After coming out as gay, did anyone else start to second guess their sexuality?
Last Updated: 04/26/2021 at 3:01pm
Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)
Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.
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For a hot second, yes. Perhaps because I felt by saying it out loud, I had cemented it as absolute FACT, and there was no going back to what people previously perceived of me, that I was now destined to a life as 'the lesbian friend/daughter/family/etc.'.
Its great you came out to the world that is something alot of people struggle with! lets take a second to make it known that i think you are a rockstar ! anyways the world can be a confusing world and sometimes people get confused ! its okay to second geuss yourself take some time to yourself its completley normal in the end you will know in your heart what you sexuality is! its no rush to know what you like right away you are who your are and no matter what no one can tell you how you feel so just give yourself time dont ever let anyone tell you who you are and be who you truly are with all the confidence in the world i am rooting for you!
It's something that happens sometimes, particularly if people around you keep doubting your identity and trying to make you believe that's not who you are or who you should be. First, it's important to ask yourself why you are feeling this insecurity, and then work on the reasons. If other people are making you doubt, remember that you're the only one who truly know how you feel, they can't know you better than you know yourself! If you realize you're feeling things that you didn't notice before, though, it's ok for you to keep questioning until you're entirely sure how you feel. Feel free to take all the time you need, what truly matters is that you feel comfortable with the way you identify yourself, whatever it is!
Yes, I came out as Bisexual a few months ago and afterwards I questioned whether I actually was or wasn't, but then I realized I was just embarrassed to say it because nobody around me was Bisexual. Having a friend that is also the same sexuality as yourself can help you be not as scared to express yourself, not only with that person, but your family and friends.
this happened to me to so you’re certainly not alone! For me, I had built it up in my head to be a massive thing and so when I came out and realised it wasn’t, those lack of intense feelings turned into doubt instead. Also, committing to a label can be very daunting and almost suffocating - remember it is always okay to change your mind on who you are. You don’t have to have worked it out completely! For me, I remembered that a lot of my straight friends would be attracted to girls but still know they were heterosexual which helped me understand that even though I may find a few boys good looking, I don’t need to doubt who I am!
Sexuality can be fluid and it can change over time. At one point of time you could feel like you're bisexual person but later in life you could feel like a homosexual person, or the other way round.
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