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Why am I gay?

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Last Updated: 12/16/2019 at 5:09pm
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Top Rated Answers
May 19th, 2016 9:40pm
You are gay because you are gay. You were born that way. Nobody knows the scientific reason, or if they do I haven't heard it, so you are gay because you are.
May 20th, 2016 2:38am
Why is my favorite color blue? There is not an specific explanation, something similar happens with your sexuality; that's just the way you are and there's NOTHING wrong with that. You happen to like people the same gender as yours, that doesn't make you a "freak." You're still yourself, and no one should ever make you feel bad about that. You are you, and I'm happy you exist. :)
May 20th, 2016 6:13pm
Because you are a fabulous and unique human being.... and i guess you were also born that way. :) ♡♡
May 21st, 2016 4:00am
Because you were born that way, that's the only way you can be gay to be born like that and you can't really be different or change that
May 22nd, 2016 9:00am
Everybody has different prefrences! It's completely normal and you should be proud to be you! Gay is okay!
May 25th, 2016 3:34pm
You are gay because you are well... you. There is really no other answer to it. Hopefully you can feel safe and comfortable in your own skin.
May 27th, 2016 9:07pm
Because it's your preference. Simple as that. Having a preference doesn't mean anything regarding your personality or if you're a good person or not. That's just a preference.
May 29th, 2016 8:11pm
For a scientific answer, there are biological and environmental factors at work. For example, the hormones you're exposed to as a baby would be an environmental one.
May 29th, 2016 11:11pm
There is no reason that's just how you were born, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Be yourself and surround your self with supporters
June 1st, 2016 8:32pm
You have your own preferences as a unique human being, that's why! :) Although you could think you were born that way or that you made yourself that way, it's just one more thing that makes you who you are. The reason doesn't much matter. It's just who you are.
June 2nd, 2016 1:41am
It's a natural thing! Not everything can be explained, and sexuality is one of them. You can try 7 cups' guidelines for the LGBTQ+ Hotline.
June 2nd, 2016 6:39am
Because just like a straight person, it is just how you were born. The fact that you are gay is just one of many things about you.
June 2nd, 2016 8:12am
Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a way you were born. Being born LGBTQ+ is nothing to be ashamed of. I was born bisexual and transgender. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Learn to be proud, even if those around you are putting you down. Love yourself as you are.
June 2nd, 2016 10:27pm
you're gay because you were born that way. there's nothing bad with being gay and you deserve to be treated just like any other heterosexual. you serve it all just like them!
June 3rd, 2016 12:35pm
It's not really a choice to be gay. Everyone is different in their own way and it's ok to be gay there is nothing wrong with it.
June 4th, 2016 2:32pm
Being gay is not a flaw. It makes you unique among many people. No one can choose to be gay or not. It is a blessing given by god...
June 5th, 2016 4:51am
I am Bi because I like girls and boys. I can be whoever I want to be. Not pretend to not be me. ::::
June 5th, 2016 10:50pm
There's no reason exactly to "why." You love who you love and there's nothing wrong to that. You are amazing the way you are!
June 8th, 2016 10:54am
You're gay because you have a sexual attraction to men. Nothing wrong with it! being gay is fine!!!.
June 9th, 2016 8:39am
I think it depends on the situation. Some people are born that way and some people have tendencies to be like that and the environment they were born in took a big part on that. Either way, sexuality isn't something you can control so it's not you're fault that you're gay.
June 9th, 2016 2:11pm
Your sexual orientation is something you are born with and there`s nothing to be ashamed of.Embrace it.
June 9th, 2016 6:09pm
You are gay because you were born like that. Because you were made to like boys/girls. You are gay because you are you.
June 10th, 2016 3:32pm
Because I am following my heart. I wasn't born this way but merely fulfilling what my heart wants me to do.
June 11th, 2016 1:56pm
No one is sure why people have the sexualities they do. You're a construction of many things, genes and the environment you've grown up in as two of the many factors - and no one knows for sure what causes sexuality. No matter what, every sexuality is valid and every sexuality should be accepted.
June 12th, 2016 5:30am
There is no why. You just are. Being gay isn't a choice, you were just born the way you were. Being gay is okay.
June 12th, 2016 6:17am
You're gay because you are. There's nothing reason to it, and there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, we just are how we are, and that's totally okay.
June 12th, 2016 6:26am
There is no reason as to why you are gay... You just are! It's like asking, why do I like painting? why do I like looking at trees? You just do! :)
June 14th, 2016 3:24am
I am gay because it is the way the universe made me to be. I fully believe that human beings are born with their sexual orientation already in place. I discovered mine through experimentation, being gay is nothing to be seen as bad or wrong for any reason.
June 15th, 2016 8:08am
I don't think there's really a why or an answer to this question; you just feel what you feel and if you are romantically and/or sexually attracted to the same sex/gender, then that's just that. I've always believed that love is love and your feelings are valid, be it with the same sex or the opposite or both or none, it shouldn't make it any more or less valid no matter the gender/sex.
June 16th, 2016 8:36am
You are born that way :) And it's quite normal and natural. Over 1500 animal species exhibit homosexuality and therefore, it is quite natural. There are various part answers that indicate hormone levels during gestation (embryonic development) create these conditions, and suggestions that environmental factors can facilitate the expression of homosexuality. There is no definitive answer. One thing that can be said definitively is that there is no particular gay gene - the complex of genetic factors that plays into sexual orientation is certainly polygenic (a collection of genes responsible for the expression of a trait).