I identify neither male or Female not sure if i am nonbinary genderqueer Neutrois or Agender. But I am Also Into Girls am I still Lesbian even if I don't identify as a Gender?
Last Updated: 04/21/2020 at 9:07pm
Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
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If you sometimes identify as one gender and sometimes another, you are likely non-binary. If you never identify as female or male or any gender in particular, that would make you agender! Being agender might make it more difficult to choose a label for your sexual orientation. You might want to choose no label at all, which is perfectly fine! Or if you prefer to use one, the choice is up to you. You can say you are a lesbian if you are biologically female, if you want to make it easier to explain your orientation to other people.
If you don’t identify at all more strongly with male or female, it is perfectly acceptable to call yourself a lesbian. Others I know personally use that to simply explain the gender they are attracted to, rather than their own gender. However, a common term used by non-binary people who are attracted only to females is “gynesexual” (or “womasexual” as some have started calling it, to avoid using language that is based on the biological sex only). Either of these are acceptable, but if you’re looking for a term that implies you do not fit within the gender binary, gynesexual would be better.
Sexuality is as fluid as gender can be. While labels have helped communities unite and fight for their rights, are a source of comfort and give some a sense of belonging; they shouldn't be restrictive. "You are the expert on you" is one of the things that we always say here in 7 Cups. Choose whatever you feel makes the most sense to you. It may stick, it may not but you know yourself best and no one can claim otherwise. Whatever you choose is valid (even if you change your mind a 100 times or end up not choosing anything).
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