being sexually attracted to anyone. Someone who is asexual may bet attracted romantically to someone or they may be both aromantic and asexual, which would mean they are not sexually or romantically attracted to anyone. Someone who is asexual may still have sex, but it is a different experience from someone who does have sexual attraction for others. Some who are asexual may cuddle or kiss or hold hands, others wont enjoy those. It's a bit of a spectrum, but in general it is simply a lack of sexual attraction to others.
Jenna
December 10th, 2014 9:46am
Asexuality is no sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. Some asexual's do obtain a small desire for sexual interaction if they'd like to have children. There is significant variation among people who identify as asexual.
tonycat
December 10th, 2014 10:51am
It is a sexuality where the person doesn't feel sexual attraction towards either gender. It is estimated that 1% of people in the UK identify themselves as asexual. Asexuality is described as an orientation, unlike celibacy which is a choice. It is possible for asexual to be in a hetero-romantic relationship where you want to be with someone, know about them and share their emotions. It is not a disorder and there is no correlation between childhood trauma and asexuality. So as a member of the LGBTQ or MOGII, it is essential to understand that we are all just human who should support each other, no matter what gender, identity and orientation.
weepyhollow
December 24th, 2014 2:35pm
Asexuality is when you feel no sexual attraction towards anyone. This doesn't mean that you cannot love or be romantically involved with someone, you are just not sexually involved
scenicwindow
January 29th, 2018 5:50am
Asexuality is,by definition, the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It may be considered akin to preferences like heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. Asexual people, though lacking sexual attraction to any gender, might engage in purely romantic relationships, while some others might not.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2014 10:53pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation is which a person experiences little or no sexual attraction to others, no matter their gender identity. People in this spectrum might also refer to themselves as ace. If you want to understand a little more about this topic and what asexuality means I highly encourage you to check out AdventuRin's post in this topic here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGTBQMOGIISupportCommunity_58/LGBTQMembers_60/AAWAnIntroductiontotheCelebration_6843/
TaranWanderer
September 15th, 2016 1:52pm
Asexuality, in general, is the lack of sexual attraction. A person who is asexual doesn't feel sexual attraction to others, but could still choose to have sex or engage in sexual activities. Some do not experience any sort of physical reaction, and some do. Asexuality can also be thought of as a spectrum, where some people have zero attraction, attraction only sometimes (grey-asexual), and others may only experience sexual attraction after a strong bond is formed, known as demisexual. This sexuality can be combined with any sort of romantic orientation, because sex and romance are not inherently linked together.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 3:56pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is characterized by the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender or appearance or whatever. There are different "flavors", so to speak, of asexuality, including demisexuality (only experiencing sexual attraction sometimes), graysexuality (someone who has less-than-average levels of sexual attraction), and others. Asexuals can enjoy sex, can be neutral about it, or can think that it's gross. It all depends on the person. Asexuals also can enjoy watching porn/masturbating but they tend to think of it in a different way than most sexual people do.
Kassy7cups
December 17th, 2019 4:55pm
The dictionary definition of asexuality is “the quality or characteristic of having no sexual feelings or desires.” However, there are different identities on the spectrum of asexuality besides identifying as asexual (often abbreviated to “ace”). Being aromantic (often abbreviated to “aro”) means you won’t be attracted romantically to everyone. Being gray-asexual or grayromantic just means that you are somewhere in the ace/aro zone. Demisexual means you require a strong emotional connection with someone to be attracted to them. It’s also important to keep in mind that your romantic orientation might be different than aromantic even if you are asexual.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 8th, 2019 10:41am
It's an orientation that involves the lack of sexual attraction. If you don't experience sexual attraction at all and you aren't interested in having sex, it's probably your case. Asexual people of course can have a normal and happy life just like anyone else, and they can still have a fulfilling romantic relationship. It's important to be very honest about it with potential partner, so one day you can find one whose needs match yours.
Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
June 22nd, 2015 3:42pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation defined by a lack of sexual attraction, where sexual attraction is a pull or allure toward a specific person in which you feel you want to partake in sexual activities with them specifically. It can also refer to a spectrum of sexual orientations for not experiencing sexual attraction; experiencing it in rare, fleeting, or confusing ways; or experiencing attraction only under specific circumstances. Though behavior does not determine orientation (as in, partaking in sexual activities does not invalidate someone's asexuality), there are some who experience sexual attraction regularly but have such a strong aversion to sex, they feel more comfortable identifying somewhere along the asexual spectrum.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 5:09pm
A= no attraction Sexuality= sexual attration Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction, although they may engage in sexual activity for personal reasons, such as for their partner.
ZachTheListener
May 10th, 2015 2:51pm
Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone in general. They are someone who does not experience sexual attraction.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2014 4:14am
when you don't have a sexual attraction or desire for someone. but rather a romantic attraction or a different kind of attraction.
GwenTG
December 21st, 2014 7:14pm
Asexuality is sexual orientation of "none (or nearly none)". Some graysexuals (those who experience very rare sexual attraction) lump themselves in with asexuals sometimes. Asexuality is not a romantic orientation though. Someone who is asexual may still fall in love with anyone of their romantic orientation. To be devoid of romantic feelings and sexual feelings would make one an aromantic asexual.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2015 4:49am
asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction towards another being. asexuality doesn't always mean a lack of sex drive and asexuality can derive from many things for each person, also being a sexual orientation or rather a lack of one, it cannot be chosen and a person can be born with this. there are many areas of asexuality, there is also gray asexuality, where a person can experience sexual attraction or desires but that has many limited circumstances. asexuality is not black and white, it as well is a spectrum.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2017 7:03pm
Being asexual means experiencing no sexual or physical attraction to anyone. An asexual may still experience romantic attraction (wanting to date)
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 12:24pm
Asexuality is a lack of physical, or sexual, attraction towards anyone. Think.... Like, if someone who's heterosexual has a door to represent their sexuality, it opens out. Homosexuality, the door opens in. Bisexuality, it opens both ways. Asexuality, it's as if there's no door at all. However, asexuals can feel a romantic attraction, which is different.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 3:20pm
It means that you want to be with a person but never have sex with him/her but rather just spend time together.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2016 4:33am
Asexuality is a sexuality where you do not have the desire for sexual inner course.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 1:31am
Someone who is asexual is someone who with no sexual feelings or desires. They can still maintain steady, healthy relationships and even still have sex. But they may be uninterested in it or uncomfortable with it. If you are dating an asexual, always talk it through with them.
CalmingSunshine08
August 7th, 2016 1:39am
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is looking at someone physically and finding yourself attracted to their body or general appearance with the desire to engage in sexual relations with them. Asexuals don't experience such an attraction. However this does not mean that every asexual person is sex-negative or doesn't like sex, there are many asexuals who are indifferent to sex or are sex positive. There are also many asexual who desire to be in romantic relationships or there are those who don't want a romantic relationship at all. Asexuality is also a spectrum with many other identities on it as well. Those identities are: gray-a (gray asexuality) which is sometimes feeling sexual attraction and demisexuality which is only feeling sexuality towards those you've developed a close bond with.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 3:54pm
Asexuality is when you don't feel sexual attraction to other people. You can be sex-positive, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed, and all of those are normal. You still feel platonic and romantic attraction, and maybe you don't mind the thought of sex, but you just don't feel attracted to people sexually, and that is 100% valid. Hope this helps some!
Anonymous
February 28th, 2017 10:02pm
Asexuality is the lack of a sexual attraction to anyone or anything. However, this doesn't mean that people who identify as asexual aren't capable of love, rather, that has nothing to do with it. Asexuality and sexual orientation in general only deal with sexual attraction, not emotions.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2017 12:33am
Asexuality could be described as the lack of desire for sexual activity, Not to be confused with aromanticism, which is the lack of desire for anything romantic in any manner.
Artemidesia
July 3rd, 2017 4:23pm
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction towards others. In other words, it is the absence of interest or desire for sexual activities.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2017 3:51pm
Asexuality is essentially not having sexual attraction to anyone. However, it is a little more complicated than that because there is an entire spectrum of asexuality- but the basis is aro (aromantic) and ace(asexual) Some people are one of the two, others are both. Aro means you so not want to have a romantic relationship, and ace means you do not want a sexual relationship. So if you are aro ace, you do not want any type of relationship. However there is still more in the spectrum of asexuality because there is gray sexual and demisexual which is a whole other story... basically demisexual is when people don't experience sexual attraction until that really like the person, and there's a bunch of different variations of grey sexual. So anyways, everything I've said so far can be paired with another sexuality- ex: ace lesbian, which would be like a regular lesbian, except you wouldn't have sexual attraction. This causes a lot of controversy because a straight person could potentially say they are aroace homosexual...but that's another story. So, in conclusion, asexuality is pretty complicated.
sweetSnow24
July 10th, 2017 4:03pm
An asexual person is somebody who doesn't feel any sexual attraction to any gender, therefore asexuals can enjoy being sexually active and not be afraid of it, some can prefer abstinence too and it's okay: the only characteristic of asexuality being that a person has no attraction for any gender.
politeTiger9271
March 14th, 2016 3:35am
Is when someone doesnt have sexual atraction for no one
recoveringlistener
November 7th, 2017 3:05am
For me, my asexuality is simply experiencing attraction to no genders. Some asexuals enjoy sex, while others are repulsed by it. It has little to do with sex itself, it's really just about the genders or lack there of that one is attracted to.