Why do I have to constantly prove to people im Bi?

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ArtChoosestheArtist
March 4th, 2015 8:25am
It's true that many people straight and gay alike will try to convince a bi person that they are either gay or straight. The truth is that no one knows whether you are or not, other than yourself, and why try to prove it? In my experience, people generally stick to what they believe, and it's given me peace to let go and allow them to believe what they want, all the while knowing what my own truth is.
low
April 13th, 2015 2:37pm
Some people don't understand what it is to be bisexual. They don't know how someone could like both men and women and they feel the need to question that.
MonBon
April 22nd, 2015 10:45pm
People tend to have a preoccupation with your "present" situation. If you're with the same sex, you're homosexual; with the opposite sex, heterosexual. This is problematic since this leads to bi erasure and leaves you feeling like you have to prove that you like both, even if you haven't dated at all or only dated one gender. Your sexuality is valid.
LilyFlowers
May 6th, 2015 3:23am
Because people want to taunt you and be mean. Just ignore those people. Ignorance shouldn't be responded to. It does no good.
HelpingHand17
July 20th, 2015 10:38am
You don't. I am bisexual and open about it and there is nothing to prove. If you tell someone and there response is, "prove it" then that is all about them and has nothing to do with you.
greenJOHN1971
November 25th, 2015 6:29pm
People just love to put people in one category or another. It's just human nature. This sounds like something that could be really annoying to have to deal with all the time. What do your friends say?
PhoenixB
December 15th, 2015 6:37pm
You don't have to. Maybe because they don't believe you, but that's inappropriate. Whoever you tell should believe you. But you can always just say, "No. I'm Bi, and I don't need to prove it to you because I'm telling you now that I am."
lovelybeans
August 29th, 2016 6:13pm
Sadly because people think that bi is a made up thing so you always have to prove to people that it's real
LeonMcLion
September 4th, 2016 2:33pm
There has been a lot of misunderstanding between being gay/lesbian and being bi that there are times when you tell people that they are Bi they would normally ask you what it is and how does it work. Just feel free to feed the curiosity of other people and don't be enraged when they don't completely get the idea and understand that they do not know what it's like to be one.
SpreadYourWingsAndLearnToFly
October 25th, 2016 4:36pm
The answer is....you don't! It's either believe it with your own eyes or not! A good example of this is with those who believe in God. They believe in something they never saw before by writing or conversations, or there are others that don't believe because it isn't "proven enough" to them. You can feel free stating you are Bi, but proving it every time is just annoying for you I see, and therefore you are just coming across ignorant fellows. :)
wiseraven91
November 28th, 2016 12:57am
Being Bisexual, even in the LGBTQ+ community, is often seen as "not picking a side" or "being confused" and often people do not believe it because they do not understand the fluidity in their own sexuality. This being said you should never feel like you have to prove anything to anyone regarding your sexuality or orientation.
FromDrewWithLove
February 27th, 2018 7:06pm
People who only experience attraction to one gender can find it a little hard to understand that some people like more than one gender. There's also the misconception that bisexuality is a phase due to people experimenting with their sexuality usually adopting the bisexual label. Sometimes the label fits, sometimes they end up going back to the straight label or going to the gay label. For those who don't understand how someone could like more than one gender, they may believe it's made up because it doesn't fit their frame of logic. There are a lot of misconceptions around being bisexual, so sadly many have to constantly prove themselves about it.
Beautifuldreamer98
June 12th, 2018 12:53pm
You dont. You are free to be whoever you want to be and you dont have to prove anything to anyone other than yourself.