Why do we have to label our relationship?
Last Updated: 06/23/2020 at 9:30am
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I believe that people have to label their relationship to make clear boundaries and goals for one another and as a whole.
You do not have to label your relationship at all. It is something between you and the other person (or people). Therefore, if both (or all) of you agree that labels is something you do not get behind, that's perfectly fine.
You don't have to. For some reason society has grown on the idea of 'labeling' everthing/one. Do whatever makes you happy, and ignore the hatters (they just don't understand).
I don't think you need to. You can choose to explain your relationship, or not explain it, however you would like. Society likes boxes though, even though those boxes have become more and more numerous lately, so there is indeed a pressure on people to label themselves and their relationships. It can sometimes help to clarify expectations and rules and such, but... it is not needed. I'd do whatever feels comfortable and works best for you.
You dont always have to label a relationship! It does seem that way, as society and peers do sometimes add pressure to the fact that you have to have a "label", but you dont. As long as you and your other are happy, there's no need for a label until you're both ready for that. :)
Labeling your relationship really helps people connect with you. That's the goal. To have people connect with you
I wouldn't say you HAVE to but in my opinion labels helps, it allows us to feel like we can "fit in". Labeling a relationship can help clarify the expectations of each party involved and make sure you are both on the same page. If you feel more comfortable not using an existing label make one or simply don't do it...but its important to communicate with your partner(s) and make sure they are clear on what your relationship means to you and to them
For some people, labeling a relationship can help them feel more secure, because they know what to expect from their interactions with the other person. Not everyone prefers to label a relationship though, and whether to do so or not is up to you and the other person involved. What's important is that you two are both open and honest about what you expect and need out of this relationship, and that this communication remains open.
There shouldn't always be a constant need to bring out the label maker machine to give a title to what two people share. Sometimes it's magical, at times trying, and others fulfilling beyond our expectations. Yet, we don't always need to be firm about what something is or isn't. It can be nice to simply appreciate what someone brings into our lives, without an expectation of status or structure. It is hard for some, to adjust to the idea that the experience is more important than the title or role in which someone plays. I believe that in our early lives we are taught that we MUST establish a specific role, a responsibility, and title signifies what things mean between two people. However, as you get older, you come to realize that people come into your life for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it’s to teach you something new either about them, the world around you, or even yourself. Others come into your life briefly, for specific experiences, and then there are some that come to your life and stay long term. You can cherish ALL of those experiences, and without the label maker.
Of course, each relationship and personal experience is different and has different needs. With that said, I will say that if you and your partner (or partners) are comfortable with not labeling the relationship, that is often a very valid decision! Labels can sometimes be useful, but they can also sometimes be harmful or hurtful. It is important to have an open talk and communicate, to share your feelings about not wanting to have a label on the relationship. If you can share this, perhaps the other person can share their own feelings as well - and if the pressure to label the relationship is coming from them, you can reach a compromise.
Some people can get confused about how serious or committed their partner is to them, so putting a label is like a "security feature", where both people feel comfortable with that label. Humans naturally need to define or understand things, and this is just part of that need. Sometimes, however, labels cause extra stress on the relationship when one partner is not comfortable with it. When both parties are secure in themselves and have a strong trust foundation, then both can feel comfortable with or without a label.
Labels can make it easier for people to understand and explain but you don't have to :) Just do what makes you happy :)
Some people like to label their relationship so that they know where they stand. But honestly you don't have to, it's completely up to you.
You don't have to. Labeling it may not make it a sure thing. If you feel more comfortable just knowing, and not naming, it could be better for everyone involved by taking pressure away.
I don't think you necessarily have to label it. I think you could choose to label it however you'd like, or not label it at all.
You don't have to, it offers some people security though if they want to feel like you won't sleep with other people and labels help do that
As humans we tend you label everything we see. The sky is blue. That is a black car. Unfortunately that seems to creep over into our relationships and emotions sometimes. No you don't have to label relationships. As long as you and the other person feel comfortable there's no need to put a label on anything.
You don't have to at all. Sometimes you can feel pressured to name and label things which in reality don't need labelling. If you want to, do it, sometimes it can be helpful but it's not always necessary/the right thing to do.
Labels help us understand things and communicate them to others, but they are non necessario if they don't feel comfortable. In fact you can even use multiple labels or none, it's up to you to decide what describes the situation best. Remember, if someone is pressuring you to label your relationship, it's not respectful of you and you still have the freedom to decide autonomously.
For cultural reasons, mainly. We've been told that everything needs to fit a specific category, because society is obsessed with categories and order. But reality is broader than that. Every person lives their own unique experience, and it's ok if it doesn't fit any fixed, pre-established category. You can just live your life and be happy, labels are only there to be used if it's comfortable for you, otherwise they're not necessary.
We tend to feel more comfortable if we label things. Labels help us identify the nature of our relationships. If you feel more comfortable not labelling your relationships, that's ok! You don't have to label it then! It is important to keep in mind that there are other people in the relationship as well and that they may feel the need to label the relationship. Communication is important and transparency is key. Be honest and accepting. People not involved in the relationship may still label it, but it's not their relationship and none of their business. Do whatever you feel comfortable with!
Hello there! Labeling is a part of communication that we can't get rid of. People started creating words to understand better what was around them. They saw a flower and decided that they would call it a flower, so when someone want to mention a flower they would be able to do so. Relationships are the same. They are not objects and we can't touch them, but we have to put labels on them to be sure that you and your partner are moving in one direction, and that you and your partner are in the same level of relationship development. Labels in such things also can help us to be sure in our partner because now, after we put a label on it, this "it-i-am-not-sure-what-exactly" became something more. It became something understandable.
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