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Why does everyone hate me just because of my sexuality?

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Last Updated: 01/07/2020 at 8:22am
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Top Rated Answers
LunaHymn16
August 4th, 2015 12:07am
Hi, there. People tend to hate what they don't understand or what's different from the norm. The reason for this being is that at the root of this hate is actually fear. Rather, humans tend to fear what they don't understand. Do not let this ignorance stop you from being yourself and living your life authentically.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2015 4:24am
A lot of people are scared of other people that are different from them. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, and it doesn't always mean that they are bad people. Sometimes when a person doesn't understand something, they automatically decide it's wrong. Not to defend bullies, but sometimes that's the reason behind it. But remember that you're beautiful and perfect, just the way you are. Your value doesn't go down depending on another person's opinion of you.
bestShiny84
June 9th, 2015 6:28am
Unfortunately, people's natural response to things they don't understand or are not used to is hate. If you ask me, all of this is due to a lack of understanding, and an excess of stereotypes. A person's sexuality is in no way a reason to hate him/ her (and it is definitely not a reason for you to hate yourself!).
Sandwichdann
June 10th, 2015 9:42pm
Because people are jealous you know what you are and happy with it. You should not pay attention to them, and be happy with your choice.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2015 6:29pm
As a member of the LGBTQ community myself I have experienced some negative feedback because of my sexuality or my perceived sexuality. I can see from your question that you have people in your life that may not be supportive of your sexuality. There are people in the world for who your sexuality is not an issue. What ever the reason for people giving off negative vibes; one important thing to remember is that it is not your fault.
Specialrain
November 2nd, 2015 8:14pm
Some people are raised on their parents values and beliefs and therefore often don't have their own, you have nothing to feel bad about because everyone is different and everyone is unique.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
September 2nd, 2019 12:16pm
That's due to socially transmitted prejudice and intolerance. The only way to fight it is spreading knowledge and familiarity with the LGBT realities, trying to create a more inclusive environment. It's also important to surround yourself with supportive people, that you can find both in the LGBT community and elsewhere. You don't need to keep intolerant people in your life, it is your right to let go of those who don't accept you.
WesternCanada1
March 29th, 2015 6:40am
" everyone hates you" is something really extreme. I finf it vey unlikely that everyone ates you, let alone because of your sexuality. Try to find people who share the same sexual identity you have. Then, you will find out you are not alone. Then, decide who should be your friend or not.
Allen39
May 4th, 2015 5:52am
Some people are bigoted. It's not your fault and you can't control it, so don't beat yourself up over it! Simply do your best to ignore the ones who dislike you and hang out with people who accept you the way you are. Oh, and keep being fabulous!
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 5:25pm
You know, for society, the whole world of different sexualities is still new, and people don't understand that we don't have a choice over what we feel... But don't let them get to you. What really matters is that you're happy, and the real friends and the people that really love you won't hate you for something that's a part of you...
slowlifeenjoy
October 24th, 2016 3:02am
Because you and them are not sexuality same ...they prefer you to be same sexuality with them... ...
Lily5
January 9th, 2017 1:27am
If someone hates you because of something you can't help, their opinion isn't worth anything. But as for reasons why, they've probably been taught homophobia all their life and are just ignorant and don't want to listen to reason due to cognitive dissonance.
niceParadise50
March 27th, 2017 7:21am
Because society sucks. They think that you choose to be who you are, that you can choose to like boys, girls, and more, that you can choose to be a boy when you were born a "girl" or a girl when born a "boy", that you're a 'freak' if you do not identify with binary genders or if you identify with both and a bit more. Society just sucks.
EIise
April 24th, 2017 7:15pm
Some people are scared of people "different" from that they now. The society is quite heteronormative, and unfortunatly too many people still think that not being straight is a sin a I don't what bullshit... Whatever your sexuality, you're a human being like every one else here, including people hating you, there're just stupider than the others :) And remember; not everyone is hating your because of your sexuality. I don't hate you. I don't even know you but I'm sure you're an amazing person ♥ Don't listen to the others.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2017 3:42pm
First of all, no one hates you. They are acting differently because, to them, it is not an everday thing. Also, many people who believe that not being straight is a sin had that drilled into their minds from the young age, and those people should be ignored
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 4:43am
They do not hate you, they do not understand you and it freaks them out. People are afraid of what they do not understand.
Ganimed
January 29th, 2018 10:49pm
Mostly olders are learned back in their time that being gay or trans is something to be ashamed of, so they may act hateful or seem hateful because their society back then learned them about it. Thankfully we're going to a world where lgbtq+ people will be fully accepted although sadly there are still people that will be mean towards lgbtq+ people, whether because of ignorance, or that person really doesn't appreciate diversities.
hawaiiangremlin
January 7th, 2020 8:22am
People don't hate you because of your sexuality, they are simply uncomfortable when forced to face their own. People tend to push things away that bother them or scare them into thinking about complicated and sensitive topics, such as sexuality. Sexuality is a complex thing with many factors and emotions playing into it. Everyone is different, maybe some people just find it harder to confront than others, so they avoid you. Or perhaps, people are simply filled with hatred from time to time. Some people are out to make the world a worse place, delete the toxic ones from your life the best you can and don't give them the benefit of letting them bring you down.