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Will people see me differently because of my sexual orientation?

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Last Updated: 07/09/2019 at 8:12am
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Top Rated Answers
ams96
January 9th, 2015 10:58pm
Those who truly accept who you are will think no differently of you. Just remember you are you, and there is nothing wrong with that. :)
bunnyofdarkness
April 1st, 2015 4:27pm
Some people may see you differently, that is unfortunately how life goes. Hopefully though, people will quickly realise that you are still you and your sexuality is only one aspect of that.
AriAri
June 7th, 2015 12:20pm
The harsh truth is yes. No everyone will see you differently but people will. There's obviously the negative views held by some people which needs no further explaining in my opinion. However you may be seen differently but in a positive way. In experience coming out and having others around me come out we all saw each other as closer, it was a sign for all of us that we genuinely trust each other. I was seen differently, yes, but I was seen as more confident, honest and trusting.
generousSpace17
July 7th, 2015 1:51am
yes, but the people that see you in a more negative light are not the people you need in your life. They are draining and awful, trust me.
Waterbear
August 3rd, 2015 2:08am
Some people will, and some people won't. It depends partly on where you live and how you act and dress. I was surprised at how many people didn't care.
JayBird8000
September 15th, 2015 3:20am
Truthfully, yes. Some people will. But the people who do tend to not be people worth your time anyway. If they're someone truly worth your time, they won't mind & will treat you just the same. Remember your sexuality doesn't effect anyone, & is your sexuality, no one elses. No one can tell you what you are and are not.
glowingpeace18339
September 16th, 2015 11:43am
They might, it really depends on the person. They won't see you in general being that different, most likely. They'll still see your personality and that won't change. But they might see you different only because they now know who you're attracted to. This might differ depending on religion, view, and understanding.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:54pm
Some people may see you differently because of your sexual orientation, but the people who do see you differently are not the people to be hanging around. Hang out with he people who see you the same no matter what your sexual orientation is.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 5:37am
some people will always nitpick and find something or the other to criticize.. so don't worry about it.. just be true to yourself and do what makes you happy
SockMonkey25
December 21st, 2015 5:40pm
Some people may look at you differently, but it doesn't mean that you have changed. They know something about you that they didn't see before, and now they know a little bit more about who you are as a whole person. Relationships involve risk, but the people who truly love you will not stop loving you because of your orientation.
Miranda1999
December 28th, 2015 1:41pm
I think some people might see you in a different light sexually but would they see you as a different person I don't think so your the same person you were before they knew your sexual orientation and the Same person you have always been :)
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 1:42pm
Sadly, some people will. I can't really say it doesn't get to you, because sometimes it can get a little overbearing. But bear in mind that there are also a ton of people that will not see you differently :)
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 5:38am
In my experience, at first yes. People sometimes have a habit of categorising the people in their lives. So when they learn of your sexual orientation there might be confusion, you might not be fitting in with the image or assumptions they have in their head. And that is just for them to deal with while you continue to be amazing.
SupportiveSliceOfPie
February 1st, 2016 10:37pm
Yes, but not necessarily in a bad way. There are people who are homophobic and will tease you or make fun of you in some ways, but not everyone will do so! There will always be people who will listen and support you. Remember, having a different sexual orientation isn't a bad thing.
Theleavesinmay
February 9th, 2016 6:34am
Some people might be shocked, and some may not be sure how to feel. Some people might come off as angry, but usually that's surprise and confusion. Some people might leave your life. But the people who matter won't care-they'll be really happy for you! And, regardless of how anyone else sees you, you should know that it's absolutely no body's business who you're attracted to, what you do with that person and how you want to live ^^
comfortingNarwhal67
March 14th, 2016 4:40am
Will people see you differently because you may be a lesbian, gay, transsexual, or any other sexual orientation? Of course! They may see you as what you identify you as instead of what you appear to be, they may see you as weird, different, or in some cases an abomination, but remember it is more important to be comfortable in your own skin than what other people thing of you.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 2:17pm
maybe, maybe not. people are different. maybe someone will accept you, and maybe someone won't understand. but what you should remember, if people does not accept you, just shake it off. as long as you are happy, their comments don't mean anything.
Rogue1234
June 14th, 2016 12:33am
The sad truth is most people will. You need to meet people that wont, and who will like you for you
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 1:35am
It depends on the person. If you surround yourself with positive and good people, they might be surprised at first, but welcoming! Good Luck!!
JustNerdy16
August 22nd, 2016 3:11am
It depends on the person; when I came out to my friends it wasn't that big of a deal because they saw it as okay and many of them were lgbt as well, but I know if I came out to my parents they would see me differently. There's no one answer fits all, it depends on you, the other person, and your relationship with them.
freefromworries
November 7th, 2016 1:51pm
I wish I could tell you no, but that might not always be true. The world is changing though, and it seems to be less and less of a problem. A lot of people are accepting, but there are some who do not believe in anything other than heterosexuality. It all depends on the person, honestly, and I'm sorry about that. But you are not different or abnormal because of your sexual orientation. Just be you, and don't be ashamed of it.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2017 5:15am
The short answer is yes. People will see you differently when you come out. However, that is not always a bad thing. Some people will judge you, some people won't like it. Not everyone in the world is going to agree with you. That being said you deserve to be treated with respect no matter what. They don't have to accept you but you should require tolerance. Only come out if you feel safe, being in the closet does not mean you are ashamed of yourself. There will be people who see you as strong and brave. They will see that you have accepted yourself, because once you accept yourself it really won't matter how anyone else sees you.
MomFriend7
November 21st, 2017 9:55pm
I’d like to say no as that’s the humane answer, but as someone who is LGBT+ I can say minimal people have looked at me differently. It’s a very, very slim percentage although there’s the occasional lack of understanding. It is always possible to change the views of someone, if they saw you as a valuable person before- they surely still will now.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 4:37am
Well, they might. I've only come out to 2 people outside of website like this. Both of those people took it well and only treat me a little different (like asking about any cute girls on top of asking about boys). But i know that other people's experiences have been very different. It depends on the person you come out to. Some people will freak out but others will just shrug and say okay. You don't need to come out all at once, or at all if you aren't comfortable with it. Hopefully the people around you will still be good to you
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2018 7:30am
It depends on the individual. Many of them support them wholeheartedly. Some of them don’t. Here at 7cups, no one will see you differently. We are a group of compassionate people who care and want to help. No one should ever be in a closet. It gets toxic sometimes. And I understand why people do that. They are still a bunch of people who don’t support us. So it’s everyone’s different approach to the perspective. But in the end, I’d like to say that everyone deserves to love and to be loved. No matter your preference. Love is love.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+
July 9th, 2019 8:12am
There are some close-minded people who will, and some open-minded people who will not. In the middle stand all those people who are not intentionally mean towards LGBT people but simply have passively internalized social stereotypes. But some of them could be willing to learn and open their mind, if you open up to them and explain what it really means to be like you. Ultimately, the people who truly matter are those who will stand by your side. If someone isn't tolerant enough to accept you for who you are, then perhaps you're better off with more open-minded people: the opinion of intolerants doesn't really matter, the problem is in their perspective, not in you.