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Are lesbians less likely to date a bisexual girl?

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May 2nd, 2017 7:37am
I'm a lesbian, and I honestly would prefer to date other lesbians. I have no problem with bisexual gals, do what you will and love who you want-but that's just me. I would prefer to date someone who is strictly with women, and I have no reason, it's just my preference, lol. But much love to everyone; this is in no way me trying to bash any bisexual people out there either. Love all.
May 24th, 2015 5:09pm
I think that lesbians tend to relate and socialize better with girls they can identify with. That's not to say that they wouldn't date a bisexual woman. A lesbians experiences differ some from that of a bisexual, so they may take more comfort in sharing those life experiences with someone similar.
April 23rd, 2015 11:10pm
It depends on the person. Unfortunately, bisexuals experience discrimination on both sides and some individuals don't want to be with someone who has been "soiled by the other gender." In my opinion, though, anyone who would choose to demean your worth based off of your sexual history is a person who does not deserve you.
April 11th, 2015 5:13pm
Yes. Some lesbians tend to fear that bisexual women will cheat on them or leave them for a man due to their "indecisiveness"
April 30th, 2015 4:17pm
I think this really depends, I think there is a stereotype about lesbians not dating bisexuals, but I think it makes very little difference. I think this whole idea springs from the stereotypes about bisexual women ("they are all sluts", "they want to sleep with everyone", "they will cheat on you with someone of the opposite gender") which we know are nonsense. However I think this makes lesbian women less likely to have a casual relationship with an openly bisexual woman. There is also the fear that the bisexual woman will turn out just to have been experimenting, or will take the "easier" route of dating a man so she doesn't have to deal with criticism. That being said it does happen, personally as a mostly lesbian identifying woman I have been happily dating the same bisexual woman for nearly 5 years so I can assure you it does happen :) Hope that helps! Feel free to get in touch if you want to talk.
April 9th, 2015 2:29pm
As a bisexual myself i do think that some lesbians don't want to go out with us because we have been with guys where as they have only been with girls.
July 13th, 2015 2:21am
based on what i've heard, yes. from my experience, i would not care if the person was bi, pan, poly, or gay. i would date them if they made me feel loved, that's what is important in a relationship
November 6th, 2015 3:25am
Just as no two heterosexual women are alike, no two lesbians are alike either, which means there isn't a yes or no answer to this question. I have dated women who were bisexual before but honestly I was concerned about contracting STD's from them more so than I've ever been with a woman who only sleeps with women. That's not to say lesbians can't transmit STD's to each other, because they can, but there's a greater likelihood if you're dating a woman who has unprotected sex with men. But then again, I've also dated a lot of straight girls too and had the same fear. Generally speaking, lesbians love women. So if a connection is made between the two women, anything is possible and in my case I don't use sexual attraction to men as a rule-out.
December 18th, 2017 3:17pm
Lesbians are to date whomever they choose. Whether it be a bisexual female, a trans female, or any other female, it is.their preference, their choice, their label and they are still valid.
April 24th, 2015 1:39am
Sometimes, yes. Most lesbians have the fear that a bisexual girl will leave them for a guy. Though that is merely a stereotype.
August 4th, 2015 1:56am
Yes. Many lesbians are biphobic and see bisexual women as "on the fence," "tourists," "sleeping with the enemy," "just going through a phase," etc. It's more common in the older generations and among second-wave feminists, though.
August 31st, 2015 11:35pm
Yes, as a bisexual I know that, since I have been turned down and even ditched (lmao) because of my sexuality, and since " I cant make up my mind". fun fact i would most likely date a bisexual girl
May 3rd, 2016 1:31pm
Sometimes yes. A lot of the time lesbians and gays discriminate against bisexuals because they see them as fake but you must overcome that and not let it bother you.
March 6th, 2018 1:12am
As a bisexual girl myself, I’d really hope not, however I can’t speak for lesbians! Honestly I can’t think of any reasons they’d not but I guess it’s all personal preference in the end
February 15th, 2015 2:43pm
Not at all. There is no research that shows statistically that lesbians are less likely to date bisexual girls. Both parties date whoever they want :-)
November 3rd, 2015 3:10pm
it really depends on the person x If they love each other then nothing else would matter or come in the way :) Some lesbians may prefer to date other lesbians, but its just the same in my opinion to bate a bisexual x Bisexuals like both boys and girls, and there are a lot of stereotypes about both bisexuals and lesbians, but you shouldn't listen to it xx :)
November 12th, 2015 2:30pm
It's about the individual, really. Bisexuals sometimes tend to be viewed as "cheaters" or not "legit". Unfortunately, there are cases of discrimination even within the LGBTQ+ community. However, when it comes to a specific person, they should like you because of who you are and not because of a label on your sexual orientation.
November 27th, 2015 7:51pm
Unfortunately there is a lot of bi phobia in the LGBTQ+ community. So some lesbians and others may have internalized stigma and stereotypes against bi people. However I can say from a personal standpoint as a lesbian that I am no less likely to date a bisexual girl. There isn't one answer from the lesbian community as you can see, as no one person speaks for everyone. However lesbians like women, bi women are women, and so using someone's sexual orientation as a reason not to date them is internalized bi phobia.
April 11th, 2016 2:28am
Not exactly, lesbian girls will date a bisexual girl if the bisexual girl is interested in them and if they are interested in that girl, it all depends on how they feel not on the others sexual orientation
August 11th, 2015 5:59pm
Well................... it matters... on the lesbian........................just gotta be lucky.......
October 24th, 2015 8:31pm
I identify as lesbian and when I was younger I was less likely to date a bisexual girl. It was mainly because of the stigma attached to bisexual people as a lot of these answers refer to. But now that I am maturing I realise that the stigma is absolutely not true, and if I'm honest with you it really just does depend on the person. For example the girl could of been with a bisexual girl in the past who had cheated on them with a male, it's the same really with most sexuality's but bisexuals for some reason get targeted out.
November 8th, 2015 12:38pm
Usually they wouldn't. If they're attracted to you then they're attracted to you. I know sometimes they wouldn't like the idea of you being with a male before or after them but if they're attracted to you then that is usually the case
December 29th, 2015 4:11am
Some are, but many are not. Among my lesbian friends, it seems that the person and the connection overrules the weight that most give to the other girl's sexuality (bi vs lesbian), especially if they meet IRL instead of online.
September 20th, 2016 11:06am
No, it's all about being with the person you get the right feels with, if it makes you happy and you feel good about it, you should give it a go... I believe love shouldn't be restricted to to just opposite genders!
May 22nd, 2017 3:20am
It's all based on personal preference. I would say no but there are a few people who judge like that.
October 17th, 2017 5:27am
No, that's unlikely! Most people, especially people of the LGBTQ+ community, understand that you're valid if you're bisexual, and just because you like both genders doesn't mean that you can only date certain people, if you get what I mean.
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June 11th, 2019 9:55pm
No, when girls like each other, their orientation doesn't matter. Unless one of them has prejudice about another orientation, which unfortunately can happen sometimes but it's not that frequent, there's no obstacle for girls of different orientations to be together, if they like each other.
May 8th, 2015 3:13pm
Im not for certain, i think thats just a steriotype. If a girl like you then she likes you. People just say that, it really depends on the person.
June 30th, 2015 10:56am
I've heard this to be the case, but in my personal experience, it isn't so. My best friend is a lesbian and her last girlfriend was a bisexual girl. So I think, no, lesbians are not less likely to dare a bisexual girl.
April 15th, 2016 5:01pm
Well I suppose you could really depends on you and the person do you guys have good compatibility do you guys get along what's her personality like? When factoring these different questions and might narrow down whether you want to date her through labels really matter in the end I think it's the person and whether you get along with that it's up to you though!!