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Am I really who I want to be?

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June 7th, 2015 10:20am
That's a question we all ask ourselves. Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money.Here’s the truth. We exist on this earth for some undetermined period of time. During that time we do things. Some of these things are important. Some of them are unimportant. And those important things give our lives meaning and happiness. The unimportant ones basically just kill time. You still have a lot of time to make yourself what you want.
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November 27th, 2014 1:17am
Up to you! Identity is a complicated subject. We continue to change and alter our identities throughout our lives, sometimes intentionally and other times not. Change is the one thing you can always count on. There may be things about your identity you don't like and want to change. You may have an ultimate goal you'd like to reach. Only you can answer that. Just don't forget what you do like about you. Promoting the positive will always be easier than erasing the negative. Whoever and however you are, you are worthy of love. So don't forget to give yourself some.
November 27th, 2014 3:34am
The best thing about "who you want to be" is that just like you, it isn't static! Who you want to be changes over time. It means that you're a human being and you are alive. If you want to be someone else, then you absolutely have the power to make whatever changes necessary in your life to become that other person.
November 29th, 2014 8:39am
Only you can answer that! You might find journaling or making a list can help you figure that out. What do you want to do with your life? What activities do you want to do? What job? What hobbies? Who do you want to hang out with? What kind of people? How many? How often? What do you admire in a person? What personality traits do you want to have? Questions like this can let you know what you want your life and yourself to be like. Then you can ask yourself where you currently are on those questions and see how you match up.
December 7th, 2014 10:14am
If you are happy with who you are, then yes. But if you are unhappy with who you are no. If you are unsure, there is a possibility that you feel there is something else missing in your life. Try and discover what that something is, if that is your situation. Good luck :)
December 22nd, 2014 1:09am
that's just up to you. do you like where you are? do you have what you want? are you happy? if yes to all of those then yes you are.
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August 26th, 2019 12:24pm
It's a question that can only be answered with more questions: are you happy with what you have? Is there something more or something different that you desire? What is making you ask this question? Is something holding you back from pursuing your dreams and wishes? Only by asking yourself these questions and answering honestly you'll know the truth. Just remember that who you want to be has nothing to do with who other people want you to be.
November 27th, 2014 3:39am
Yes! And no. We live to get closer and closer to who we want to be, but if we ever got there, we'd be done, and then what would we do? We live to continuously improve; we can and should accept ourselves in the moment, but there's always something we can do better, and we should never be fully content when there's so much more to do and learn and see.
December 4th, 2014 1:22am
The only person who can answer that is yourself. You decide who you want to be based on your passions, interests, morals, and so much more. If you answer no, ask yourself why you aren't who you want to be.
December 7th, 2014 11:19pm
Being who you want to be is finding out what comfortably identifies you as a person. It may be many things, or you may not choose labels and it could be nothing at all.
January 7th, 2015 4:39pm
Only you can answer that question, no one else but you know who you want to be. It's hard sometimes to find out, but try to think about situations in life and ask yourself about your opinion about it, what do you like? How do you react to this? Is this what you want to do? And so on...
June 22nd, 2015 1:41pm
you can be anyone you want ! if your having issue with you gender identify, feel free to jump on and have a chat to me
July 6th, 2015 4:58am
We live life to discover ourselves and create our own stories. Only you will know who you want to be when the time is right.
November 23rd, 2015 12:29am
Only you can answer that question. Think about it for a while. Remember, be who you want to be. Be yourself.
December 15th, 2015 6:43pm
I don't know. Are you? Whoever you are, if you feel uncomfortable or unsatisfied, I believe you should try to find out why. It seems like you want to be who you want to be :) so you should be that person. Be who you want to be. If it's going to make you happy, you should go with it.
January 26th, 2016 2:27am
Some people always knows what they want to be and achieve it, while others needs to try out where their at to be sure. Whichever the way as long as you are happy where you are and your always looking to move forward that is a good sign.
February 11th, 2016 4:55pm
Every one wants to be content .Contentment is the goal of life . Whatever we are now or want to be are just commas.
February 17th, 2016 2:13am
I think this question has two questions. One is who you want to be and who do you think you are now? A good way to look at it is to see who you admired. What qualities do you admired in those people? These qualities can give you clues to who you are because they reflected back what you value in you. Whether or not you express them now or it is hidden within you.
February 23rd, 2016 5:15pm
a person who makes a difference in someones life, and brings happiness and joy through drawings art, and words.
September 25th, 2017 10:23pm
Only you can answer this question. I can recommend sitting down with a pen and some paper and writing for a bit, just to get all your thoughts where you can see them. But do not worry if you are not who you want to be; you are in control, so you can change who you are - although do be aware that nobody can ever be perfect.
April 30th, 2018 11:11pm
I think that this is a question that only you can answer. Listen to your heart and don't let others change how you want to live.
April 5th, 2021 12:59am
Unfortunately, I haven't really become who I want to be. I really wish I can help others while living at ease when I am on myself. I have found these two goals to be conflicting. I try my best to help others, but that often make me feel uncomfortable since my needs aren't met. Family stress and school work are also factors that I need to cope with on my way of becoming who I want to be. One other problem is that I haven't found a clear direction in life, which is making it hard for me to even start working to become the person I want to be. So my most immediate step is going to be finding short term and long term goals.